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Katy Elphinstone
@neurofabulous.bsky.social
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Thinking about humanity from an autistic perspective | Mother to two wonderful humans and one small dog | #Autism, #Autistic, #Neurodivergent, #AutismAcceptance, #BPSdouble_empathy

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#Neurodivergent
#AutisticJoy
#ActuallyAutistic
Owl! at the library @SketchesbyBoze "No one wants to hear about your special interests--" I do. tell me all about how the Appalachians are older than Saturn's Rings or how the invention of the compass led to the atomic bomb. Life is so brief and the world is so big and we have to learn from each other.
November 28, 2025 at 10:00 PM
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"What do you have to be anxious about?"

Image from Neurodivergent Memes on FB 🙏

#Neurodivergent #Autism #ActuallyAutistic #SocialAnxiety #Anxiety
Title: "what do you have to be anxious about" Below this are four pictures of the scene from Lord of the rings, with Galadriel and the urn. She's saying, "things that were, things that are, and some things...that have yet to come to pass"
November 23, 2025 at 7:57 AM
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The five neurodivergent love languages 😊💖

#ActuallyAutistic #AutisticJoy #Neurodivergent
the five neurodeivergent love languages: infodumping, parallel play, support swapping, Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body, and "I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and I thought you would like it" from Amythest on Twitter, 2021
October 14, 2025 at 7:33 PM
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Ah yes. This. My son didn't seem in the least "different," to me 😂

#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #Diagnosis
Given that autism is highly heritable, it's a huge flaw in the diagnostic process that parents are supposed to know and confirm if there's anything "different" about their child. If there is, they probably won't have noticed, as it's likely their entire family is autistic.
October 14, 2025 at 5:52 AM
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I relate to this.

Anyone else out there 'hardworking and quiet'?

And.. yes:

"Why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great."

#Autism #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic
@she-waves-at-cats I think it needs to become common knowledge that 'inability to read social cues' can show up as overcompensating. You don't know how much misbehaviour is allowed so you become the perfect child who never tests rules. You don't know how much is expected of you at work, so you'll kill yourself in a minimum wage job and not notice that nobody else is working like this. "hardworking and quiet" should be as much of an autism red flag as "ignores rules and doesn't stop talking". Or why don't we just start using words to communicate so I can stop tracking everyone's eyebrow twitches, that would be great.
September 21, 2025 at 5:54 AM
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#parenting

Too true, yikes 😬
You either face your demons or they raise your children. Unknown/tiny Buddha.com
August 4, 2025 at 4:49 AM
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What she said 👇

#equality #genderequality #womensrights #feminism #patriarchy #financialabuse
Vuyiswa @becca_mts The women before us fought for the right to work not because labour is fun but because relying on men financially resulted in financial abuse & restricted women's freedom. No one hates labour more than me but putting my life in a man's hands sounds more daunting than a 9-5.
July 19, 2025 at 9:46 PM
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Um....yeah. I relate.
owl at the library @sketchesbyboze be honest, how many of us would have been shut away in asylum during the Victorian era for being 'disobedient' and 'unruly' and 'a bit odd', only to escape through a window in our white linen gowns, and be mistaken for a ghost.
June 28, 2025 at 2:56 PM
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#neurodivergent #autistic
Coby Watts @covywattsmusic Post reads: A neurodivergent's ability to read the room is half the reason we don't like going to places.
June 26, 2025 at 2:21 PM
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Autism diagnosis in 28 seconds.
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#School #Autism #ActuallyAutistic
if autism is so hard to diagnose why could school bullies figure it out in like 28 seconds? Post from autistic comedy, Rika Lenze, on FB.
June 12, 2025 at 5:38 PM
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#Feminism #Misogyny #Sexism #GenderEquality #WomensRights
You don't become a feminist; you are born a feminist. No one is born believing that women deserve fewer rights than others - the patriarchy teaches us that. Everyone is born of feminist, and you either remain a feminist or you become a misogynist. Farida D
June 12, 2025 at 4:45 AM
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#Politics
From Stoicism Daily. "a great many people think they are thinking and they are merely rearranging their prejudices" William Jones
June 10, 2025 at 6:33 PM
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This 💟

#biosphere #Environment #EarthDay #biodiversity #MentalHealth #Economy
Jason Hickel @jasonhickel You have to ask yourself: if our economic system actively destroys the biosphere *and* fails to meet most people's basic needs then what is actually the point?
May 30, 2025 at 6:33 AM
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#AuDHD
post from Behrad @adhdmemetherapy ADHD: Acts now, thinks later. Autism: Must research every possibility first. AuDHD: Paralyzed
May 23, 2025 at 5:16 AM
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This is beautiful. A lovely antidote to the tradition of blaming the mothers pretty much exclusively.

