for, vets like "yeah he'll just stop peeing one day and that's when you know"
He's had a lot of muscle wasting from that but switching to wet food has helped him gain back quite a bit
He's had a lot of muscle wasting from that but switching to wet food has helped him gain back quite a bit
October 31, 2025 at 8:15 PM
for, vets like "yeah he'll just stop peeing one day and that's when you know"
He's had a lot of muscle wasting from that but switching to wet food has helped him gain back quite a bit
He's had a lot of muscle wasting from that but switching to wet food has helped him gain back quite a bit
Theo is still at it, he's 10-11 now, decided to suddenly go stone deaf over a period of like 6 months when he was 8 and it suits his attitude well. He's still having fun. He has a bladder wall tumor so pee issues on and off but mostly OK and as you probably know, slow moving thing you cant do much
October 31, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Theo is still at it, he's 10-11 now, decided to suddenly go stone deaf over a period of like 6 months when he was 8 and it suits his attitude well. He's still having fun. He has a bladder wall tumor so pee issues on and off but mostly OK and as you probably know, slow moving thing you cant do much
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I am so sorry to hear about soda and honey gosh :(((( 16 is so impressive tho
How is badger?
I am so sorry to hear about soda and honey gosh :(((( 16 is so impressive tho
How is badger?
October 31, 2025 at 8:11 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about soda and honey gosh :(((( 16 is so impressive tho
How is badger?
I am so sorry to hear about soda and honey gosh :(((( 16 is so impressive tho
How is badger?
I'll fuckin say
I hope you've been doing amazing Arrott, I thought about you and the dogs many times
I hope you've been doing amazing Arrott, I thought about you and the dogs many times
September 21, 2025 at 1:00 AM
I'll fuckin say
I hope you've been doing amazing Arrott, I thought about you and the dogs many times
I hope you've been doing amazing Arrott, I thought about you and the dogs many times
❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much Robin, much needed. I hope you've been well
September 21, 2025 at 12:59 AM
❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much Robin, much needed. I hope you've been well
His specific brand of abuse and my brain wounds aligned with such precision that it was psychologically impossible for me to extricate myself from the dependency without being forced like this
I think he knew that, too, on some level
I think he knew that, too, on some level
September 15, 2025 at 11:04 PM
His specific brand of abuse and my brain wounds aligned with such precision that it was psychologically impossible for me to extricate myself from the dependency without being forced like this
I think he knew that, too, on some level
I think he knew that, too, on some level
One thing he liked to cry when upset during disagreements, he had long expressed doubt that we'd last - "I always end up being a lesson for everybody!"
Yeah, dude. Hell of a self-fulfilling prophecy there
I would've stayed forever, too, hoping and waiting for him to start doing better again. Scary
Yeah, dude. Hell of a self-fulfilling prophecy there
I would've stayed forever, too, hoping and waiting for him to start doing better again. Scary
September 15, 2025 at 10:56 PM
One thing he liked to cry when upset during disagreements, he had long expressed doubt that we'd last - "I always end up being a lesson for everybody!"
Yeah, dude. Hell of a self-fulfilling prophecy there
I would've stayed forever, too, hoping and waiting for him to start doing better again. Scary
Yeah, dude. Hell of a self-fulfilling prophecy there
I would've stayed forever, too, hoping and waiting for him to start doing better again. Scary
He got the van, by the way
It's in his name, I told him it would always be his safe place in the world even if he never spoke to me again (predicated on the belief that he was a good, honest person) and I have no recourse
Insisted he'd pay me back too, though I didn't care then
Piss
It's in his name, I told him it would always be his safe place in the world even if he never spoke to me again (predicated on the belief that he was a good, honest person) and I have no recourse
Insisted he'd pay me back too, though I didn't care then
Piss
September 15, 2025 at 10:51 PM
He got the van, by the way
It's in his name, I told him it would always be his safe place in the world even if he never spoke to me again (predicated on the belief that he was a good, honest person) and I have no recourse
Insisted he'd pay me back too, though I didn't care then
Piss
It's in his name, I told him it would always be his safe place in the world even if he never spoke to me again (predicated on the belief that he was a good, honest person) and I have no recourse
Insisted he'd pay me back too, though I didn't care then
Piss
All of this is such Shameless plotline shit it's unbelievable
Can't wait to have a fucking normal ass relationship at some point well down the line
The kind where you can actually talk about your feelings and mutually acknowledge reality
Can't wait to have a fucking normal ass relationship at some point well down the line
The kind where you can actually talk about your feelings and mutually acknowledge reality
September 15, 2025 at 10:44 PM
All of this is such Shameless plotline shit it's unbelievable
