That's a really good point, and I needed to hear that. It's validating to understand why I feel excluded and exhausted. Sometimes gendered things like this are so hard to see from the inside.

Thank you for the alt text on this I just magically pasted it onto my current Need These Books list !!

A corollary to “don’t obey in advance” is “do build and strengthen networks to provide support for those facing the consequences of disobedience.”