Martha Kauppi, LLC
@marthakauppillc.bsky.social
Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist, educator, author, speaker, and AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with relational intimacy challenges and sex issues.
I've been working on a brand-new podcast with Dr K Skye Henry Smith. It's called Untangling Intimacy, and it's designed to help therapists have conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships. We had fun in the recording booth, and we think you'll have fun listening!
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December 19, 2025 at 9:53 PM
I've been working on a brand-new podcast with Dr K Skye Henry Smith. It's called Untangling Intimacy, and it's designed to help therapists have conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships. We had fun in the recording booth, and we think you'll have fun listening!
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When you started working as a therapist, what surprised you the most?
December 15, 2025 at 9:30 PM
When you started working as a therapist, what surprised you the most?
" There is actually stuff that you can do differently that will change your attraction to your partner. And that's a real pivot compared to what we believe is if I'm not attracted to my partner, there's something my partner needs to change about themselves."
December 8, 2025 at 10:50 PM
" There is actually stuff that you can do differently that will change your attraction to your partner. And that's a real pivot compared to what we believe is if I'm not attracted to my partner, there's something my partner needs to change about themselves."
We need to stay flexible in our expectations and what we measure as success for our partner. If we don't, they may experience it as dismissive of their goals. This can compound issues in the relationship.
December 5, 2025 at 9:20 PM
We need to stay flexible in our expectations and what we measure as success for our partner. If we don't, they may experience it as dismissive of their goals. This can compound issues in the relationship.
Sexual trauma is too common and its lasting impacts shape our clients' relationships with their bodies, their partners and their world. “Pathways to Intimacy After Trauma” is about helping your clients forge a path forward in the wake of trauma.
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Pathways to Intimacy After Trauma
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December 3, 2025 at 9:28 PM
Sexual trauma is too common and its lasting impacts shape our clients' relationships with their bodies, their partners and their world. “Pathways to Intimacy After Trauma” is about helping your clients forge a path forward in the wake of trauma.
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/pathways-to-...
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" There is nothing about sexual function that say stays the same over the lifespan for anybody of any gender under any circumstances." - Martha Kauppi
December 1, 2025 at 8:30 PM
" There is nothing about sexual function that say stays the same over the lifespan for anybody of any gender under any circumstances." - Martha Kauppi
"I'm always very interested to hear what the lower desire partner actually has bandwidth for. And sometimes it's hypothetical. If you felt very secure, a hundred percent certain that your partner would not pressure you for sex, what would you have bandwidth for?"
November 28, 2025 at 8:29 PM
"I'm always very interested to hear what the lower desire partner actually has bandwidth for. And sometimes it's hypothetical. If you felt very secure, a hundred percent certain that your partner would not pressure you for sex, what would you have bandwidth for?"
Have you heard of New Relationship Energy (NRE)? What if we imagined a counterpart, Durable Relationship Energy? Learn more in this blog post!
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The Importance of Durable Relationship Energy
Are you and your partner(s) building durable relationship energy?
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November 26, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Have you heard of New Relationship Energy (NRE)? What if we imagined a counterpart, Durable Relationship Energy? Learn more in this blog post!
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rela...
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rela...
"What are you telling yourself about the experiences that you're having? So if I tell myself... it means something awful about myself, that's gonna create a different experience than if I tell myself, I'm learning."
November 24, 2025 at 9:16 PM
"What are you telling yourself about the experiences that you're having? So if I tell myself... it means something awful about myself, that's gonna create a different experience than if I tell myself, I'm learning."
"The person who got wounded is probably gonna take a deep breath because for the first time, possibly ever, somebody is handling their partner."
November 21, 2025 at 1:10 PM
"The person who got wounded is probably gonna take a deep breath because for the first time, possibly ever, somebody is handling their partner."
Question for our readers: What’s something you’d like to try out in session? Post it here for accountability.
November 19, 2025 at 12:50 PM
Question for our readers: What’s something you’d like to try out in session? Post it here for accountability.
Would you like to learn my approach to creating relational transformation in your individual sessions? My spring 2026 therapist retreat is opening for applications soon, and if you sign up for the early interest list, you'll have the best shot at getting a seat.