Can't wait to have a fucking normal ass relationship at some point well down the line
The kind where you can actually talk about your feelings and mutually acknowledge reality
Can't wait to have a fucking normal ass relationship at some point well down the line
The kind where you can actually talk about your feelings and mutually acknowledge reality
They 100% have no idea of the cheating... and idk if this person would even care, they're extremely ~simple~
I can't reach out to them without poking the sleeping bear but I'll always be willing to make space if they reach out to me... I have nothing but compassion for them
I can't reach out to them without poking the sleeping bear but I'll always be willing to make space if they reach out to me... I have nothing but compassion for them
September 15, 2025 at 10:42 PM
They 100% have no idea of the cheating... and idk if this person would even care, they're extremely ~simple~
I can't reach out to them without poking the sleeping bear but I'll always be willing to make space if they reach out to me... I have nothing but compassion for them
I can't reach out to them without poking the sleeping bear but I'll always be willing to make space if they reach out to me... I have nothing but compassion for them
Was with him for 4 years, unemployed, living in a 40 foot camper with no running water, before I "opened his eyes to the abuse", and this poor individual was utterly brainwashed in demeanor, no identity left
September 15, 2025 at 10:38 PM
Was with him for 4 years, unemployed, living in a 40 foot camper with no running water, before I "opened his eyes to the abuse", and this poor individual was utterly brainwashed in demeanor, no identity left
The partner he cheated on with me is back, by the way
They popped back up "completely by chance", "random encounter" the week the mental health break began and he decided he was fully finished with me
Was at the house the night of the assault, testified on my ex's behalf in court
They popped back up "completely by chance", "random encounter" the week the mental health break began and he decided he was fully finished with me
Was at the house the night of the assault, testified on my ex's behalf in court
September 15, 2025 at 10:33 PM
The partner he cheated on with me is back, by the way
They popped back up "completely by chance", "random encounter" the week the mental health break began and he decided he was fully finished with me
Was at the house the night of the assault, testified on my ex's behalf in court
They popped back up "completely by chance", "random encounter" the week the mental health break began and he decided he was fully finished with me
Was at the house the night of the assault, testified on my ex's behalf in court
He's not evil, he never set out to do harm, very little of what he did was consciously calculated... both of my BPD-diagnosed roomies as well as others along the way who knew him closely believe he's borderline
Basically he has the amygdala of a 2 year old and will never get himself help
We tried
Basically he has the amygdala of a 2 year old and will never get himself help
We tried
September 15, 2025 at 10:25 PM
He's not evil, he never set out to do harm, very little of what he did was consciously calculated... both of my BPD-diagnosed roomies as well as others along the way who knew him closely believe he's borderline
Basically he has the amygdala of a 2 year old and will never get himself help
We tried
Basically he has the amygdala of a 2 year old and will never get himself help
We tried
It's a lot
Learned every major relationship lesson in one fell swoop, it feels like
Lads, don't explain away the red flags bc this one is so uniquely special, he's such a misunderstood victimized angel that only you get. That's why they're red flags. No explanation makes them not red flags
Learned every major relationship lesson in one fell swoop, it feels like
Lads, don't explain away the red flags bc this one is so uniquely special, he's such a misunderstood victimized angel that only you get. That's why they're red flags. No explanation makes them not red flags
September 15, 2025 at 10:18 PM
It's a lot
Learned every major relationship lesson in one fell swoop, it feels like
Lads, don't explain away the red flags bc this one is so uniquely special, he's such a misunderstood victimized angel that only you get. That's why they're red flags. No explanation makes them not red flags
Learned every major relationship lesson in one fell swoop, it feels like
Lads, don't explain away the red flags bc this one is so uniquely special, he's such a misunderstood victimized angel that only you get. That's why they're red flags. No explanation makes them not red flags
...now I'm back living with my shit ass dad in his hoarder house in the shit ass suburbs 30 min from the city with no car, access to community lost, and the realization that the gentle, honest soul who was my best friend and soulmate, my partner for life... never existed?
September 15, 2025 at 10:12 PM
...now I'm back living with my shit ass dad in his hoarder house in the shit ass suburbs 30 min from the city with no car, access to community lost, and the realization that the gentle, honest soul who was my best friend and soulmate, my partner for life... never existed?
...he smears roommates and I across social media claiming we framed, abused, and assaulted *him*, all of the local alt queers believe him, friends don't ask for our side, we're forced to abandon the house, I lose my brand new job I loved (my very first)...
