i completely forgot where to cite this little nugget, but i once remember a supervisee tell me that the biggest deciding factor in a suicidal individual’s decision to end their own life is actually time.

i spend a lot of time reflecting on this. i wonder how to tie attention more into the therapy we do at a community mental health facility, particularly when our attention is mainly on time crunches, documentation, and staying one step ahead of compliance.

i’m so glad the content hasn’t changed, rascal.

but also one could say that those messages were nun of her business, yet she went on mission im-pasta-ble to deliver those missives.

i have to tell you, this quote enlightened a number of thoughts i had about narcissistic personality formation. the idea of wanting to destroy the very thing they envy, the very thing they cannot have for themselves… it helps to understand how deeply those feelings of inadequacy cuts them.

it is a great day! congratulations on the poetry acceptance, new residency, and new place of safe retreat (bed, haha).

it’s better to hold out then make false promises to the consumer. you need to push a game back a year or two? do it. both games are now infinitely more worth it as a result!!

the laughter that erupted from my mouth. i feel like this came out of an episode of curb.

i’ll bring lobster with me to my next session but only share the dipping butter. 😂

LEAN FORWARD TO RIZZ EM WITH YOUR LISTENING SKILLS BUT HAS NO IDEA HOW TO MEANINGFULLY LISTEN. 😂

i vindictively am happy to leave all i’ve cluttered in that old apartment though. let the landlord heave-ho that crap out. 😂😂

here’s to new beginnings, Rascal. i feel quite happy and honored to have migrated with you, and moved in next door haha.

idk i’m babbling but i’m so glad you brought this up and i also SINCERELY want to thank you for your winnicott piece which i will be devouring tonight ❤️

i also think the way it’s used for relational purposes (with this one personal example) is to protect the person’s ego and prevent any sort of violent assault on their character (e.g. receiving criticism, being asked to do something differently, etc.). it’s a way to bolster against inadequacy.

i hit send way too early lmao. it’s a personal example, but i agree with you about this being a pathological problem - for the person i’m referencing, i have a feeling it’s rooted in their OCD and attempting to “predict,” akin to card-reading or astrological consultations.

i don’t have a parenting example but i do have an example about relationships.