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Great! We did it a little differently. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. So we reversed the normal tradition.
December 26, 2025 at 4:02 PM
Great! We did it a little differently. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. So we reversed the normal tradition.
Lol. Probably have to get used to things like that. I know from experience. When we married, almost 15 years ago, my wife kept her last name and I took it. There have been lots of creative ways we/I have been addressed in Christmas cards and other mailings over the years.
December 23, 2025 at 1:22 PM
Lol. Probably have to get used to things like that. I know from experience. When we married, almost 15 years ago, my wife kept her last name and I took it. There have been lots of creative ways we/I have been addressed in Christmas cards and other mailings over the years.
I did not know any of that history either. For several reasons, matrilineal naming would be more sensible.
December 7, 2025 at 6:21 PM
I did not know any of that history either. For several reasons, matrilineal naming would be more sensible.
And, if that is the case, if the couple is married, it would make a great deal of sense for the husband to take the name of the wife.
December 7, 2025 at 6:17 PM
And, if that is the case, if the couple is married, it would make a great deal of sense for the husband to take the name of the wife.
Thank you for taking the time out to explain this. It is very interesting. I think, if we all were starting from scratch, it would certainly make sense for the children to take the last name of the mother.
December 7, 2025 at 6:07 PM
Thank you for taking the time out to explain this. It is very interesting. I think, if we all were starting from scratch, it would certainly make sense for the children to take the last name of the mother.
That is so interesting. Who was it? When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. We faced, many objections, including the biblical one.
December 7, 2025 at 3:01 PM
That is so interesting. Who was it? When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. We faced, many objections, including the biblical one.
From personal experience, it is very chaotic. When we married, I took my wife's last name. For some institutions and people, it's sailed through fine. For others, it took months, even years, to resolve.
November 18, 2025 at 3:40 PM
From personal experience, it is very chaotic. When we married, I took my wife's last name. For some institutions and people, it's sailed through fine. For others, it took months, even years, to resolve.
I did it in 2011.
November 17, 2025 at 12:48 PM
I did it in 2011.
My heart goes out to you. He should have been proud of your achievement.
But this kind of thing dies hard. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was very fierce. Tradition, sad as it is, dies hard.
But this kind of thing dies hard. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was very fierce. Tradition, sad as it is, dies hard.
November 12, 2025 at 12:45 PM
My heart goes out to you. He should have been proud of your achievement.
But this kind of thing dies hard. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was very fierce. Tradition, sad as it is, dies hard.
But this kind of thing dies hard. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was very fierce. Tradition, sad as it is, dies hard.
Hope that your next book gets published real soon!
October 9, 2025 at 4:44 PM
Hope that your next book gets published real soon!
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. It really is a tradition that is dying hard. And some of the most fierce protectors of the tradition are women!
October 8, 2025 at 4:34 PM
Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. It really is a tradition that is dying hard. And some of the most fierce protectors of the tradition are women!
So true. When we married my wife kept her surname and I took it. We received much criticism.
October 8, 2025 at 3:12 PM
So true. When we married my wife kept her surname and I took it. We received much criticism.
We were married in California. And when we did, my wife kept her surname and I took it. You are correct. We needed only the marriage certificate, and not a court order.
September 12, 2025 at 11:02 PM
We were married in California. And when we did, my wife kept her surname and I took it. You are correct. We needed only the marriage certificate, and not a court order.
Agree. It's been legal in the United States for some time. It's what I did when I got married to my wife. It's only fair that the law allows equality.
September 12, 2025 at 11:00 PM
Agree. It's been legal in the United States for some time. It's what I did when I got married to my wife. It's only fair that the law allows equality.
It's been legal here for some time, and it's what we did when we got married. Bravo.
September 12, 2025 at 10:59 PM
It's been legal here for some time, and it's what we did when we got married. Bravo.
Same thing happened with me. It's been almost 15 years and there are still issues that come up from time to time because I took her last name.
August 5, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Same thing happened with me. It's been almost 15 years and there are still issues that come up from time to time because I took her last name.
It is incredibly depressing.
July 23, 2025 at 3:11 PM
It is incredibly depressing.
Yes. It really is amazing, isn't it? And women are some of the fiercest guardians of the patriarchal system. Believe me, I found that out first hand.
July 23, 2025 at 1:25 PM
Yes. It really is amazing, isn't it? And women are some of the fiercest guardians of the patriarchal system. Believe me, I found that out first hand.
This is so true. The expectations in this area largely have not changed, and anybody going against tradition gets a lot of criticism. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was immense.
July 23, 2025 at 11:53 AM
This is so true. The expectations in this area largely have not changed, and anybody going against tradition gets a lot of criticism. I know from experience. When we married, my wife kept her last name and I took it. The criticism was immense.
I am a man and did the same thing.
July 23, 2025 at 11:51 AM
I am a man and did the same thing.
What are those?
July 22, 2025 at 12:47 PM
What are those?
Talk about an omen. When we married, we did that. My wife kept her last name and I took it.
July 22, 2025 at 12:47 PM
Talk about an omen. When we married, we did that. My wife kept her last name and I took it.
I did the same thing, 14 years ago, and had the same experience!
July 22, 2025 at 12:46 PM
I did the same thing, 14 years ago, and had the same experience!