LinkedIn, Twitter, irl events... I feel like I'm losing my mind. Stop itttttt

It's hard to accept someone sacrificing likeability for liberational principles when you don't have any. When small aspec communities evolve in the next decade, my 1st thoughts will be how we freed & helped ourselves, not how I made Elizabeth from 2025 so uncomfortable

I keep seeing how white asexuals & white allosexuals alike not get that my Blackness informs my asexual politic, not the other way around. I dont care for respectability politics or queer validity politics. I'm not itching to be liked by them like they arrogantly assume I do

I don't want garlic bread memes and allosexuals saying I'm #valid, i want bodily autonomy for everyone in society. I want freedom!

The reason why the mainstream image of The Asexual is white, whether soft and innocent or harsh and calculated, is intentional. To really understand Black asexuality and the Black asexual experience, you have to understand antiblackness and compulsory sexuality.

Not only do u need asexuality's basics but u need to advance them beyond basic cookie cutter asexual 101. Beyond asexuality is a spectrum + valid platitudes you need to know compulsory sexuality exists & white supremacy doesn't disappear just bc we're ace.

But things can and do get better. I go to real life ace events and have my server and things have been a lot better since moving away from tumblr. We’re in the early stages of shaping what Black asexuality is and i intend to use this time the best i can to pave this lane.

It was also hurtful to be met with the same lesbophobic rhetoric that had plagued me before, the ideas of romance with women just being friendship, having my lesbian posts tagged as aroace and told pro-gay love & sex activism was aphobic/acephobic, activism i very much need(ed)

Black-Ace-Culture-Is was born out of passion for Black asexual community, but no good deed goes unpunished. I had white aces & non Black poc speaking over us constantly, a reddit leaker, slurs in my inbox & smear campaign led by aroacesafeplaceforall + their rancid following

But as i grow in visibility, i kept getting spoken over by white asexuals. Aroace or alloace, sex repulsed or sex favourable, hell the white and non Black aroallos too, it does not matter. The online white aspec community isn't ready for me or my ideas 🤷🏾‍♀️

When they spoke on antiblackness in the community i got it but i didn't tuly understand until i joined tumblr. I didn't plan on being an ace blogger, i just yapped about asexuality and then i kept blowing up & got/get labelled an 'asexual activist' and 'educator'

My 1st experiences involved me getting aired in my 1st ace and aro discord server so not much was lost by leaving. Then i was just a lone wolf, not really having a community for a while. I found Yasmin Benoit and Minu and they were my 1st Black ace creators

And most recently, this essay on how compulsory sexuality affects me specifically and personally, in terms of how asexuality affects and allegedly "desexualises" my Blackness and lesbianism and why I'm tired as fuck x

leikeliscomet.substack.com/p/compulsory...

Next is Aces Are White, Aros Are Green, But Spades Are Black. The most hurtful asexual essay I've ever written for obvious reasons but 1 that was needed. A deep dive into how the ace, aro + overall aspec community is antiblack to Black aces + aros & why.

leikeliscomet.substack.com/p/aces-are-w...

Right off the bat is my piece about the Fifteenth Doctor. It's all about the overlap in Blackness and homoromanticism in terms of how these identities are often erased and demonised when it comes to the perception of "acceptable" asexuality

leikeliscomet.substack.com/p/the-black-...