OtherJackal
@otherjackal.bsky.social
After-Dark(ish) alternate account of some other Shiba shaped JQL.
Random thoughts, TMI, and maybe some NSFW things from time to time.
51 and still useless.
Random thoughts, TMI, and maybe some NSFW things from time to time.
51 and still useless.
I think this explains why I’ve felt disconnected: I’m drawn to more platonic, friendly/transactional gear and kink play than to “BDSM,” and that dynamic has been hard to articulate—even to myself.
I realized, this morning, that don't post much to this account. My head hasn't been in this game for a while, to be honest.
Being single and not into hookups seems to be murder for staying actively interested in kink/fetish.
Pretty sure that being ACE/Demi isn't doing me any favors, either.
Being single and not into hookups seems to be murder for staying actively interested in kink/fetish.
Pretty sure that being ACE/Demi isn't doing me any favors, either.
December 8, 2025 at 4:24 PM
I think this explains why I’ve felt disconnected: I’m drawn to more platonic, friendly/transactional gear and kink play than to “BDSM,” and that dynamic has been hard to articulate—even to myself.
No titles like sir, master, pet, slave, etc.
“Here’s [a thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you [generally] experience [that thing].”
"I think you might like [this] experience."
Consensual play with temporary Top/Bottom roles that end when the session (program) ends.
“Here’s [a thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you [generally] experience [that thing].”
"I think you might like [this] experience."
Consensual play with temporary Top/Bottom roles that end when the session (program) ends.
December 8, 2025 at 4:24 PM
No titles like sir, master, pet, slave, etc.
“Here’s [a thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you [generally] experience [that thing].”
"I think you might like [this] experience."
Consensual play with temporary Top/Bottom roles that end when the session (program) ends.
“Here’s [a thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you [generally] experience [that thing].”
"I think you might like [this] experience."
Consensual play with temporary Top/Bottom roles that end when the session (program) ends.
The person I was chatting with said, "Oh, you're a Gear Fetish Switch." That absolutely clicked.
It feels more casual and natural, less formal but more direct.
That's what feels right to me.
It feels more casual and natural, less formal but more direct.
That's what feels right to me.
December 8, 2025 at 4:24 PM
The person I was chatting with said, "Oh, you're a Gear Fetish Switch." That absolutely clicked.
It feels more casual and natural, less formal but more direct.
That's what feels right to me.
It feels more casual and natural, less formal but more direct.
That's what feels right to me.
I enjoy gear, restraint, and sensory deprivation, but I’ve never connected with the Dom/sub power exchange or formal dynamics most people see as central to BDSM—they’ve always made me uneasy.
December 8, 2025 at 4:24 PM
I enjoy gear, restraint, and sensory deprivation, but I’ve never connected with the Dom/sub power exchange or formal dynamics most people see as central to BDSM—they’ve always made me uneasy.
Which all gets into why my head just hasn't been in the space for a while, as noted way back here in this post.
Most of the people I know (locally) lean more heavily toward the BDSM-ish relationship side of things than the more platonic gear/kink kind of thing that interests me.
Most of the people I know (locally) lean more heavily toward the BDSM-ish relationship side of things than the more platonic gear/kink kind of thing that interests me.
I realized, this morning, that don't post much to this account. My head hasn't been in this game for a while, to be honest.
Being single and not into hookups seems to be murder for staying actively interested in kink/fetish.
Pretty sure that being ACE/Demi isn't doing me any favors, either.
Being single and not into hookups seems to be murder for staying actively interested in kink/fetish.
Pretty sure that being ACE/Demi isn't doing me any favors, either.
December 8, 2025 at 3:48 PM
Which all gets into why my head just hasn't been in the space for a while, as noted way back here in this post.
Most of the people I know (locally) lean more heavily toward the BDSM-ish relationship side of things than the more platonic gear/kink kind of thing that interests me.
Most of the people I know (locally) lean more heavily toward the BDSM-ish relationship side of things than the more platonic gear/kink kind of thing that interests me.
“Here’s [the thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you experience [that thing].”
Just agreed programs and roles of Top or Bottom that end when the program is over.
No sir, master, pet, slave, etc…
“Hey, I can help you experience [that thing].”
Just agreed programs and roles of Top or Bottom that end when the program is over.
No sir, master, pet, slave, etc…
December 8, 2025 at 6:28 AM
“Here’s [the thing] I would like to [generally] experience.”
“Hey, I can help you experience [that thing].”
Just agreed programs and roles of Top or Bottom that end when the program is over.
No sir, master, pet, slave, etc…
“Hey, I can help you experience [that thing].”
Just agreed programs and roles of Top or Bottom that end when the program is over.
No sir, master, pet, slave, etc…
The person I was chatting with got what I was saying. They said, “Oh, you’re a Gear Fetish Switch.” And that absolutely clicked with me.
It feels more platonic and casual; not upsettingly formal. It feels more fluid and natural but also more to the point.
It feels right to me.
It feels more platonic and casual; not upsettingly formal. It feels more fluid and natural but also more to the point.
It feels right to me.
December 8, 2025 at 6:28 AM
The person I was chatting with got what I was saying. They said, “Oh, you’re a Gear Fetish Switch.” And that absolutely clicked with me.
It feels more platonic and casual; not upsettingly formal. It feels more fluid and natural but also more to the point.
It feels right to me.
It feels more platonic and casual; not upsettingly formal. It feels more fluid and natural but also more to the point.
It feels right to me.
I’ve never been happy with the Dom/Sub dynamic or general vibe I get from BDSM. Something about the vibe of formality and that dynamic of power exchange never clicked with me despite my interests in gear, restraint, and sensory deprivation.
Always made me feel uneasy.
Always made me feel uneasy.
December 8, 2025 at 6:28 AM
I’ve never been happy with the Dom/Sub dynamic or general vibe I get from BDSM. Something about the vibe of formality and that dynamic of power exchange never clicked with me despite my interests in gear, restraint, and sensory deprivation.
Always made me feel uneasy.
Always made me feel uneasy.