I don’t know what I would do in your shoes. The closest situation I’ve ever experienced was when my grandfather had a stroke and recovered as a very different man from the one my grandmother married. She learned to love the new man but it took a while.

Glad you’re feeling better. Sorry about the out of the frying pan into the fire recovery though.

I’m so glad you’re going to give it a try. I really hope it’s helpful.

If you aren’t in a family of stoke victims support group, you absolutely should be. I know you’re disinclined toward group activities but you don’t just need local friends, you need local friends who really understand what you’re going through and people in those groups absolutely do.

The aftermath is often the hardest bit. During a crisis there is all the fear and fighting to keep your adrenaline up. But the calm that follows a crisis can feel flat and depressing and now you’re living with a guy who is and isn’t the guy you married. That’s hard no matter how you look at it.

Damn that’s steep for that.

You’re allowed to have fun sometimes.

😮

I’m so sorry. That’s really rough.

I think couples counseling along with him seeing a counselor on his own is probably a good idea. The problem with self-soothing is that so often it’s counterproductive to actually feeling better long term, but the stuff that makes you actually feel better is hard to do when you’re feeling down.

I’m glad you’re here. I’m here too.

A reference to that stuff is in my current book. Weird

Been there, done that. 😫

Perception is such a weird thing.