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Mychel (me-SHELL) Vandover 🏳️‍⚧️ 🏳️‍🌈
@mychelvandover.bsky.social
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Queer, sex favorable greysexual, transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, biaesthetic person. Pronouns are she/they. Host of the Queer PoliFaith and Queerly Popular podcasts.
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I am a transfeminine non-binary person and I get misgendered every fucking day. I look like a male, so get called "sir" multiple times a day every day. If I wear a dress, I don't look feminine, so that doesn't help. I could correct every person I meet, but that is really exhausting to do. Not sure
A white person wearing glasses and a green golf shirt.
November 14, 2025 at 6:20 PM
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biaesthetic, queer person (she/they)
December 2024-January 6, 2025- transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, biaesthetic, sex favorable greysexual queer person (she/they)
January 7, 2025-Present- queer, sex favorable greysexual, transfeminine non-binary, grey biromantic, panaesthetic person
The greysexual flag with (top to bottom) purple, grey, white, grey, and purple stripes The biromantic flag with (top to bottom) light pink, light purple, and light blue stripes with a heart in the middle in the stripes of the same color but a darker shade
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
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2015-2016- genderqueer gay person (they)
2016-2017- non-binary queer person (they)
2017-May 2024- transfeminine non-binary queer person (she/they)
May 2024-October 2024- transfeminine non-binary, biromantic queer person (she/they)
October 2024-December 2024- transfeminine non-binary, biromantic,
The sex favorable flag with a small purple rectangle on the left and large red rectangle on the right with a white plus sign in a red circle in the middle The transfeminine flag with (top to bottom) light blue, white, light pink, dark pink, light pink, white, and light blue stripes The panaesthetic flag with (top to bottom) light pink, dark pink, red, white, yellow, and light blue stripes with a circle with tanish, red brown, dark brown, and red brown stripes The non-binary flag with (top to bottom) yellow, white, purple, and black stripes
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
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Not sure if I shared this here before, but here's the timeline of me realizing my identities and the pronouns I use(d) at each stage.

Birth-1999- cis straight man (he)
although I knew there were attractions to men, I thought it was a “phase”
1999-2002- cis bi man (he)
2002-2015- cis gay man (he)
A white person smiling The queer flag with (top to bottom) black, light blue, darker blue, light green, white, mustard yellow, salmon red, pink, and black stripes The asexual flag with (top to bottom) black, grey, white, and purple stripes The grey romantic flag with (top to bottom) dark green, grey, white, grey, and dark green stripes
October 21, 2025 at 3:38 AM
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Today is my #Nameiversary! 6 years ago today my name change became official. Or, as My friend Florence put it, my official name became "the name God always knew her by." I love this framing because it's true. I never felt wholly comfortable as "Matthew". But "Mychel"? That's a whole other story and
A picture of a happy non-binary person with glasses A name change court order
July 30, 2025 at 12:36 PM
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It's #PrideMonth and here are the flags of my four major identity labels: greysexual, biromantic, transfeminine, and non-binary. The unused flags: sex favorable and queer. What are your flags? #Pride
A flag with 5 colored stripes: purple, grey, white, grey, and purple. A flag with a thick pink line, light purple line, and then a think light blue one. In the foreground is a heart in red, purple, and blue. A flag with 7 equal stripes: light blue, light pink, a dusky pink, darker pink, dusky rose, light pink, and light blue. A flag of four equal stripes: yellow, white, purple, and black.
June 1, 2025 at 8:26 PM
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Binging #Overcompensating and I am loving it. Wasn't sure if I was going to be into it, but I am really loving the show. It's on the raunchy side, but it's really funny. I am totally going to have an episode of @queerlypopular.bsky.social about this season. Really hope it gets renewed.
A poster for the show Overcompensating with several people looking up at you with the words "College. Come as you aren't." on it
May 26, 2025 at 9:03 PM
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Happy #MothersDay to all the mothers or mother figures out there. This year, I want to celebrate @billieiswriting.bsky.social as my mother figure. Billie is the first woman I've celebrated that I have never met IRL. Billie has taught me so much over the last few years. She also always shows such
A beautiful trans woman with half of her head shaved and her hair over the other half. She has a grey headband and a black shirt with the anarchy "A" in red on it.
May 11, 2025 at 5:00 PM
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I have to admit to conflicted feelings over the announcement of the #HeartstopperMovie. I am very grateful that we'll be getting the movie so we can see the end to this part of their story and I know Alice will take care to tell the story we'll. I also know that this is the best option due to Kit
A picture with Nick and Charlie from Heartstopper staring at each other. It says: Heartstopper. Who fancues a movie then? Netflix"
April 22, 2025 at 12:33 PM
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My thoughts about #PopeFrancis are....complicated. He was, undoubtedly, the best pope of my lifetime. He pushed the Catholic Church towards the teachings of Jesus in regards to the poor and marginalized in ways Popes John Paul II and Benedict did not. He also pushed the Catholic Church to be better
A picture of Pope Francis smiling
April 21, 2025 at 12:00 PM
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Today is #InternationalAsexualityDay, a day when we celebrate those of us who are on the ace spectrum. I am a sex favorable greysexual person. That means I enjoy having sex but I rarely experience sexual attraction. I can name every person I've ever been sexually attracted to (only 7 in total).
A grey box with a handprint in the colors of the asexual flag with the words "International Asexuality Day April 6" below the handprint
April 6, 2025 at 9:38 PM
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Today is #TransgenderDayOfVisibility. Right now, we are visible and we are in danger. The fascists have targeted us and lied about us and are doing what they can to eradicate us. But we will not be silenced or shut away.

