Me: *a pulsar of butchness, putting out enough resting dyke energy to cause the entire audience at Lilith Fair to synch up their periods* "Wait a minute, there's something bothering me about this place..."

You know his oral game would be absolutely out of control. Ride his tongue like a goddamned mechanical bull

Sometimes that good erotica comes from that strange undefined primal place👍

Laying the finger v on his tongue like spreading a pussy is some INSPIRED ideas

I am also particularly a fan of the observation that "imagining a poor, soft eyed sexual addict that I could not locate (or prove existed), did in fact make the decision to save his life from oblivion by submitting himself to therapy" is unto itself a form of comfort fantasy.

Sometimes being okay with the reality of pornography and sexual expression means getting familiar with forms of it that you've never heard of before, so you don't make the mistake of thinking that a fantasy of "being destroyed by porn and sexual pleasure" is a real desire instead of a set dressing

I'm extremely aware as of late that masturbation is the one form of pleasure that can't be gated behind money or obedience, just about everyone has access to the ability to make themselves feel good without needing permission, so a lot of people want to obstruct it however they can

The whole anxiety attack could have been circumvented by sitting Kolitz down and explaining "Okay, this is called a 'mindbreak' fetish, and it's a form of catharsis for people who feel anxious about being horny by imagining they no longer have the coherency to be embarrassed."

I guess maybe it's easier understand that the idea of "There's An Amount of Jacking Off that Will Break Your Brain" is unto itself a form of imaginary sexual fantasy, when you're used to seeing it applied to cis women as part of the whole "a sex partner I won't risk being rejected by" fantasy

God I knew that Harpers article was trouble the minute I saw it cross my feed, just summaries that there was a level of Masturbation that would Induce Existential Oblivion were enough for me to walk the hell on

Oh absolutely, I'm on the hunt for good ones!