Also, I understand that some conferences might not have resources, and they’re usually apologetic about offering small sums, but there are some that will be really rude and act like they’re doing you a favor while acknowledging how demanding they are despite the low pay. NO THANKS.

Like a cat would actually let you brush their teeth anyway. ☠️😭

It really is. But we also got lucky because our vet was able to use local anesthetic and pull the infected tooth during a check up today. He said it would have been worse if I had caught it too late. We would have had to do full on dental surgery with anesthesia, which would have cost a lot more.

Yes, and kind of extra scary when you’re a woman who lives alone, and the querier is a man who somehow has found your personal home address to send their work to.

We talk a lot about bad agents. I agree we definitely should discuss it because it’s not okay. But rarely do we talk about the level of frequent harassment agents receive from querying writers. It can get really bad, which is why we end up choosing to make ourselves less accessible in general.