Lilian Calles Barger
@liliancbarger.bsky.social
Historian of gender, religion, & culture, feral theologian, author of three books, writing "Second Sight: Simone de Beauvoir and a Lost Vision for American Feminism" art dabbler, hiker, wisdom seeker. New Mexico.
If anything,America is and has always been a masculinist nation and culture. The biggest celebration of military power in history is right here in the USA.
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No, Women Aren’t the Problem
America is rapidly becoming the manosphere, but sure, let’s go after the “feminization” of culture.
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November 7, 2025 at 3:17 AM
If anything,America is and has always been a masculinist nation and culture. The biggest celebration of military power in history is right here in the USA.
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The "male gaze" makes every woman insecure. What happens when we are no longer looked at? Do we disappear or find freedom to be ourselves.
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Half a century of the ‘male gaze’: why Laura Mulvey’s pioneering theory still resonates today
In 1975, Laura Mulvey wrote an essay that reshaped feminist film theory. Its ideas still echo today, in every slow-mo entrance and lingering camera shot.
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November 5, 2025 at 9:23 PM
The "male gaze" makes every woman insecure. What happens when we are no longer looked at? Do we disappear or find freedom to be ourselves.
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theconversation.com/half-a-centu...
Many people are reluctant to call themselves feminist. There are so many flavors of feminism, surely one can find one that fits best. For many it still means " a secular religion devoted to hating men, destroying the family, and killing babies."
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Is it OK to use the 'F' word?
As a lifelong conservative, I m not sure I can think of a word that shuts my fellow constitutionalists down faster than this one
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October 30, 2025 at 7:46 PM
Many people are reluctant to call themselves feminist. There are so many flavors of feminism, surely one can find one that fits best. For many it still means " a secular religion devoted to hating men, destroying the family, and killing babies."
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Weddings have gotten ridiculous! What happened to the micro weddings in one's living room or back yard? Do women really need to pretend to be queen for a day? Do friends have to comply with your fantasy? What does love have to do with it?
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Bridesmaid Inflation
Why are we making those we love most suffer for our weddings?
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October 27, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Weddings have gotten ridiculous! What happened to the micro weddings in one's living room or back yard? Do women really need to pretend to be queen for a day? Do friends have to comply with your fantasy? What does love have to do with it?
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www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archiv...
Only two choices? Most women reject both and find another way. Reject false choices.
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Girl boss or tradwife? An economist on how a workforce built for men has failed women
In her new book Having it All, Corinne Low outlines how stubborn expectations around work and home fail to accommodate working women
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October 27, 2025 at 4:58 PM
Only two choices? Most women reject both and find another way. Reject false choices.
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www.theguardian.com/money/2025/o...
Did capitalism encourage women to enter the market because of a need for both workers and consumers? Did the demand for equality by women get co-opted by capitalism? Reconsider your relationship with capitalism, it may not be your friend.
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How Corporate Feminism Went from “Love Me” to “Buy Me”
A decade ago, Sheryl Sandberg’s “Lean In” aimed to tear down the obstacles that kept women from reaching the top. Now her successors want to tear down everything.
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October 23, 2025 at 3:01 PM
Did capitalism encourage women to enter the market because of a need for both workers and consumers? Did the demand for equality by women get co-opted by capitalism? Reconsider your relationship with capitalism, it may not be your friend.
www.newyorker.com/magazine/202...
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The images of older women are erased on the web and few on social media. I recall hearing that ageism is the only bias that is against your future self. So true, I am guilty.
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It's true: The internet skews the reality of women (and men) in the workforce
Age and gender biases are baked into what we see online, a large new study confirms.
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October 20, 2025 at 8:41 PM
The images of older women are erased on the web and few on social media. I recall hearing that ageism is the only bias that is against your future self. So true, I am guilty.
www.motherjones.com/media/2025/1...
www.motherjones.com/media/2025/1...
Here is my conversation with Hilary Holladay on her fabulous biography of feminist and fascinating poet Adrienne Rich
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Hilary Holladay, "The Power of Adrienne Rich: A Biography" (Princeton UP, 2025) - New Books Network
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October 20, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Here is my conversation with Hilary Holladay on her fabulous biography of feminist and fascinating poet Adrienne Rich
newbooksnetwork.com/the-power-of...
newbooksnetwork.com/the-power-of...
Freshly out in paperback from OUP!
October 10, 2025 at 4:26 PM
Freshly out in paperback from OUP!
These stories make me ambivalent about my book under contract. How does a writer fight this? It feels like one is spitting against the wind.
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The dawn of the post-literate society
And the end of civilisation
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October 1, 2025 at 9:48 PM
These stories make me ambivalent about my book under contract. How does a writer fight this? It feels like one is spitting against the wind.
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Not surprising and not new. Every few years this type of story makes the news. It's like Groundhog day, every day.
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Opinion | American Women Are Leaving the Work Force. Why?
