Mhifi
@mtealeaves.bsky.social
she/they | fic writer | isfp 2w1 | genshin, hsr, lnds, tsuki odyssey
autistic - mbti analysis heavy
https://archiveofourown.org/users/Fmntealeaves
autistic - mbti analysis heavy
https://archiveofourown.org/users/Fmntealeaves
Please give me other ways to navigate neurotypical conversation!!
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Please give me other ways to navigate neurotypical conversation!!
Cant think of anymore and will add if i do, but these only apply to my experience with neurotypical perception of me. Ex pretending like youre sleeping doesnt work if youre someone known to be uptight or energetic. I have a natural fawn effect so most of these play into that
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Cant think of anymore and will add if i do, but these only apply to my experience with neurotypical perception of me. Ex pretending like youre sleeping doesnt work if youre someone known to be uptight or energetic. I have a natural fawn effect so most of these play into that
Gives you more time to think, and if they keep talking, thats fine, youve validated them by responding, and if they trail off, you have a few more 'rights' to indicate interest while you prepare your next answer if they dont talk again.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Gives you more time to think, and if they keep talking, thats fine, youve validated them by responding, and if they trail off, you have a few more 'rights' to indicate interest while you prepare your next answer if they dont talk again.
Not knowing when its your turn to speak - using repeating phrases to take up more space. Do this quieter than the person talking or at max, their speaking volume. When you THINK theyre about to stop, you can say phrases that can repeat like 'right... right right!' Or 'yeah... oh yeah, right...'
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Not knowing when its your turn to speak - using repeating phrases to take up more space. Do this quieter than the person talking or at max, their speaking volume. When you THINK theyre about to stop, you can say phrases that can repeat like 'right... right right!' Or 'yeah... oh yeah, right...'
This is okay i THINK bc neurotypicals generally turn to face you when theyre interested anyway, and some ppl will feel more comfy and talk more animatedly once you turn 'correctly' towards them
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
This is okay i THINK bc neurotypicals generally turn to face you when theyre interested anyway, and some ppl will feel more comfy and talk more animatedly once you turn 'correctly' towards them
Body language tells: if you want to indicate interest, face both feet with toes towards the person, and your chest towards the person. If youre alr facing the wrong way, you can make a slight show of waiting until someone says something interesting, then turning your body towards them w a vocal mhm
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Body language tells: if you want to indicate interest, face both feet with toes towards the person, and your chest towards the person. If youre alr facing the wrong way, you can make a slight show of waiting until someone says something interesting, then turning your body towards them w a vocal mhm
Fiddling w hair is good but recently tiktok has told me that seems like flirting. Boo. Now i fiddle w clothes or any hanging strings i have. Thing in pocket is okay, but sometimes hand in pocket indicates disinterest. Not good.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Fiddling w hair is good but recently tiktok has told me that seems like flirting. Boo. Now i fiddle w clothes or any hanging strings i have. Thing in pocket is okay, but sometimes hand in pocket indicates disinterest. Not good.
While waiting for someone to speak - hands can lay in lap, clasped in front, can do a single little QUIET clap and then clasp hands to indicate 'oh, i get it!!', can do a similar open palm up gesture towards the person and then retract hand to say 'right'/'oh, ive never thought of that'
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
While waiting for someone to speak - hands can lay in lap, clasped in front, can do a single little QUIET clap and then clasp hands to indicate 'oh, i get it!!', can do a similar open palm up gesture towards the person and then retract hand to say 'right'/'oh, ive never thought of that'
Open palm out usually with eye contact, and a little head tilt, shrug, or head bow. Depends on the situation and idk how it works. Observe the locals on this.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Open palm out usually with eye contact, and a little head tilt, shrug, or head bow. Depends on the situation and idk how it works. Observe the locals on this.
Hand gestures cont - open palm out to the person youre talking to, usually prefaced with 'what about you' or just a simple 'yknow, like...'? Its to indicate 'i am done speaking, and now id like for you to speak', esp when in our tone we dont quite do the right lilt needed to indicate finishing
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Hand gestures cont - open palm out to the person youre talking to, usually prefaced with 'what about you' or just a simple 'yknow, like...'? Its to indicate 'i am done speaking, and now id like for you to speak', esp when in our tone we dont quite do the right lilt needed to indicate finishing
Hand gestures: also a slippery slope, but i use these when i dont know conversation cadence and want to urge the other person to speak when its appropriate to speak. I have a lot of trouble with figuring out how to interject or when its my turn so i use these gestures to move convo:
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Hand gestures: also a slippery slope, but i use these when i dont know conversation cadence and want to urge the other person to speak when its appropriate to speak. I have a lot of trouble with figuring out how to interject or when its my turn so i use these gestures to move convo:
Pretending like youre wrong. Similar tactic: say oh yeah, I mean i HEARD this (even if you researched it) and push it to a video you saw or whatever. That way it sounds like youre just sharing info instead of correcting someone (which ofc sucks bc why wouldnt i want to hear from an expert?)
