The only strange thing?

At one point in between races they played a jazz version of “A Few of My Favorite Things”… which was… a choice.

Go do what you love. Do it now when you, your spouse, and your kids are young. Don’t wait until you’re 60.

Have a great weekend ✌️

We got to see our first in-person:
- qualy sessions
- race
- safety car
- spins
- car rolling to a marshall post engulfed in smoke

Things we will literally never forget doing as firsts, together, on a cool windy day in Spain.

Was I tired (am I still tired)? Yes.

Did we have deep, meaningful, insightful Dad to son talk like I thought we might? No.

So what did we do?

Spent time together doing something we both really enjoy. We bonded.

Sometimes that’s all it takes.

We went to our first ever motorsport event yesterday — the FIA Motorsport Games in Valencia at Circuit Ricardo Tormo.

It was FANTASTIC. For a couple of guys that watch WEC, ELMS, and F1 getting to go to a circuit and see all sorts of different qualifying sessions & races was 💪💪💪

Been hopping into some of the posts recently to be a voice of reason. Pay it forward & share what we’ve learned.

We get a lot of things wrong as parents, but this is one thing I am confident we have gotten right.

Applies to our marriage too.

Don’t let resentment build up. Tear it down with open, honest communication.

Be like my kids.

(/end)

Granted, she also didn’t apologize… but it’s a win.

He expressed how she made him feel.

She listened.

And then the moment was done.

(5/n)

Tonight I was super impressed. My son had a low, but asked if his sister would get upset if it was about her. (She said no.)

He shared how she did something throughout the day that hurt his feelings.

She didn’t combat it with defending words. She listened.

(4/n)

What has impressed me most is how this has made our kids more reflective.

They ponder their day, sharing moments, and I learn little things about them.

They open up. Equally important — they’re learning to listen.

(3/n)

This forced reflection has helped all 4 of us immensely.

Proves:
- every day has a high to be happy about or enjoy
- most, not all, days have a low
- we have so many things to be thankful for

Sometimes thankfuls are big, sometimes simple like sharing 2 cups of ☕️

(2/n)

It’s better than not having done it though.

Back to building consistency.

Can’t wait to get home and back on Zwift 🚴

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Items back on the calendar. Talk about what worked and didn’t. Talk about how you feel about it.

Try again.

Do this for two months and your marriage is different. Your life is different.

Maybe 5%. Maybe 30%.

But it will be different.

Reading to your kids at bedtime twice is more than what you did all of last month.

Take the wins with the lumps.

Don’t let the lumps ruin your view of your progress — it isn’t linear.

Then sit down at the end of the week, do it again.

Don’t get discouraged with these hiccups and celebrate what you DID get done that was different from the previous week.

15 minutes talking with her is better than 0 last week.

1 walk in the middle of the day is better than sitting at your desk for 8 hours straight.

Then go execute as best as you can.

Know this: you will miss!

Your work calls will go long and you’ll miss taking a walk in the middle of your day.

Your kids will need something and cut into your time set aside to talk as adults and friends (and more 👀 👙)

Change is hard!

Give yourself some grace.

Build out a schedule with your wife.

Exercise. Kid time. Intimacy. Walking. Meal prep. Work. Fun.

Get it all down. Google Calendar. iCal. Paper hanging on the wall. You choose.