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October 1, 2025 at 9:44 PM
Not surprising and not new. Every few years this type of story makes the news. It's like Groundhog day, every day.
www.nytimes.com/2025/10/01/o...
www.nytimes.com/2025/10/01/o...
Round two of Me Too. I hope these women will compile the list of their abusers and make it public.
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Trump’s Reaction to the Epstein Victims’ Rally Is Quite Telling
There's an uncomfortable, gendered spectacle playing out in Washington this week.
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September 4, 2025 at 10:55 PM
Round two of Me Too. I hope these women will compile the list of their abusers and make it public.
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slate.com/news-and-pol...
Don't let "Gold Digger" feminism put you in a golden cage you can't escape. Talk about how low feminism has gone!
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The Gold Digger Was an Archvillain. Now She’s an Aspiration.
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August 29, 2025 at 5:10 PM
Don't let "Gold Digger" feminism put you in a golden cage you can't escape. Talk about how low feminism has gone!
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/29/m...
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/29/m...
As long as there are women feminism is not over. It's a bit lost at the moment but not forsaken. My book "Second Sight: Simone de Beauvoir and the Lost Vision for American Feminism" now is under contract. More info later. Below Simone de Beauvoir and her partner Jean-Paul Sartre, 1946.
August 25, 2025 at 5:37 PM
As long as there are women feminism is not over. It's a bit lost at the moment but not forsaken. My book "Second Sight: Simone de Beauvoir and the Lost Vision for American Feminism" now is under contract. More info later. Below Simone de Beauvoir and her partner Jean-Paul Sartre, 1946.
Reproductive technologies that allowed women to birth children (almost) without men does not work equally for men who want children and no partner. Is this a good development for humanity?
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The Growing Cohort of Single Dads by Choice
For some men, fatherhood is an answer to questions about modern masculinity.
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August 19, 2025 at 9:38 PM
Reproductive technologies that allowed women to birth children (almost) without men does not work equally for men who want children and no partner. Is this a good development for humanity?
www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...
www.theatlantic.com/family/archi...
Reposted by Lilian Calles Barger
So good to talk with @liliancbarger.bsky.social about my new book, Something Between Us: about our immigrant American families, about isolating home designs and property fences, and the value of more porous relationships with the world beyond. Listen here: newbooksnetwork.com/something-be...
Anand Pandian, "Something Between Us: The Everyday Walls of American Life, and How to Take Them Down" (Stanford UP, 2025) - New Books Network
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August 6, 2025 at 4:40 PM
So good to talk with @liliancbarger.bsky.social about my new book, Something Between Us: about our immigrant American families, about isolating home designs and property fences, and the value of more porous relationships with the world beyond. Listen here: newbooksnetwork.com/something-be...
Women, beware! Listen to your gut! The public world has not changed that much for women encountering a stranger.
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Uber’s Festering Sexual Assault Problem
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August 6, 2025 at 1:13 PM
Women, beware! Listen to your gut! The public world has not changed that much for women encountering a stranger.
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/06/b...
www.nytimes.com/2025/08/06/b...
A current idea is that real masculinity means a man protects and provides for his partner (Galloway). No problem with that. But, women protect and provide for men all the time. It's not a gender thing its a human thing to protect and provide for those we love.
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www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/w...
Why Women Are Weary of the Emotional Labor of ‘Mankeeping’
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July 29, 2025 at 2:57 PM
A current idea is that real masculinity means a man protects and provides for his partner (Galloway). No problem with that. But, women protect and provide for men all the time. It's not a gender thing its a human thing to protect and provide for those we love.
www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/w...
www.nytimes.com/2025/07/28/w...
For goodness sake people (women) why is this still a thing? It's infuriating.
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Opinion: To be a feminist or not to be a feminist?
Despite being a young woman who believes in advocating for gender equality, I don’t feel at ease calling myself a feminist. I have voted accordingly, continue to cover gender issues...
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July 28, 2025 at 9:56 PM
For goodness sake people (women) why is this still a thing? It's infuriating.
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Are you too much?
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‘Too loud’, ‘too messy’, ‘too much’ … why should women be expected to shrink and shut up?
As Lena Dunham’s new show reminds us, whether they’re at work or on a date, women are expected to tone it down if they want to get on. What if they refuse to play ball?
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July 22, 2025 at 9:41 PM
Are you too much?
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Is this part of the crisis of masculinity? Men don't know how to write about themselves or imagine themselves to be other than toxic or wimps. Seems like a loss of humanity, the loss of real flesh and blood men who face the world authentically. www.nytimes.com/2025/07/03/a...
The Death and Life of the Straight White Man’s Novel
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July 8, 2025 at 1:54 PM
Is this part of the crisis of masculinity? Men don't know how to write about themselves or imagine themselves to be other than toxic or wimps. Seems like a loss of humanity, the loss of real flesh and blood men who face the world authentically. www.nytimes.com/2025/07/03/a...