Late-diagnosed AuDHD
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latediagautistic.bsky.social
Late-diagnosed AuDHD
@latediagautistic.bsky.social
A boringly cis-het he/him, recently and belatedly diagnosed autistic with ADHD. Now trying to work out who I am and what comes next.

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(My banner and avatar are the same drawing of a lightbulb, with a face and arms, having a eureka moment.)
Remarkable and remouldable as it is, I'm not sure a human brain has the capacity to accommodate such a fundamental redefinition of itself after so long in another mode. Not quickly, anyway, maybe not fully, and certainly not both.
May 18, 2025 at 5:23 PM
I was offered the #autism workshop as something to help me stay afloat until I could get psychotherapy to fix my sinking boat. So that's all worked out splendidly.
May 13, 2025 at 2:13 PM
I am sorry to hear that. What type of depression do you have? (My depression is non-bipolar.)
March 25, 2025 at 10:09 PM
I feel more able to look after myself by identifying unpleasant noises, smells, lights, etc, and moving away. Before, I would have wondered why I was feeling distressed, sat as quietly still as possible so nobody noticed, and hated myself for feeling bad when no-one else seemed to have a problem.
March 24, 2025 at 8:42 PM
I'm sorry you're having a tough time of it. I recognise those symptoms, but only because I've had some help getting to grips with alexithymia! It is some solace to know that lifelong physical, mental and social problems are real, with a cause, rather than weakness or attention-seeking. But not much.
March 24, 2025 at 8:42 PM
A bit of a shock, yes! I feel lucky and grateful to have found the ND communities over on Mastodon and then also here on Bluesky. I'm not very active on either, but I lurk a bit and learn a lot. All help and advice welcomed and appreciated!
March 24, 2025 at 8:06 PM
Ach. That sounds a bit worrying. Hang on today, by your fingertips if needs be. Try again tomorrow. x
March 21, 2025 at 1:22 PM
But boring answer: Depends.
Had I known a year or two earlier? Not much difference, but I'd be further along now.
10, 20, 30 years earlier? Spared me and others a lot of hurt.
As a kid? I'd be a different person now, and had a wholly different life, so I can't even fathom how to answer the question.
January 6, 2025 at 1:58 PM
I wouldn't have spent decades (unwittingly) trying to cure my autism with anti-depressants/booze.

I hope I would have developed better awareness of how different I am when I mask vs when I don't, and thus could have actively managed the +/- effects of my masked/unmasked behaviour on me and others.
January 6, 2025 at 1:58 PM
I don't know if I invented a new thing. But I fooked up some perfectly good gravy, is what I did. I mean, look at it. It's got ribbons of semi-solid batter in it. (I put it in a tupperware thingy, in hope that when I take it out of the fridge tomorrow it will have magically become Something Good.)
January 4, 2025 at 8:47 PM
Sometimes a service is a pleasure.
December 30, 2024 at 12:04 AM
Oh, that rogue s is going to haunt me. Oh.
December 29, 2024 at 10:12 PM
Thank you! Peace, love and happy times to you and yours. x
December 25, 2024 at 8:57 PM
Thank you!
December 25, 2024 at 3:39 PM
Honestly, why doesn't everyone do this every year? Seems like lots of neurotypicals would enjoy #ChristmasDay better this way.
December 25, 2024 at 3:25 PM