3. Practice tiny honesty — express a small truth, calmly, without needing the “perfect” words.
4. Breathe through the reaction — theirs and yours.

Confrontation doesn’t have to be a fight. It can be an act of self-respect.

1. Notice the discomfort early — before it builds into full anger.
2. Name the need — What am I protecting? What do I wish was different?

4. Separate feeling from action — emotions aren’t dangerous, but acting without awareness can be.
5. Release it physically — walk, journal, shake your hands, or cry.

Anger doesn’t make you “the problem.”
It’s a messenger. Shame clouds the message — curiosity makes it clear.

When we guide, not punish, kids learn that anger is safe to feel and safe to express. That’s how we raise adults who can face hard emotions without fear.

• Name the feeling — “I see you’re angry,” validates their experience.
• Explore the “why” — help them find the cause, not just the outburst.
• Offer healthy outlets — drawing, movement, or simply talking it out.
• Show repair — teach how to make amends when anger hurts others.

We never got to work through the feeling, so we learned to hide it, suppress it, or turn it inward.

But healthy anger is important. It’s a signal something’s wrong. It protects boundaries. It points toward change.

Anger isn’t bad. Ignoring it is.

Tut mir das gut? Oder tut es nur kurz weh und lange leer?

Kein Buch, keine Regel, kein Urteil
kann für dich entscheiden.

Aber dein Herz kann es.
Wenn du es lässt.

🩷🦋✨🌼 #Golden