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Pretending like youre wrong. Similar tactic: say oh yeah, I mean i HEARD this (even if you researched it) and push it to a video you saw or whatever. That way it sounds like youre just sharing info instead of correcting someone (which ofc sucks bc why wouldnt i want to hear from an expert?)
Other filler phrases: sighing (careful usage! Has to be like a sympathetic sigh and not a terse one!), 'mhm', 'yeah', 'right', 'for sure'. Statements can be harsh! I find im percieved better when i add "i think..." or "i feel like..." or, "maybe...", or even validating their responses first.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Other filler phrases: sighing (careful usage! Has to be like a sympathetic sigh and not a terse one!), 'mhm', 'yeah', 'right', 'for sure'. Statements can be harsh! I find im percieved better when i add "i think..." or "i feel like..." or, "maybe...", or even validating their responses first.
I cant speak on where the pauses are since theyre different by region and culturally, but those pauses to indicate uncertanity are essential. Id rather risk them thinking im a bit weird in speech pattern and cadence than thinking im a self righteous and snobby mf. Do what you have to.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
I cant speak on where the pauses are since theyre different by region and culturally, but those pauses to indicate uncertanity are essential. Id rather risk them thinking im a bit weird in speech pattern and cadence than thinking im a self righteous and snobby mf. Do what you have to.
Fill in the blanks for you and its easier on neurotypical psyche. As an autistic person i find that i like to confirm even things precieved to be obvious because im wrong so often, so being gentle w the approach makes them more receptive to constant questioning which can feel like interrogation
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Fill in the blanks for you and its easier on neurotypical psyche. As an autistic person i find that i like to confirm even things precieved to be obvious because im wrong so often, so being gentle w the approach makes them more receptive to constant questioning which can feel like interrogation
Neurotypicals think we're being sarcastic. Typical response 'OBVIOUSLY i meant left (correcting me makes me feel like youre attacking me)'. Ofc it isnt obvious to us. Make everything a question, AND add that ... for extra confirmation time. A simple 'did you mean...' is gentler and sometimes they
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Neurotypicals think we're being sarcastic. Typical response 'OBVIOUSLY i meant left (correcting me makes me feel like youre attacking me)'. Ofc it isnt obvious to us. Make everything a question, AND add that ... for extra confirmation time. A simple 'did you mean...' is gentler and sometimes they
Slowing down your speech: neurotypicals hate how we speak. Blunt + no natural breaks = they assume we're snobby and correcting people for fun. Always sound unsure and make statements into questions. Ex someone says go right when they mean left? Say 'wait, did you... mean left? :))' NOT 'left'.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Slowing down your speech: neurotypicals hate how we speak. Blunt + no natural breaks = they assume we're snobby and correcting people for fun. Always sound unsure and make statements into questions. Ex someone says go right when they mean left? Say 'wait, did you... mean left? :))' NOT 'left'.
Similar: pretending to be spacey. Did process something? Blink slowly and say sorry i blanked out. We did not blank out we just process slowly.
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Similar: pretending to be spacey. Did process something? Blink slowly and say sorry i blanked out. We did not blank out we just process slowly.
Can pretend to wake up slowly. Do slow blinks for processing to figure out what they said if you have audio processing issues. Can sometimes compel people to talk quieter around you which is better on the senses. A little "hm?" Goes wonders for the fawning effect and ppl assume youre endearing slow
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Can pretend to wake up slowly. Do slow blinks for processing to figure out what they said if you have audio processing issues. Can sometimes compel people to talk quieter around you which is better on the senses. A little "hm?" Goes wonders for the fawning effect and ppl assume youre endearing slow
Feigning sleep/pretending to be sleepy. Main tactic. Works better bc I look sickly all the time and wear a mask. Pretending to sleep in public to cut off visual stimulation by saying im sleepy = cant see stimuli = less processing power allocated to reacting accordingly to people
November 30, 2024 at 2:51 AM
Feigning sleep/pretending to be sleepy. Main tactic. Works better bc I look sickly all the time and wear a mask. Pretending to sleep in public to cut off visual stimulation by saying im sleepy = cant see stimuli = less processing power allocated to reacting accordingly to people