Nick Pollard (People DisPleaser)
@peopledispleaser.bsky.social
Helping people
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🔥 Your neurodivergence isn't a pass to quit on yourself.
I have ADHD. I have CPTSD. I still show up.
Here's the truth no one wants to hear: Your disorders don't disqualify you from greatness. They're just part of your story - not the ending.
I'm tired of hearing "You don't understand how hard it
I have ADHD. I have CPTSD. I still show up.
Here's the truth no one wants to hear: Your disorders don't disqualify you from greatness. They're just part of your story - not the ending.
I'm tired of hearing "You don't understand how hard it
September 26, 2025 at 8:35 PM
🔥 Your neurodivergence isn't a pass to quit on yourself.
I have ADHD. I have CPTSD. I still show up.
Here's the truth no one wants to hear: Your disorders don't disqualify you from greatness. They're just part of your story - not the ending.
I'm tired of hearing "You don't understand how hard it
I have ADHD. I have CPTSD. I still show up.
Here's the truth no one wants to hear: Your disorders don't disqualify you from greatness. They're just part of your story - not the ending.
I'm tired of hearing "You don't understand how hard it
Being seen meant being in danger.
So I spent 35 years invisible. Unremarkable. Safe.
I was so focused on making everyone like me that I lost track of who I actually was. Few real friends. Shallow connections. Just a walking people-pleasing performance.
Here's what shifted for me:
I realized I
So I spent 35 years invisible. Unremarkable. Safe.
I was so focused on making everyone like me that I lost track of who I actually was. Few real friends. Shallow connections. Just a walking people-pleasing performance.
Here's what shifted for me:
I realized I
September 25, 2025 at 8:36 PM
Being seen meant being in danger.
So I spent 35 years invisible. Unremarkable. Safe.
I was so focused on making everyone like me that I lost track of who I actually was. Few real friends. Shallow connections. Just a walking people-pleasing performance.
Here's what shifted for me:
I realized I
So I spent 35 years invisible. Unremarkable. Safe.
I was so focused on making everyone like me that I lost track of who I actually was. Few real friends. Shallow connections. Just a walking people-pleasing performance.
Here's what shifted for me:
I realized I
Setting boundaries isn’t about putting yourself first
#boundaries #peoplepleaser #motivation #stoppeoplepleasing #narcissist #npd #trauma #traumaresponse #midlifecrisis #sober #midlifecrisis #recovery #selfimage #limitingbeliefs
#boundaries #peoplepleaser #motivation #stoppeoplepleasing #narcissist #npd #trauma #traumaresponse #midlifecrisis #sober #midlifecrisis #recovery #selfimage #limitingbeliefs
September 24, 2025 at 10:35 PM
Setting boundaries isn’t about putting yourself first
#boundaries #peoplepleaser #motivation #stoppeoplepleasing #narcissist #npd #trauma #traumaresponse #midlifecrisis #sober #midlifecrisis #recovery #selfimage #limitingbeliefs
#boundaries #peoplepleaser #motivation #stoppeoplepleasing #narcissist #npd #trauma #traumaresponse #midlifecrisis #sober #midlifecrisis #recovery #selfimage #limitingbeliefs
Most people are unhappy beacuse they think they are supposed to be happy all the time, but that is just not how life works.
September 19, 2025 at 8:04 PM
Most people are unhappy beacuse they think they are supposed to be happy all the time, but that is just not how life works.
Love is easy, you just have to do it.
September 18, 2025 at 2:01 AM
Love is easy, you just have to do it.
Of course they don't like your boundaries... People hate change. |
Learn more about how to set boundaries without all the drama.
Learn more about how to set boundaries without all the drama.
September 17, 2025 at 11:36 PM
Of course they don't like your boundaries... People hate change. |
Learn more about how to set boundaries without all the drama.
Learn more about how to set boundaries without all the drama.
4 Books To Stop People Pleasing
What Life Should Mean to You - Alfred Adler
Mans Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
Happiness Hypothesis - Haidt
I HOPE YOU HATE THIS - Nick Pollard
(Coming Soon)
Commen "Book" Below to get on my mailing list for release dates, mailing list and announcement!
What Life Should Mean to You - Alfred Adler
Mans Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
Happiness Hypothesis - Haidt
I HOPE YOU HATE THIS - Nick Pollard
(Coming Soon)
Commen "Book" Below to get on my mailing list for release dates, mailing list and announcement!
September 17, 2025 at 8:06 PM
4 Books To Stop People Pleasing
What Life Should Mean to You - Alfred Adler
Mans Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
Happiness Hypothesis - Haidt
I HOPE YOU HATE THIS - Nick Pollard
(Coming Soon)
Commen "Book" Below to get on my mailing list for release dates, mailing list and announcement!
What Life Should Mean to You - Alfred Adler
Mans Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
Happiness Hypothesis - Haidt
I HOPE YOU HATE THIS - Nick Pollard
(Coming Soon)
Commen "Book" Below to get on my mailing list for release dates, mailing list and announcement!
If you stop people pleasing will you turn into a jerk?
No: But you will "feel" like a jerk. Not because you are one, but because because changing the way you interact with people is almost always uncomfortable.
Most people who care about you will welcome the change, but they are also allowed to
No: But you will "feel" like a jerk. Not because you are one, but because because changing the way you interact with people is almost always uncomfortable.
Most people who care about you will welcome the change, but they are also allowed to
September 17, 2025 at 12:01 AM
If you stop people pleasing will you turn into a jerk?
No: But you will "feel" like a jerk. Not because you are one, but because because changing the way you interact with people is almost always uncomfortable.
Most people who care about you will welcome the change, but they are also allowed to
No: But you will "feel" like a jerk. Not because you are one, but because because changing the way you interact with people is almost always uncomfortable.
Most people who care about you will welcome the change, but they are also allowed to
Boundaries ar not about controlling other people behavior and they are most certainly not about putting yourself first. They are about making your needs equal to everyone else so that you can decide when it is right to put yourself first and when it isnt.
Learn more about this in my free guide to
Learn more about this in my free guide to
September 16, 2025 at 9:36 PM
Boundaries ar not about controlling other people behavior and they are most certainly not about putting yourself first. They are about making your needs equal to everyone else so that you can decide when it is right to put yourself first and when it isnt.
Learn more about this in my free guide to
Learn more about this in my free guide to
I am the source of all the problems in my life, and what I dont change I choose. It is fascinating how well life can turn out when you decide to take responsiblity for how you show up and what you want.
September 16, 2025 at 6:36 PM
I am the source of all the problems in my life, and what I dont change I choose. It is fascinating how well life can turn out when you decide to take responsiblity for how you show up and what you want.
3 Questions I Use to See Who’s Who
What’s a topic you think people get way too sensitive about?
What are your friends working on that you find fun or interesting?
What are you working on that you love but isn’t exactly going your way?
The answers tell you everything. You’ll spot the life-lies
What’s a topic you think people get way too sensitive about?
What are your friends working on that you find fun or interesting?
What are you working on that you love but isn’t exactly going your way?
The answers tell you everything. You’ll spot the life-lies
September 13, 2025 at 9:05 PM
3 Questions I Use to See Who’s Who
What’s a topic you think people get way too sensitive about?
What are your friends working on that you find fun or interesting?
What are you working on that you love but isn’t exactly going your way?
The answers tell you everything. You’ll spot the life-lies
What’s a topic you think people get way too sensitive about?
What are your friends working on that you find fun or interesting?
What are you working on that you love but isn’t exactly going your way?
The answers tell you everything. You’ll spot the life-lies
Confidence is Creation not an Accident.
September 13, 2025 at 5:05 PM
Confidence is Creation not an Accident.
Stop listening to what you think people will think and start living your life.
September 12, 2025 at 11:04 PM
Stop listening to what you think people will think and start living your life.
Everything you need to set boundaries, you already have.
July 16, 2025 at 12:01 AM
Everything you need to set boundaries, you already have.
You are already winning.
July 14, 2025 at 8:14 PM
You are already winning.
Imposter syndrome is normal. Being human is not a pathology there is nothing wring with you.
July 13, 2025 at 11:03 PM
Imposter syndrome is normal. Being human is not a pathology there is nothing wring with you.
❤️🔥You do not have to worship at the altar of the extremes. You get to decide what makes you happy, what brings you joy, how you value your time, and what you value in your life. I do not remember the money my parents spent on my birthday. I remember the cookies and the hugs. I remember my love
July 13, 2025 at 4:59 PM
❤️🔥You do not have to worship at the altar of the extremes. You get to decide what makes you happy, what brings you joy, how you value your time, and what you value in your life. I do not remember the money my parents spent on my birthday. I remember the cookies and the hugs. I remember my love
You are making changes, but the "result" you want is not going to happen overnight.
July 12, 2025 at 7:24 PM
You are making changes, but the "result" you want is not going to happen overnight.
Rock bottom is not a requirement to change. You do not have to hate yourself or your life to want and achieve better.
July 12, 2025 at 6:07 PM
Rock bottom is not a requirement to change. You do not have to hate yourself or your life to want and achieve better.
You are not defined by your past. Not your mistakes, not your circumstances, and not what has been done to you.
#peoplepleasing #change #ptsd #trauma
#peoplepleasing #change #ptsd #trauma
July 11, 2025 at 10:23 PM
You are not defined by your past. Not your mistakes, not your circumstances, and not what has been done to you.
#peoplepleasing #change #ptsd #trauma
#peoplepleasing #change #ptsd #trauma
Working toward what you want to want, rather then what you "want."
#EmotionalHealth #Boundaries #SelfCare #discipline
#EmotionalHealth #Boundaries #SelfCare #discipline
July 11, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Working toward what you want to want, rather then what you "want."
#EmotionalHealth #Boundaries #SelfCare #discipline
#EmotionalHealth #Boundaries #SelfCare #discipline
Learning to love the progress you made means learning to love the changes it brings. You are ok.
July 11, 2025 at 12:25 AM
Learning to love the progress you made means learning to love the changes it brings. You are ok.
The three most awful reason to qwuit drinking, sugar and to get healthy.
HEADACHES. Your brain is throwing a fit because it’s used to being fed garbage. This is withdrawal and neuroplasticity wrapped in a tantrum. You're not dying. You're upgrading the software.
EXHAUSTION. Of course you're
HEADACHES. Your brain is throwing a fit because it’s used to being fed garbage. This is withdrawal and neuroplasticity wrapped in a tantrum. You're not dying. You're upgrading the software.
EXHAUSTION. Of course you're
July 10, 2025 at 6:23 PM
The three most awful reason to qwuit drinking, sugar and to get healthy.
HEADACHES. Your brain is throwing a fit because it’s used to being fed garbage. This is withdrawal and neuroplasticity wrapped in a tantrum. You're not dying. You're upgrading the software.
EXHAUSTION. Of course you're
HEADACHES. Your brain is throwing a fit because it’s used to being fed garbage. This is withdrawal and neuroplasticity wrapped in a tantrum. You're not dying. You're upgrading the software.
EXHAUSTION. Of course you're
Victimhood Sells better than Empowerment and Personal Responsibility...
July 10, 2025 at 3:41 AM
Victimhood Sells better than Empowerment and Personal Responsibility...
Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) is the process by which individuals experience positive psychological change as a result of struggling with highly challenging life circumstances.
Unlike resilience—which is bouncing back—PTG is about bouncing forward into a life that’s deeper, richer, and more
Unlike resilience—which is bouncing back—PTG is about bouncing forward into a life that’s deeper, richer, and more
July 10, 2025 at 1:00 AM
Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG) is the process by which individuals experience positive psychological change as a result of struggling with highly challenging life circumstances.
Unlike resilience—which is bouncing back—PTG is about bouncing forward into a life that’s deeper, richer, and more
Unlike resilience—which is bouncing back—PTG is about bouncing forward into a life that’s deeper, richer, and more