🥰

Credit to Untigering on FB

#parenting #patriarchy #feminism #oppression
the text reads, "many of the failures we attribute to our mothers are actually the failures of a patriarchal system that exercised power over them instead of sharing power with them."
May 22, 2025 at 5:26 AM
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This.
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slide by 'chronically strange and uncomfortable' on Facebook Text reads: you've grown into someone who would have protected you as a child. And that's the most powerful decision you've made.
May 14, 2025 at 6:56 PM
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Agreed 😵‍💫

#ModernSociety
We weren't designed to process global tragedy at breakfast, respond to work emergency's at dinner, and fall asleep doom scrolling at night. Our nervous systems never consented to this arrangement. Michael C. Clark
May 13, 2025 at 9:06 PM
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#LateDiagnosedAutistic #Neurodivergent #Autistic
Elena @elenacarr0ll Shout out to the late diagnosed autistic adults who survived by being the perfect child/student. Your compliance nature was a survival mechanism. Because you didn't disrupt others there was no need to chase a diagnosis. I'm sorry the cost of that was your own nervous system.
May 5, 2025 at 7:09 PM
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Credit to Purr in Ink 💞🐈
Picture of a cat looking unimpressed. Text reads "if a cat hates you they might look at you like this." Second picture of the cat also looking unimpressed. Text reads: "if a cat loves you they might look at you like this."
May 1, 2025 at 5:07 AM
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Yes. 😥

#Autistic #Neurodivergent
Post from Teela @teelatauntaun Text reads "is this not the perfect analogy for what it's like to navigate the world with autism?" The image shows an exercise from a school book. The instruction is to draw a small clock that shows 10 minutes past 11. The child has drawn a small digital clock with the face reading 11:10 The teacher has marked this answer as incorrect. Presumably because they wanted to see an analog clock here.
April 29, 2025 at 5:58 AM
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#Benefits #Disabled #Welfare #Poverty
Nothing radicalised me like realising it costs the government more money to put disabled people through degrading tests and assessments, and stage tribunals to deny them benefits, than it would if they just paid everyone who applied the full amount straight up. striking workers appreciator @_georgina666
April 23, 2025 at 8:56 PM
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#AutisticCommunication #AutisticJoy #Autistic
@Rabbit One time I met a small autistic child at the vet and told him I'm autistic too. Then he asked if he could pet the kitten I had with me, and I said yes. When he was done petting her, his mom told him to say thanks, and he thanked the kitten.
April 18, 2025 at 5:49 AM
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#HumanRights #TransRightsAreHumanRights #WomensRightsAreHumanRights #BlackLivesMatter #LGBTQIA
Only caring about your own rights is exactly how you lose them. @tastefulsaucy
April 13, 2025 at 9:27 PM
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I wish somebody had told me this sooner.

#Autistic #Neurodivergent
Screenshot of a post by claire.witch Text reads: I don't know what autistic person needs to hear this: You don't have to do your best. Stop doing that. You are not supposed to be giving 100% as much as you can all the time. it suggests to just do the best you can... in that moment... without harm, with ease. That's what that phrase means... it just wasn't explained well for our brains.
April 4, 2025 at 9:27 PM
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"There's nothing in this world stronger than a soft heart that refused to harden"

That's beautiful ❤️

(Credit to @colavsdaughter)

💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🩷

#Autistic #Disabled #Feminism #Equity #BlackLivesMatter #Women #LGBTQIA
She's just a kind soul trying to make it in this cruel world, without losing her humanity. Don't tell her to harden up, she's tougher than the hell she survived, believe me. Gentle is not weak. Nothing in this world is tougher than a soft heart that refused to harden. @colavsdaughter
March 31, 2025 at 6:31 AM