Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🇺🇦
@pattiev123.bsky.social
Grief Coach, work with folks impacted by loss due to substance use. Author: Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars. Unapologetically blue. Mom, Nonnie, Advocate, Human, Old White Hippie. I’m snarky and dark-funny. 😈
I don’t want to be a Sunshine Patriot.
I don’t want to be a Sunshine Patriot.
November 30, 2025 at 5:31 PM
Balloon release for Joel. Thankful we had 35 years. Should have been more.
November 30, 2025 at 5:28 PM
Balloon release for Joel. Thankful we had 35 years. Should have been more.
Incredibly proud to have been honored with my daughter with the Arthur Liman Award from Legal Action Center for the Faces of Medicaid campaign against HR1. Medicaid saved my daughter, Bekah; Joel was with us in spirit. We need to reverse this travesty. #MedicaidSavesLives
November 18, 2025 at 4:49 AM
Incredibly proud to have been honored with my daughter with the Arthur Liman Award from Legal Action Center for the Faces of Medicaid campaign against HR1. Medicaid saved my daughter, Bekah; Joel was with us in spirit. We need to reverse this travesty. #MedicaidSavesLives
Visited a store in Faro, Portugal built over a Roman ruin. The windows represent Jews and Muslims living in peace together. Such a vibrant, diverse, accepting place. We told people we were from California - a good part of the US. 😢
November 9, 2025 at 9:30 AM
Visited a store in Faro, Portugal built over a Roman ruin. The windows represent Jews and Muslims living in peace together. Such a vibrant, diverse, accepting place. We told people we were from California - a good part of the US. 😢
Not a problem to be solved ...
October 30, 2025 at 5:39 PM
Not a problem to be solved ...
October 29, 2025 at 12:23 PM
"Substance Use Disorder is the only disease that blames and shames the victim and recommends things like “tough love” and rejection until they get their act together, riddled with stigma, misinformation, and isolation." From Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars. theresilientjourney.net/book
October 20, 2025 at 2:56 PM
"Substance Use Disorder is the only disease that blames and shames the victim and recommends things like “tough love” and rejection until they get their act together, riddled with stigma, misinformation, and isolation." From Secrets, Scars and Heart Shaped Jars. theresilientjourney.net/book
#NoKings2 Sacramento Capital! Peaceful, irreverent, joyous! Great organization and speakers including a motivating speech from my favorite CA rep @ericswalwell.bsky.social and a special appearance by Kash “googly-eyes” Patel! 😝
October 19, 2025 at 7:02 PM
#NoKings2 Sacramento Capital! Peaceful, irreverent, joyous! Great organization and speakers including a motivating speech from my favorite CA rep @ericswalwell.bsky.social and a special appearance by Kash “googly-eyes” Patel! 😝
October 17, 2025 at 6:13 PM
If you feel like you are barely holding on, join us Friday morning, 10/17, at 10amPST and let someone else hold you up for awhile. Register here:
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October 16, 2025 at 10:45 PM
If you feel like you are barely holding on, join us Friday morning, 10/17, at 10amPST and let someone else hold you up for awhile. Register here:
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Wherever you are in your grief journey, there is a community for you - a circle to join where no explanation is needed and no judgment is offered. Join us this Friday, 10/17 at 10amPST. Register here:
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October 15, 2025 at 1:34 PM
Wherever you are in your grief journey, there is a community for you - a circle to join where no explanation is needed and no judgment is offered. Join us this Friday, 10/17 at 10amPST. Register here:
us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
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This is one of my favorite mantras - it never fails to center me and allow me to focus on the fact that feelings come and go. Bad days come and go. Have faith in the temporary.
#GriefJourney
#GriefJourney
October 14, 2025 at 8:00 PM
This is one of my favorite mantras - it never fails to center me and allow me to focus on the fact that feelings come and go. Bad days come and go. Have faith in the temporary.
#GriefJourney
#GriefJourney
Pay attention to legislation and don't vote against those we love.
#HarmReductionSavesLives
#HarmReductionSavesLives
October 8, 2025 at 12:43 PM
Pay attention to legislation and don't vote against those we love.
#HarmReductionSavesLives
#HarmReductionSavesLives
In this episode of Destination Change, Pattie shared:
Misconceptions around the Five Stages of Grief
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, by David Kessler
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore & her work in traumatic grief
Recognizing compassion fatigue
theresilientjourney.net/int...
Misconceptions around the Five Stages of Grief
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, by David Kessler
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore & her work in traumatic grief
Recognizing compassion fatigue
theresilientjourney.net/int...
October 6, 2025 at 5:45 PM
In this episode of Destination Change, Pattie shared:
Misconceptions around the Five Stages of Grief
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, by David Kessler
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore & her work in traumatic grief
Recognizing compassion fatigue
theresilientjourney.net/int...
Misconceptions around the Five Stages of Grief
Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief, by David Kessler
Dr. Joanne Cacciatore & her work in traumatic grief
Recognizing compassion fatigue
theresilientjourney.net/int...
"... guilt is a lousy partner when we didn’t know better.
When we had no control of the situation.
When we did all we could do, with the resources we had, and it still wasn’t enough.
When our behavior wouldn’t have changed the outcome."
theresilientjourney.net/blo...
When we had no control of the situation.
When we did all we could do, with the resources we had, and it still wasn’t enough.
When our behavior wouldn’t have changed the outcome."
theresilientjourney.net/blo...
October 3, 2025 at 3:16 PM
"... guilt is a lousy partner when we didn’t know better.
When we had no control of the situation.
When we did all we could do, with the resources we had, and it still wasn’t enough.
When our behavior wouldn’t have changed the outcome."
theresilientjourney.net/blo...
When we had no control of the situation.
When we did all we could do, with the resources we had, and it still wasn’t enough.
When our behavior wouldn’t have changed the outcome."
theresilientjourney.net/blo...
In yesterday's Grief Circle we remembered the past and we held hands to bravely face the future.
It's so good to be in community because memories bring back you.
Don't miss the next one: us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
It's so good to be in community because memories bring back you.
Don't miss the next one: us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
October 2, 2025 at 4:10 PM
In yesterday's Grief Circle we remembered the past and we held hands to bravely face the future.
It's so good to be in community because memories bring back you.
Don't miss the next one: us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
It's so good to be in community because memories bring back you.
Don't miss the next one: us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
Harm Reduction Saves Lives.
October 1, 2025 at 7:08 PM
Harm Reduction Saves Lives.
In our Grief Circles we learn how to carry the pain, along with the memories and love.
Join us, Wednesday, Oct 1st at 5pm PST.
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Join us, Wednesday, Oct 1st at 5pm PST.
us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
September 30, 2025 at 10:03 PM
In our Grief Circles we learn how to carry the pain, along with the memories and love.
Join us, Wednesday, Oct 1st at 5pm PST.
us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...
Join us, Wednesday, Oct 1st at 5pm PST.
us02web.zoom.us/meeting/reg...