calanthe milton
@melodioustear.bsky.social
she/her. disabled, autistic/adhd & queer, perpetually low on spell slots.
PhD @ university of kent, researching embodied Madness in interactive media through a Mad and crip lens. twitch affiliate. recklessenough.com
aka rebecca milton
PhD @ university of kent, researching embodied Madness in interactive media through a Mad and crip lens. twitch affiliate. recklessenough.com
aka rebecca milton
(imo most negative criticism of people having relationships with AI - excluding those rightfully related to copyright and climate effects - tends to infantilise the people doing it and also rings with saneism with how often they are called cr*zy or stereotyped)
November 15, 2025 at 8:48 PM
(imo most negative criticism of people having relationships with AI - excluding those rightfully related to copyright and climate effects - tends to infantilise the people doing it and also rings with saneism with how often they are called cr*zy or stereotyped)
I'm working on my final chapter and doing my best not to think about how much editing down of word count needs to happen next year 😅
November 14, 2025 at 7:31 PM
I'm working on my final chapter and doing my best not to think about how much editing down of word count needs to happen next year 😅
I am tired, I am hopeful, I am overwhelmed by medical admin and appointments. I am literally studying medicine to try and process that *I was not making a fuss over nothing* but also that I was still valid when I thought I had no illness that could be found in a test.
November 14, 2025 at 3:57 AM
I am tired, I am hopeful, I am overwhelmed by medical admin and appointments. I am literally studying medicine to try and process that *I was not making a fuss over nothing* but also that I was still valid when I thought I had no illness that could be found in a test.
The pressure is often so high that it is easier to go farther than preferable instead of interrupting the flow."
from Jarvela, p23 of www.nordiclarp.org/wiki/images/...
from Jarvela, p23 of www.nordiclarp.org/wiki/images/...
www.nordiclarp.org
November 12, 2025 at 2:43 PM
The pressure is often so high that it is easier to go farther than preferable instead of interrupting the flow."
from Jarvela, p23 of www.nordiclarp.org/wiki/images/...
from Jarvela, p23 of www.nordiclarp.org/wiki/images/...
Upholding the illusion is something that has been practiced repeatedly by all players over the years, while using safety words is something only a few players have ever done. Assuming that saying ”no” is easy in intense situations is stupid...
November 12, 2025 at 2:43 PM
Upholding the illusion is something that has been practiced repeatedly by all players over the years, while using safety words is something only a few players have ever done. Assuming that saying ”no” is easy in intense situations is stupid...
indeed to stop everything, break the illusion and say ”stop, this is too much for me”. In addition to the peer pressure coming from outside, the player’s own identity as a good player who does not spoil the experience for others can be extremely hard to overcome, even for one’s own safety....
November 12, 2025 at 2:43 PM
indeed to stop everything, break the illusion and say ”stop, this is too much for me”. In addition to the peer pressure coming from outside, the player’s own identity as a good player who does not spoil the experience for others can be extremely hard to overcome, even for one’s own safety....
"While players are absolutely entitled to leave the game
and use safety words or meta-level communication when a situation goes too far for their tastes, it is not necessarily easy to do so. The peer pressure from other players and one’s own commitment to uphold the illusion can make it very hard...
and use safety words or meta-level communication when a situation goes too far for their tastes, it is not necessarily easy to do so. The peer pressure from other players and one’s own commitment to uphold the illusion can make it very hard...
November 12, 2025 at 2:43 PM
"While players are absolutely entitled to leave the game
and use safety words or meta-level communication when a situation goes too far for their tastes, it is not necessarily easy to do so. The peer pressure from other players and one’s own commitment to uphold the illusion can make it very hard...
and use safety words or meta-level communication when a situation goes too far for their tastes, it is not necessarily easy to do so. The peer pressure from other players and one’s own commitment to uphold the illusion can make it very hard...
I'm also working on safety tools right now (though from a different angle) and came across this quote today which I thought you might find useful - it's from the 2012 States of Play Knutepunkt book, and whilst it's larp theory I think it's widely applicable (quote in replies for length):
November 12, 2025 at 2:43 PM
I'm also working on safety tools right now (though from a different angle) and came across this quote today which I thought you might find useful - it's from the 2012 States of Play Knutepunkt book, and whilst it's larp theory I think it's widely applicable (quote in replies for length):
Reposted by calanthe milton
I've used the x-card once when one of my declared lines was accidentally crossed by the GM. it was online, so was a 'click the card and it gets sent' system.
so this is both using an x-card and reminding of a line.
so this is both using an x-card and reminding of a line.
November 11, 2025 at 4:32 PM
I've used the x-card once when one of my declared lines was accidentally crossed by the GM. it was online, so was a 'click the card and it gets sent' system.
so this is both using an x-card and reminding of a line.
so this is both using an x-card and reminding of a line.