Oasis or Blur?

The other thing I'll say, is that the community around Lolita Fashion is (almost always) made up of incredibly passionate people who will be delighted to help you find stuff that works for you. If there's a community local to you, that's often the best source of info. Hope you find stuff you love!

Lace Market is also great, but comes with the usual market caveat of buying from individual sellers - so make sure to check for feedback on profiles. That said, it's very worth putting in the effort to find second hand pieces - especially stuff that's not super sought after can be very cheap there.

Closet Child often has amazing stuff second hand - sometimes their prices can be a touch high for stuff that's in demand, but they can often have some interesting stuff at more attainable prices, and they've been in the game long enough to be trustworthy.

@cakejumper.bsky.social can help more than I can, but I've learned a bit being with her for 8 years! Big shou to Atelier Pierrot for an amazing selection of brands and great sizing options. They're great for having a reliable and reputable seller to buy from, and solid international shipping.