September 15, 2025 at 10:09 PM
...he smears roommates and I across social media claiming we framed, abused, and assaulted *him*, all of the local alt queers believe him, friends don't ask for our side, we're forced to abandon the house, I lose my brand new job I loved (my very first)...
...late July he has a full mental break that culminates in him physically assaulting our roommate, displacing us for a week, dodging papers being served, us having him removed via involuntary commitment order, then he lies in court, we lose the restraining order on a technicality...
September 15, 2025 at 10:05 PM
...late July he has a full mental break that culminates in him physically assaulting our roommate, displacing us for a week, dodging papers being served, us having him removed via involuntary commitment order, then he lies in court, we lose the restraining order on a technicality...
...this June or so he breaks up with me, I'm shocked, crushed but accept it, he's still abusive but things seem stable, we're good to share a room, we had just signed a lease on a townhouse downtown and both plan to stay til it's up, we still fuck, hang, etc, I'm still in love...
September 15, 2025 at 10:01 PM
...this June or so he breaks up with me, I'm shocked, crushed but accept it, he's still abusive but things seem stable, we're good to share a room, we had just signed a lease on a townhouse downtown and both plan to stay til it's up, we still fuck, hang, etc, I'm still in love...
...he's highly emotionally abusive, I'm making endless excuses for him, very isolated, mental health in the gutter, eventually become a shell of a person myself, completely subservient to him and still he can't stand me...
September 15, 2025 at 9:57 PM
...he's highly emotionally abusive, I'm making endless excuses for him, very isolated, mental health in the gutter, eventually become a shell of a person myself, completely subservient to him and still he can't stand me...
...I'll spare some of the story but I spend all of the money I inherited from my grandma on a converted van so he never has to be homeless again and we can do van life together (never happened) - then we move in together to my friend's apt last Sept - things are rapidly declining...
September 15, 2025 at 9:55 PM
...I'll spare some of the story but I spend all of the money I inherited from my grandma on a converted van so he never has to be homeless again and we can do van life together (never happened) - then we move in together to my friend's apt last Sept - things are rapidly declining...
...he boots that partner, we get closer and are smitten with each other (he takes my virginity, is my first anything) and in spring 2024 he suddenly becomes homeless and highly emotionally and materially dependent on me, we are locked in for life, talk like we're married, etc, I'm over the moon...
September 15, 2025 at 9:52 PM
...he boots that partner, we get closer and are smitten with each other (he takes my virginity, is my first anything) and in spring 2024 he suddenly becomes homeless and highly emotionally and materially dependent on me, we are locked in for life, talk like we're married, etc, I'm over the moon...
...fully bought that this 23yo partner was leeching off him, had a victim complex and that's why they were such a meek shell of a person, etc...
And he started cheating on that partner with me, which I, kid-brained, saw as entirely justifiable given the circumstances and imminent breakup...
And he started cheating on that partner with me, which I, kid-brained, saw as entirely justifiable given the circumstances and imminent breakup...
September 15, 2025 at 9:46 PM
...fully bought that this 23yo partner was leeching off him, had a victim complex and that's why they were such a meek shell of a person, etc...
And he started cheating on that partner with me, which I, kid-brained, saw as entirely justifiable given the circumstances and imminent breakup...
And he started cheating on that partner with me, which I, kid-brained, saw as entirely justifiable given the circumstances and imminent breakup...
...as well as his partner at the time, 1 year younger than me. Unrelated, fall 2022 I got my top surgery. In 2023 he began confiding in me that he was very unhappy in his relationship, his partner was treating him terribly. I, of course, failed to see the forest for the trees...
September 15, 2025 at 9:43 PM
...as well as his partner at the time, 1 year younger than me. Unrelated, fall 2022 I got my top surgery. In 2023 he began confiding in me that he was very unhappy in his relationship, his partner was treating him terribly. I, of course, failed to see the forest for the trees...
Was inspired to take the plunge watching the end of my grandma's life play out. Started going to bars and drag shows and meeting dudes off Grindr and being generally unwise. Struck up a friendship with an exceptionally beautiful and seemingly very benign boy 8 years older than me in the drag scene..
September 15, 2025 at 9:39 PM
Was inspired to take the plunge watching the end of my grandma's life play out. Started going to bars and drag shows and meeting dudes off Grindr and being generally unwise. Struck up a friendship with an exceptionally beautiful and seemingly very benign boy 8 years older than me in the drag scene..