I’m curious as to who “you guys” are. I’m literally posting a summary of a book I read.

Perfect example!

“Violence helps the individual to escape the irrelevance of his existence, fills the emptiness of his life and provides him with the heady experience of power over himself and over others.”

“Hatred assumes the enemy is immutable. The enemy will always be evil, there is no reason to ever consider any creative solutions to the conflict. In that sense, hatred is different from anger: anger holds out the possibility of a better future. It’s goal is to correct the other person’s behavior”

“There are people who thrive on humiliation […] [T]hey are addicted to feelings of humiliation, provoke them systematically and perpetrate acts of humiliation to ‘avenge’ the humiliation they feel they have suffered.”

“Feelings of humiliation drive acts of humiliation, and on and on the cycle goes. Humiliation can become an obsession ‘as significant and consuming as any form of addiction or dependence.’ You rarely read about humiliation in history books or in news coverage of political conflict”

“In very few conflicts is one side totally right and the other side completely wrong.”

“People need to matter. It’s a fundamental requirement for life, like oxygen. Our need to matter lies underneath all kinds of group conflict”

“Humans tend to interpret new information so that it fits into their existing beliefs, a well-studied phenomenon known as confirmation bias”

“Wishing your opponent will finally see the light is a fool’s errand. Counting up the other side’s wrongs is a hobby that can last a lifetime. Obsessing over the next election is a delay tactic. People swept up in high conflict think of themselves as right”

She got her priorities straight

4. The book describes the idea of “emotional energy” that dogs and humans share, which transfers allows dogs to pick up on subtle cues and respond in ways that can be surprisingly intuitive.

#booksky

2. By recognizing and understanding our own emotional states, we can gain insight into why our dogs act a certain way and address behavioral problems at their root.

3. The calming, therapeutic effect of dogs on their owners comes from their capacity to absorb emotions.

My fave ideas from the book:

1. Dogs instinctively tune into their owners' emotions and often mirror these feelings through their behavior. When we experience stress, anxiety, or joy, our dogs sense it and may act accordingly