nadia
@nadia9.bsky.social
T4Tea 🏳️⚧️🫖; bookworm; femme; ex-Brit; likes the taste of butter, surrealism, weird distributed systems bugs, Weimar Germany, dodecahedrons, and baking. she/her/milf. Seattle.
Went to Rome for some timely Meditations on Decline and Fall…
April 8, 2025 at 6:08 AM
Went to Rome for some timely Meditations on Decline and Fall…
Guy next to me on a losing streak still mansplained poker to me. (But tbh he seemed like an Egg so I didn’t mind so much as I would have. I’m terribly forgiving.)
December 20, 2024 at 2:55 AM
Guy next to me on a losing streak still mansplained poker to me. (But tbh he seemed like an Egg so I didn’t mind so much as I would have. I’m terribly forgiving.)
(I go and leave Bluesky for just 10 months and suddenly you’re *all* here?)
December 20, 2024 at 1:44 AM
(I go and leave Bluesky for just 10 months and suddenly you’re *all* here?)
went to Vienna for a weekend so I could wear a beret and eat Sachertorte. there were no trans girls on grindr within 100 miles but the grand cafes were open until midnight, so.
January 26, 2024 at 11:54 PM
went to Vienna for a weekend so I could wear a beret and eat Sachertorte. there were no trans girls on grindr within 100 miles but the grand cafes were open until midnight, so.
New: Harris tweed suit. Old: cravat I wore obsessively as a twinky boy in London 15 years ago, and a favorite waistcoat from grad school. As my old pal Goethe says: Auch der Gedanke willig, sinnig, schnelle / Sich ums Vergangne wie ums Künftige schlang.
December 2, 2023 at 9:07 PM
New: Harris tweed suit. Old: cravat I wore obsessively as a twinky boy in London 15 years ago, and a favorite waistcoat from grad school. As my old pal Goethe says: Auch der Gedanke willig, sinnig, schnelle / Sich ums Vergangne wie ums Künftige schlang.
Hosted a trans thanksgiving for 12 guests yesterday in my tiny apartment — cooked vast amounts of food, including two roast chickens, two dozen dinner rolls, miso-glazed carrots, and two pies. Exhausted; contented. Community is fun… but remember, it requires a lot of chairs.
November 24, 2023 at 10:22 PM
Hosted a trans thanksgiving for 12 guests yesterday in my tiny apartment — cooked vast amounts of food, including two roast chickens, two dozen dinner rolls, miso-glazed carrots, and two pies. Exhausted; contented. Community is fun… but remember, it requires a lot of chairs.
On the train from Scotland to London, periodically refreshing grindr (t4t filter) every 50 miles down the east coast mainline. (Conclusion: t’all need more t4t in the UK, poor dears.)
November 17, 2023 at 4:21 PM
On the train from Scotland to London, periodically refreshing grindr (t4t filter) every 50 miles down the east coast mainline. (Conclusion: t’all need more t4t in the UK, poor dears.)
Made carrot cake for tea with my mum’s cishet friends who wanted to meet the mysterious Other Daughter who mysteriously lives in Seattle and of whom there are mysteriously no photos in the house from before two years ago.
November 17, 2023 at 12:07 PM
Made carrot cake for tea with my mum’s cishet friends who wanted to meet the mysterious Other Daughter who mysteriously lives in Seattle and of whom there are mysteriously no photos in the house from before two years ago.
found the perfect disguise as a trans woman visiting the UK: dress like a Tory councilor.
November 15, 2023 at 10:31 AM
found the perfect disguise as a trans woman visiting the UK: dress like a Tory councilor.
It is properly rainy, windy October fall. Long have I plotted my outfits for this season, laid down my plans in the despised baleful days of summer, biding my time — now at least I can unleash my trench coats and turtlenecks and tweed on an unsuspecting world.
October 3, 2023 at 2:30 PM
It is properly rainy, windy October fall. Long have I plotted my outfits for this season, laid down my plans in the despised baleful days of summer, biding my time — now at least I can unleash my trench coats and turtlenecks and tweed on an unsuspecting world.
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NYC save the dates!
BOOK LAUNCHES for GIRLFRIENDS 🥰
OCTOBER 19, McNally Jackson Seaport w/@emotrophywife.bsky.social (7 pm)
OCTOBER 25, Brooklyn Public Library, Brooklyn Heights branch
w/@leahtigers.bsky.social (7 PM)
MARK YOUR CALENDARS
cc: @emializh.bsky.social (prolly esp. yer calendar)
BOOK LAUNCHES for GIRLFRIENDS 🥰
OCTOBER 19, McNally Jackson Seaport w/@emotrophywife.bsky.social (7 pm)
OCTOBER 25, Brooklyn Public Library, Brooklyn Heights branch
w/@leahtigers.bsky.social (7 PM)
MARK YOUR CALENDARS
cc: @emializh.bsky.social (prolly esp. yer calendar)
September 14, 2023 at 9:10 PM
NYC save the dates!
BOOK LAUNCHES for GIRLFRIENDS 🥰
OCTOBER 19, McNally Jackson Seaport w/@emotrophywife.bsky.social (7 pm)
OCTOBER 25, Brooklyn Public Library, Brooklyn Heights branch
w/@leahtigers.bsky.social (7 PM)
MARK YOUR CALENDARS
cc: @emializh.bsky.social (prolly esp. yer calendar)
BOOK LAUNCHES for GIRLFRIENDS 🥰
OCTOBER 19, McNally Jackson Seaport w/@emotrophywife.bsky.social (7 pm)
OCTOBER 25, Brooklyn Public Library, Brooklyn Heights branch
w/@leahtigers.bsky.social (7 PM)
MARK YOUR CALENDARS
cc: @emializh.bsky.social (prolly esp. yer calendar)
Got a friend to tell me all the criticisms that a Nemesis would level at me. She began with how I’m vain, snobbish, and self-centered. Criticisms got sharper as she went on. Recommended.
It hasn’t inspired me to be a good person. No. Instead I shall be vain and snobbish in ever more refined ways.
It hasn’t inspired me to be a good person. No. Instead I shall be vain and snobbish in ever more refined ways.
September 8, 2023 at 4:08 PM
Got a friend to tell me all the criticisms that a Nemesis would level at me. She began with how I’m vain, snobbish, and self-centered. Criticisms got sharper as she went on. Recommended.
It hasn’t inspired me to be a good person. No. Instead I shall be vain and snobbish in ever more refined ways.
It hasn’t inspired me to be a good person. No. Instead I shall be vain and snobbish in ever more refined ways.
local grindr guys continue to Have Questions. oh buddy, I wish I had answers. every time I think I glimpse the Meaning of T4T, in a fleeting glance in a bar or in the folds of a shared unmade bed, still it recedes from me; I spend a lifetime unraveling its Mystery, and arrive only at the beginning.
August 11, 2023 at 5:59 PM
local grindr guys continue to Have Questions. oh buddy, I wish I had answers. every time I think I glimpse the Meaning of T4T, in a fleeting glance in a bar or in the folds of a shared unmade bed, still it recedes from me; I spend a lifetime unraveling its Mystery, and arrive only at the beginning.
at Broadway and Pine and I see this boy with long hair and he's walking a small dog, and I just *know* they're trans femme, like either boymoding or an egg, the way she was walking, awkwardly, hunching up her shoulders, clenching everything in her body tight, tight, to avoid being a girl.
August 11, 2023 at 4:28 AM
at Broadway and Pine and I see this boy with long hair and he's walking a small dog, and I just *know* they're trans femme, like either boymoding or an egg, the way she was walking, awkwardly, hunching up her shoulders, clenching everything in her body tight, tight, to avoid being a girl.
nose still taped from FFS and generally not feeling one’s best, but at least the trans girl behind the bar said she liked my leather jacket, so.
August 10, 2023 at 7:32 PM
nose still taped from FFS and generally not feeling one’s best, but at least the trans girl behind the bar said she liked my leather jacket, so.
cute girl on grindr but she confused macarons with macaroons in one of her first messages, could be a deal-breaker, alas.
August 10, 2023 at 3:10 PM
cute girl on grindr but she confused macarons with macaroons in one of her first messages, could be a deal-breaker, alas.
a grindr Chaser’s lament upon being confronted with the unfathomable transcendent mystery of T4T. What answer could I even have given him, that he would understand?
August 7, 2023 at 3:22 AM
a grindr Chaser’s lament upon being confronted with the unfathomable transcendent mystery of T4T. What answer could I even have given him, that he would understand?
At a bar reading the definitive Oppenheimer biography, which I somehow failed to open during my PhD even tho 1) I studied History of Science 2) in a small town where Oppenheimer lived for 20 years 3) and my thesis advisor wrote two books on the atomic bomb. My conclusion about Oppie so far is, 🥚💙.
July 29, 2023 at 1:48 AM
At a bar reading the definitive Oppenheimer biography, which I somehow failed to open during my PhD even tho 1) I studied History of Science 2) in a small town where Oppenheimer lived for 20 years 3) and my thesis advisor wrote two books on the atomic bomb. My conclusion about Oppie so far is, 🥚💙.
once briefly talked to a boy with long hair who asked me about getting into systems programming. he had learned some C in college and I said, “oh you should also have a look at Rust.” Only later did I think… “shit did I just send an egg to her cracking?”
July 9, 2023 at 3:09 AM
once briefly talked to a boy with long hair who asked me about getting into systems programming. he had learned some C in college and I said, “oh you should also have a look at Rust.” Only later did I think… “shit did I just send an egg to her cracking?”
the kind of girl who sends unsolicited baking pics on grindr
July 9, 2023 at 1:34 AM
the kind of girl who sends unsolicited baking pics on grindr
I finally got ahold of the data from the CT scan of my skull that I got last year in preparation for my FFS. now I need to 3D print it for a life-size memento mori to sit on my desk. and also for silver earrings.
July 8, 2023 at 9:02 PM
I finally got ahold of the data from the CT scan of my skull that I got last year in preparation for my FFS. now I need to 3D print it for a life-size memento mori to sit on my desk. and also for silver earrings.
went to Vegas. played poker again there for the first time since transitioning, which was a whole thing. my fave moment was when I bluffed two boys off a huge pot (by 1/3 NL standards anyway) with a giant bet on the river, and showed them my bluff hand after. How they groaned! I am clearly a sadist.
June 15, 2023 at 3:56 PM
went to Vegas. played poker again there for the first time since transitioning, which was a whole thing. my fave moment was when I bluffed two boys off a huge pot (by 1/3 NL standards anyway) with a giant bet on the river, and showed them my bluff hand after. How they groaned! I am clearly a sadist.