Sandra Ann Miller
@msmiller.bsky.social
Writer of wrongs. Sassy little Substacker. Podcaster no longer on pause. Cynical. Sweary. 100% Aries. Happiness is punk AF. xo thehappyist.me
How do you know the work is working? There will be signs. Some bigger than others. Let's discuss. xo
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September 10, 2025 at 1:49 PM
How do you know the work is working? There will be signs. Some bigger than others. Let's discuss. xo
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It's the first Friday of the month, which means a new podcast ep is up. Let's bloom this June by collaborating, co-creating, and playing with time. xo
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June 6, 2025 at 2:48 PM
It's the first Friday of the month, which means a new podcast ep is up. Let's bloom this June by collaborating, co-creating, and playing with time. xo
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Listen in as Maggie Frank-Hsu talk about family estrangement, and finding acceptance. xo
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May 2, 2025 at 3:15 PM
Listen in as Maggie Frank-Hsu talk about family estrangement, and finding acceptance. xo
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Be the change you want to see and then you'll see the change. xo 5/5
April 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Be the change you want to see and then you'll see the change. xo 5/5
Yes, I see the world, too. That doesn't mean you have to stuck yourself. 4/5
April 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Yes, I see the world, too. That doesn't mean you have to stuck yourself. 4/5
Find out more with me on Substack. 3/5 thehappyist.substack.com
April 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Find out more with me on Substack. 3/5 thehappyist.substack.com
The Eudaimonic stuff. There’s no earning it or deserving it, only nurturing it. 2/5
April 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
The Eudaimonic stuff. There’s no earning it or deserving it, only nurturing it. 2/5
Still stuck? That sucks! But you can unstuck yourself. Start by being happy. Sounds silly, but it ain’t. Zero toxic positivity. Only the good stuff. The real stuff. 1/5
April 9, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Still stuck? That sucks! But you can unstuck yourself. Start by being happy. Sounds silly, but it ain’t. Zero toxic positivity. Only the good stuff. The real stuff. 1/5
How often do you shush your inner voice? Is it telling you what (truth) you don’t want to hear? Our intuition is vital to our happiness. And when has it ever steered you wrong. Maybe start listening. Deep down, you know. xo
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February 5, 2025 at 8:34 PM
How often do you shush your inner voice? Is it telling you what (truth) you don’t want to hear? Our intuition is vital to our happiness. And when has it ever steered you wrong. Maybe start listening. Deep down, you know. xo
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thehappyist.me
We can scatter our attention when there’s too much going on. We don’t have to attack on all fronts. We don’t have to be ready for everything. We just have to be present and trust ourselves to do whatever needs doing. Center your self, that inner person who takes on everything. 1/2
February 4, 2025 at 9:20 PM
We can scatter our attention when there’s too much going on. We don’t have to attack on all fronts. We don’t have to be ready for everything. We just have to be present and trust ourselves to do whatever needs doing. Center your self, that inner person who takes on everything. 1/2
Sometimes, we want to be right so much, we focus on the wrong outcome. We let our worries come true. Maybe let’s not do that anymore? Don’t believe you will fail. Don’t think it will be hard or impossible. What if you succeed? (A little scary, right?) What if it’s easy? 1/2
February 4, 2025 at 12:06 AM
Sometimes, we want to be right so much, we focus on the wrong outcome. We let our worries come true. Maybe let’s not do that anymore? Don’t believe you will fail. Don’t think it will be hard or impossible. What if you succeed? (A little scary, right?) What if it’s easy? 1/2
Everything you want, hope for and desire is waiting for you. The “ready” you’re waiting for is happiness. Give yourself that so you can fully enjoy and appreciate your goals and desires. The good news is happiness is so easy to have. Just give yourself permission. xo
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January 31, 2025 at 9:22 PM
Everything you want, hope for and desire is waiting for you. The “ready” you’re waiting for is happiness. Give yourself that so you can fully enjoy and appreciate your goals and desires. The good news is happiness is so easy to have. Just give yourself permission. xo
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Did I hear an “UGH!" or an “Ah!”? Even if you’re in an uncomfortable spot, it should be a relief to know you’re where you should be in order to get yourself where you want to be. You’re merely passing through. 1/2
January 30, 2025 at 8:41 PM
Did I hear an “UGH!" or an “Ah!”? Even if you’re in an uncomfortable spot, it should be a relief to know you’re where you should be in order to get yourself where you want to be. You’re merely passing through. 1/2
It’s a big mistake (huge…EPIC!) to think we know it all, we’ve learned it all, we’ve seen it all, we’ve reached our limit, we have to be different. Let yourself evolve. It’s a beautiful dance. xo
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January 29, 2025 at 8:22 PM
It’s a big mistake (huge…EPIC!) to think we know it all, we’ve learned it all, we’ve seen it all, we’ve reached our limit, we have to be different. Let yourself evolve. It’s a beautiful dance. xo
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We make mistakes. We let ourselves down. It’s part of being human. Pick yourself up instead of punishing yourself. Mistakes are our best teachers. Failures pepper the way to success. Every experience is a chance to grow. Don’t forget that. xo
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January 28, 2025 at 8:09 PM
We make mistakes. We let ourselves down. It’s part of being human. Pick yourself up instead of punishing yourself. Mistakes are our best teachers. Failures pepper the way to success. Every experience is a chance to grow. Don’t forget that. xo
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thehappyist.me
We can hold ourselves back. And, sometimes, we have very good reasons to rationalize that choice. What if we didn’t do that anymore? What if we encouraged ourselves like we do others? What if we stopped waiting and started pursuing? What would that be like? (Sort of awesome.)
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January 27, 2025 at 8:53 PM
We can hold ourselves back. And, sometimes, we have very good reasons to rationalize that choice. What if we didn’t do that anymore? What if we encouraged ourselves like we do others? What if we stopped waiting and started pursuing? What would that be like? (Sort of awesome.)
thehappyist.me
thehappyist.me
Why do we wait for things to be “perfect” or the timing to be “right”? We procrastinate to our peril. Think of all the opportunities we’ve missed because we were not sure if the time was right or we wanted to be ready. 1/2
January 24, 2025 at 8:44 PM
Why do we wait for things to be “perfect” or the timing to be “right”? We procrastinate to our peril. Think of all the opportunities we’ve missed because we were not sure if the time was right or we wanted to be ready. 1/2
Take a moment (or many) each day to remember the good that you already have. And I know there are times when that is not easy. I’ve been there with less than nothing and worried I’d lose what little I had left. Start small, if you have to. 1/2
January 23, 2025 at 8:48 PM
Take a moment (or many) each day to remember the good that you already have. And I know there are times when that is not easy. I’ve been there with less than nothing and worried I’d lose what little I had left. Start small, if you have to. 1/2
Think about it. What is calling to you to do? How long has it been begging for attention? Why do you ignore it or put it off? Let yourself.To quote Anthony Kedis: There’s never been a better time than right now. And there really won't be. 1/2
January 22, 2025 at 9:49 PM
Think about it. What is calling to you to do? How long has it been begging for attention? Why do you ignore it or put it off? Let yourself.To quote Anthony Kedis: There’s never been a better time than right now. And there really won't be. 1/2
If you think X, Y or Z will come along and make you happy, you’ve got authentic happiness all wrong, my darling. Get to know the diff between hedonic and eudaemonic happiness (I created a handy little PDF just for that on my website…see URL below). 1/2
January 21, 2025 at 9:18 PM
If you think X, Y or Z will come along and make you happy, you’ve got authentic happiness all wrong, my darling. Get to know the diff between hedonic and eudaemonic happiness (I created a handy little PDF just for that on my website…see URL below). 1/2
We are entering an uncomfortable but not unfamiliar time. As I’ve said before (on that Wednesday morning in November), I am NOT going back. Not going back to the bad mood I was in. Not enduring the lack of joy and optimism I had. I'm not. I hope you will not, too. 1/2
January 20, 2025 at 9:04 PM
We are entering an uncomfortable but not unfamiliar time. As I’ve said before (on that Wednesday morning in November), I am NOT going back. Not going back to the bad mood I was in. Not enduring the lack of joy and optimism I had. I'm not. I hope you will not, too. 1/2
Don't fake it! If you're working to achieve something, believe that you have until it happens. This isn’t pretending, it’s preparing. Believe you can, down to your bones, and you will. You really will. Walk as though you are already your future you, and soon that will be true. xo
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January 17, 2025 at 6:55 PM
Don't fake it! If you're working to achieve something, believe that you have until it happens. This isn’t pretending, it’s preparing. Believe you can, down to your bones, and you will. You really will. Walk as though you are already your future you, and soon that will be true. xo
thehappyist.me
thehappyist.me
My gawd! It’s only the second full week of 2025, and I’m ready to return it for a full refund. Feel similarly? It’s okay to be overwhelmed right now. It’s fine to be scared and concerned. Breathe through it. But don’t take root in it. Yes, this is A LOT. But this is how resilience is built. 1/2
January 16, 2025 at 8:11 PM
My gawd! It’s only the second full week of 2025, and I’m ready to return it for a full refund. Feel similarly? It’s okay to be overwhelmed right now. It’s fine to be scared and concerned. Breathe through it. But don’t take root in it. Yes, this is A LOT. But this is how resilience is built. 1/2
Just because our focus moves from one tragedy to another does not mean the other tragedy is forgotten. Compassion/care/concern is not pie! We aren’t going to run out of it. We don’t have to triage it. 1/3
January 15, 2025 at 8:36 PM
Just because our focus moves from one tragedy to another does not mean the other tragedy is forgotten. Compassion/care/concern is not pie! We aren’t going to run out of it. We don’t have to triage it. 1/3
If you don’t have anything nice to say — or well-informed — maybe just stay silent. Read the room. Read the world. The internet gives us a lot of freedom without a lot of consequence, and crisis will really show us who people are. I’m paying attention. 1/2
January 14, 2025 at 9:21 PM
If you don’t have anything nice to say — or well-informed — maybe just stay silent. Read the room. Read the world. The internet gives us a lot of freedom without a lot of consequence, and crisis will really show us who people are. I’m paying attention. 1/2