(And yet sometimes I also start thinking of myself as an "we/us" instead of a "me"?? But I don't fully have alters or anything, so I don't think I'm fully plural either?)

And-... I'm all of them. All at once sometimes, but only a few other times. I hear them as my thoughts, but my thoughts are me and not me all at once too. I am not the thing at the computer, but that is me too.

I am not me, and yet I am a part of myself.

And I have no idea what to call that.

Even though I could, I also don't really want to even then. That still wouldn't feel like 'me'.

'Me' is a small fluffy thing on the internet. 'Me' is a dragon sometimes, fox other times, bat sometimes too. 'Me' is this nebulous, amorphous thing.

I'm not the thing at the computer, I'm its words.

And yet, like you mention, being called a 'good girl' also gives me this giddy feeling of joy that 'good boy' doesn't quite get. Being called a girl is just-... nice.

And yet even then I'm not really wanting to act any different? I mean, if I had the body for it, sure! But-....

Every time I can, I'll play as a girl. Game, writing, roleplay, TTRPG? Rare is the time I ever willingly be a male if the option presents itself. For whatever reason, I like dressing up, being more sensitive and openly emotional, cheering friends up, being cute, being pretty-...

Just not IRL?

I feel remarkably similar to what you're describing; where I'm so close to every label I consider, but none fit exactly.

In real life, I am a fairly obvious lookin' guy. Like, I have long hair, but I dress like a guy and talk like a guy, and look like a guy too. On paper, I am "Male" but like-...