If you want to be an ally, especially if you are cishet, we need you to stand
The trans flag with the words "Transgender Day of Visibility"
March 31, 2025 at 4:55 PM
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Just finished the season finale of #TheWayHome and it was beautiful! Loved that we got to see Colton realize who Alice, Kat, and Jacob are and that he was totally planning on telling Del about everything. Also loved that Del got to travel and see her wedding. That was so beautiful. Just a few
A grandfather hugging his granddaughter tightly A young woman standing on a porch in her wedding dress Three women standing in a kitchen
March 9, 2025 at 11:38 PM
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Need I say more? Just a few more years until the big 5-0! #Birthday #BirthdayQueen #BirthdayQueen👑 #MyBirthday
The words "It's my 47th birthday" in pink on a black background The birthday queen smiling at you
March 6, 2025 at 2:06 PM
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Just finished the penultimate episode of #TheWayHomeSeason3 and it was quite the trip. Colton reveals one aspect to the pond we didn't know: if you tell someone their future, the pond will stop working for you. And he and Delilah got engaged quite young. I'm sure it was mentioned before, but if so,
A man and woman standing out in a field A man and woman staring at each other with deep feelings in a forest A man and woman sitting on a couch staring into each other's eyes Two women and a man stand in a kitchen looking at something in front of them
March 2, 2025 at 1:00 AM
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Just stop with this awful bullshit. It's not funny, it's homophobia. I'll bet this person thinks they're an ally. They aren't. If you promote this sort of thing, you're promoting homophobia & are therefore a homophobe.

Here's a list of people to block. Read the description bsky.app/profile/did:...
A post with a homophobic book cover
February 27, 2025 at 1:02 PM
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pissed. And listening to him sing that absolutely beautiful song meant for Delilah gave me tears. And I also loved learning more about Colton's time traveling and my thought was in line with Del's: Did he know that Jacob had gone to the past and if so, why didn't he tell her? I'm sure there's a
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February 22, 2025 at 8:00 PM
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Just finished the eighth episode of the third season of #TheWayHomeHallmarkChannel and it did not disappoint at all. We got to hear Colton and Alice record the demo and it was incredible! @jordandoww.bsky.social and Sadie sound incredible together and if we don't get this song released, I'll be
A man and woman sitting on stools, singing into a microphone, recording a song. He's playing a guitar Two men standing on a porch looking at something with serious expressions A man with headphones around his neck looking at someone A woman smiling and looking at someone with headphones on
February 22, 2025 at 8:00 PM
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Some thoughts on love. Also, let's talk about outing....

"Jen. You belong...you belong to me. Don't you get it? You're my soulmate. Amy's gonna know love, everyday of her life she is gonna know how much her mother loved her. I'm gonna see to that. Ok?"

open.substack.com/pub/mychelva...
Jack and Jen from Dawson's Creek laying on a blanket with his hands behind his head, her head on his elbow, and her hand brushing his chest
February 17, 2025 at 2:10 PM
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Inspired by something @thisisbgm.bsky.social wrote, I have an essay coming out Monday at 9 am on my Substack about love that features Jack and Jen from #DawsonsCreek, a scene from #LoveSimon, how my #asexuality affected me before I knew about it consciously, and thoughts about compulsory sexuality.
Jack and Jen from Dawson's Creek laying on a blanket outside with his hands behind his head, her head on his left elbow, and her hand on his chest
February 15, 2025 at 8:02 PM
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So #RedWhiteAndRoyalBlue was filmed from June to August 2022 and released a year later. Assuming this shares that timeframe, we should get the #RWRBSequel in late 2026 or early 2027. That is really exciting! #RWRBMovie #RWRB
An update for Red, White, and Royal Blue 2 that says: "The sequel to Red, White & Royal Blue will start filming in the fall. I hear the script they have for it is really good."
February 12, 2025 at 1:05 PM
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@nytimes.com, stfu, just sit the f*ck down and shut your f*cking mouth. You've been taking an anti-trans angle for years and now are acting like you haven't been? F*cking hypocrites. You don't get gratitude and you don't get to act like an ally because you aren't one. You're just trying to take a
Headline from the New York Times Editorial Board that says "Trump's Shameful Campaign Against Transgender Americans"
February 9, 2025 at 9:34 PM
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Just finished episode 6 of season 3 of #TheWayHome. No singing this week (😢) but we did get to see Colton and Del dance together in the bed of a pickup. Quite a lovely moment. And Kat got herself in quite an interesting situation in the past. I am curious if Jacob is going to remain in 1816 or if
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February 8, 2025 at 6:55 PM
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streaming. I so want to be able to listen to them whenever I want. Seeing Susanna marrying Cyrus was a blow. And what is going on with Max and Cassie? That is going to be an interesting mystery to figure out. I have to admit to being annoyed at Del for yelling at Alice the way she did. We're halfway
A family gathered in front of a fireplace that has a Happy Birthday banner hanging over it
February 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM
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I just finished watching episode 5 of season 3 of #TheWayHome. I loved that it opened with 2 songs from @jordandoww.bsky.social. I particularly enjoyed the folk song (the second one). And then Alice sang that second folk song later, which was also gorgeous. I so hope they release these songs for
Jordan Doww singing a song in a coffee shop while playing guitar A group of people toasting a birthday with glasses of wine and soda A woman listening to a man singing in a coffee shop An older woman holding a glass of wine and smiling in front of a happy birthday banner while a younger man looks at her with a smile on his face
February 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM