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Mychel (me-SHELL) Vandover 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍🌈
@mychelvandover.bsky.social
Queer, sex favorable greysexual, transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, biaesthetic person. Pronouns are she/they. Host of the Queer PoliFaith and Queerly Popular podcasts.
I am a transfeminine non-binary person and I get misgendered every fucking day. I look like a male, so get called "sir" multiple times a day every day. If I wear a dress, I don't look feminine, so that doesn't help. I could correct every person I meet, but that is really exhausting to do. Not sure
November 14, 2025 at 6:20 PM
biaesthetic, queer person (she/they)
December 2024-January 6, 2025- transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, biaesthetic, sex favorable greysexual queer person (she/they)
January 7, 2025-Present- queer, sex favorable greysexual, transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, panaesthetic person
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
2015-2016- genderqueer gay person (they)
2016-2017- non-binary queer person (they)
2017-May 2024- transfeminine non-binary queer person (she/they)
May 2024-October 2024- transfeminine non-binary, biromantic queer person (she/they)
October 2024-December 2024- transfeminine non-binary, biromantic,
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
Not sure if I shared this here before, but here's the timeline of me realizing my identities and the pronouns I use(d) at each stage.

Birth-1999- cis straight man (he)
although I knew there were attractions to men, I thought it was a “phase”
1999-2002- cis bi man (he)
2002-2015- cis gay man (he)
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
Today is my #Nameiversary! 6 years ago today my name change became official. Or, as My friend Florence put it, my official name became "the name God always knew her by." I love this framing because it's true. I never felt wholly comfortable as "Matthew". But "Mychel"? That's a whole other story and
July 30, 2025 at 12:36 PM
It's #PrideMonth and here are the flags of my four major identity labels: greysexual, biromantic, transfeminine, and non-binary. The unused flags: sex favorable and queer. What are your flags? #Pride
June 1, 2025 at 8:26 PM
Binging #Overcompensating and I am loving it. Wasn't sure if I was going to be into it, but I am really loving the show. It's on the raunchy side, but it's really funny. I am totally going to have an episode of @queerlypopular.bsky.social about this season. Really hope it gets renewed.
May 26, 2025 at 9:03 PM
Happy #MothersDay to all the mothers or mother figures out there. This year, I want to celebrate @billieiswriting.bsky.social as my mother figure. Billie is the first woman I've celebrated that I have never met IRL. Billie has taught me so much over the last few years. She also always shows such
May 11, 2025 at 5:00 PM
I have to admit to conflicted feelings over the announcement of the #HeartstopperMovie. I am very grateful that we'll be getting the movie so we can see the end to this part of their story and I know Alice will take care to tell the story we'll. I also know that this is the best option due to Kit
April 22, 2025 at 12:33 PM
My thoughts about #PopeFrancis are....complicated. He was, undoubtedly, the best pope of my lifetime. He pushed the Catholic Church towards the teachings of Jesus in regards to the poor and marginalized in ways Popes John Paul II and Benedict did not. He also pushed the Catholic Church to be better
April 21, 2025 at 12:00 PM
Today is #InternationalAsexualityDay, a day when we celebrate those of us who are on the ace spectrum. I am a sex favorable greysexual person. That means I enjoy having sex but I rarely experience sexual attraction. I can name every person I've ever been sexually attracted to (only 7 in total).
April 6, 2025 at 9:38 PM
Today is #TransgenderDayOfVisibility. Right now, we are visible and we are in danger. The fascists have targeted us and lied about us and are doing what they can to eradicate us. But we will not be silenced or shut away.

If you want to be an ally, especially if you are cishet, we need you to stand
March 31, 2025 at 4:55 PM
Just finished the season finale of #TheWayHome and it was beautiful! Loved that we got to see Colton realize who Alice, Kat, and Jacob are and that he was totally planning on telling Del about everything. Also loved that Del got to travel and see her wedding. That was so beautiful. Just a few
March 9, 2025 at 11:38 PM
Need I say more? Just a few more years until the big 5-0! #Birthday #BirthdayQueen #BirthdayQueen👑 #MyBirthday
March 6, 2025 at 2:06 PM
Just finished the penultimate episode of #TheWayHomeSeason3 and it was quite the trip. Colton reveals one aspect to the pond we didn't know: if you tell someone their future, the pond will stop working for you. And he and Delilah got engaged quite young. I'm sure it was mentioned before, but if so,
March 2, 2025 at 1:00 AM
Just stop with this awful bullshit. It's not funny, it's homophobia. I'll bet this person thinks they're an ally. They aren't. If you promote this sort of thing, you're promoting homophobia & are therefore a homophobe.

Here's a list of people to block. Read the description bsky.app/profile/did:...
February 27, 2025 at 1:02 PM
pissed. And listening to him sing that absolutely beautiful song meant for Delilah gave me tears. And I also loved learning more about Colton's time traveling and my thought was in line with Del's: Did he know that Jacob had gone to the past and if so, why didn't he tell her? I'm sure there's a
February 22, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Just finished the eighth episode of the third season of #TheWayHomeHallmarkChannel and it did not disappoint at all. We got to hear Colton and Alice record the demo and it was incredible! @jordandoww.bsky.social and Sadie sound incredible together and if we don't get this song released, I'll be
February 22, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Some thoughts on love. Also, let's talk about outing....

"Jen. You belong...you belong to me. Don't you get it? You're my soulmate. Amy's gonna know love, everyday of her life she is gonna know how much her mother loved her. I'm gonna see to that. Ok?"

open.substack.com/pub/mychelva...
February 17, 2025 at 2:10 PM
Inspired by something @thisisbgm.bsky.social wrote, I have an essay coming out Monday at 9 am on my Substack about love that features Jack and Jen from #DawsonsCreek, a scene from #LoveSimon, how my #asexuality affected me before I knew about it consciously, and thoughts about compulsory sexuality.
February 15, 2025 at 8:02 PM
So #RedWhiteAndRoyalBlue was filmed from June to August 2022 and released a year later. Assuming this shares that timeframe, we should get the #RWRBSequel in late 2026 or early 2027. That is really exciting! #RWRBMovie #RWRB
February 12, 2025 at 1:05 PM
@nytimes.com, stfu, just sit the f*ck down and shut your f*cking mouth. You've been taking an anti-trans angle for years and now are acting like you haven't been? F*cking hypocrites. You don't get gratitude and you don't get to act like an ally because you aren't one. You're just trying to take a
February 9, 2025 at 9:34 PM
Just finished episode 6 of season 3 of #TheWayHome. No singing this week (😢) but we did get to see Colton and Del dance together in the bed of a pickup. Quite a lovely moment. And Kat got herself in quite an interesting situation in the past. I am curious if Jacob is going to remain in 1816 or if
February 8, 2025 at 6:55 PM
streaming. I so want to be able to listen to them whenever I want. Seeing Susanna marrying Cyrus was a blow. And what is going on with Max and Cassie? That is going to be an interesting mystery to figure out. I have to admit to being annoyed at Del for yelling at Alice the way she did. We're halfway
February 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM
I just finished watching episode 5 of season 3 of #TheWayHome. I loved that it opened with 2 songs from @jordandoww.bsky.social. I particularly enjoyed the folk song (the second one). And then Alice sang that second folk song later, which was also gorgeous. I so hope they release these songs for
February 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM