But did I ever have true autonomy? Did I ever have true agency throughout the marriage? It turns out, I didn’t really. And I only realised it when said marriage opened up.

#polyamory #feminism

Discovering I was polyamorous opened up feminist conversations with my nesting partner (old title: husband), and I am surprised to find out, he’s not quite “getting it”. He’s always been a “good guy”. He took over making dinner since 2020. 🧶

#polyamory

Obviously, children ALWAYS, come first—they are dependants. It goes without saying. Don’t confuse it with nesting partner being a “primary”.

I’m someone who strives for equity between the sexes, for children in education, for people with disabilities and not enough spoons.

Why would I be different between my partners.

It might be my increased sense of justice, being adhd, or because I’m new, but non-hierarchical relationships, or Relationship Anarchy, is the only way, for me.

Why would I put one partner before another??

Since last September, I’ve been deep in research on relationships, the history of monogamy (it’s economical/patriarchal derived), on jealousy and its opposite: compersion, listened to podcasts, joined the communities.