November 17, 2025 at 12:48 PM
Would you like to learn my approach to creating relational transformation in your individual sessions? My spring 2026 therapist retreat is opening for applications soon, and if you sign up for the early interest list, you'll have the best shot at getting a seat.
"As a therapist, and a human being, you would be doing a radical thing by challenging your clients (and yourself) to consider that all bodies are beautiful, all are worthy, all are equal." - Martha Kauppi
November 12, 2025 at 1:51 PM
"As a therapist, and a human being, you would be doing a radical thing by challenging your clients (and yourself) to consider that all bodies are beautiful, all are worthy, all are equal." - Martha Kauppi
Where do turn-ons come from? We don't really know for sure, but there's a theory that something gets linked to a sensation of pleasure when we're very young, and this forms an erotic template. Learn more in this video!
November 7, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Where do turn-ons come from? We don't really know for sure, but there's a theory that something gets linked to a sensation of pleasure when we're very young, and this forms an erotic template. Learn more in this video!
Shame runs so deep. Oftentimes, it lingers even when we’ve left the belief system that created it behind. For a deeper understanding of sexual shame, check out my webinar “Working with Sexual Shame: Therapeutic Strategies and Interventions.”
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Working with Sexual Shame
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November 5, 2025 at 1:39 PM
Shame runs so deep. Oftentimes, it lingers even when we’ve left the belief system that created it behind. For a deeper understanding of sexual shame, check out my webinar “Working with Sexual Shame: Therapeutic Strategies and Interventions.”
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/working-with...
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/working-with...
"It is your job to befriend your partner." What does that look like? And when something isn't working out in a relationship, how can you be a good friend without trying to fix this thing? In this video, I address these questions and more.
November 3, 2025 at 1:04 PM
"It is your job to befriend your partner." What does that look like? And when something isn't working out in a relationship, how can you be a good friend without trying to fix this thing? In this video, I address these questions and more.
Last chance for this spooky sale! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Ends today!
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October 31, 2025 at 1:03 PM
Last chance for this spooky sale! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Ends today!
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Only a few days left for this scarily good sale! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Good through Halloween only!
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October 29, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Only a few days left for this scarily good sale! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Good through Halloween only!
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
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Scarily good savings! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Only good for one more week!
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
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October 24, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Scarily good savings! Use code BOO for 20% off all non-monogamy and sex issue webinar trainings. Only good for one more week!
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
Looking for a quick desire discrepancy boost? My “Not Tonight, Dear” trainings are short but rich, with practical strategies to rejuvenate your work with disconnected couples. (Psst — you can buy parts one and two as a bundle, and save $32.)
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"Not Tonight, Dear" PART ONE
Helping clients transform differences in sexual desire
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October 22, 2025 at 1:48 PM
Looking for a quick desire discrepancy boost? My “Not Tonight, Dear” trainings are short but rich, with practical strategies to rejuvenate your work with disconnected couples. (Psst — you can buy parts one and two as a bundle, and save $32.)
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/not-tonight-...
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/not-tonight-...
This sale is so good it's spooky! Use code BOO for 20% off all webinar trainings. Good until October 31.
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
October 20, 2025 at 6:13 PM
This sale is so good it's spooky! Use code BOO for 20% off all webinar trainings. Good until October 31.
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/webinars
Shame and grandiosity stem from the same place within us, so it's worth exploring if I see a lot of grandiosity from a client, is there also shame? In this video, I explore that connection.
October 17, 2025 at 1:31 PM
Shame and grandiosity stem from the same place within us, so it's worth exploring if I see a lot of grandiosity from a client, is there also shame? In this video, I explore that connection.
All sorts of CNM relationships can work very well, be stable and satisfying for all involved, and stand the test of time.
October 15, 2025 at 1:44 PM
All sorts of CNM relationships can work very well, be stable and satisfying for all involved, and stand the test of time.
"Pressure for an orgasm is a losing proposition." Learn more in this video!
October 13, 2025 at 1:02 PM
"Pressure for an orgasm is a losing proposition." Learn more in this video!
I think we’ve all had the experience of “wow, that intervention did NOT land how I expected.” So, how do you ground yourself when things go wrong in session?
October 8, 2025 at 3:54 PM
I think we’ve all had the experience of “wow, that intervention did NOT land how I expected.” So, how do you ground yourself when things go wrong in session?