Kinky Kollege, the Chicago BDSM convention has a Huse bench in the dungeon. Just looked it up and the damn price went up by $400 in the last few months. Sigh.

I have the large and small wedge Liberators. Between the two you can get just about any height or combo you want. Usually I use spanking benches at my BF's dungeon or play parties, so just standard one.

However, the Huse and Sons spanking bench is BDSM Goals.

huse.com/products/sex...

Lots of favorites there. Liberator sex pillows and bondage. Verbal command. Spanking bench. Black and Decker Workmate bench (particularly good with those equipped with b**bies). Also have threaded pipes with variety of connectors, and can make a frame with cut up pool noodles for comfort.

I use a modified 4 tier color system. Red for Stop. Yellow for Ease Up. Orange for Keep Going But For God's Sake Find Something Else to Abuse. And Green for Harder! (also known as "Stop being a scaredy cat!".

Actually, yes, you do. 😂

They're not contradictory if you endgame is to get rid of anyone you consider undesireable.

Gotta say, none of that relates to those of us who are ASD. :)

You know, they can be the same thing!

They tend to be accurate, but only at that singular point in time. As you learn more, grow more, and experience more things, it will inevitably change, and sometimes either grow or shrink. Retake it regularly. I've found even after decades in the lifestyle even mine tends to change.

For those who do scenes, this should be true. For those of us who live this 24/7, we aren't equals. Rather, we are complementary, each bring skills and strengths to the relationship that are vastly different, but also equally worthy and creating value between us.

Plenty of play parties/conventions out there where you can vet, negotiate and do a scene with known folks from the lifestyle for either low cost or free. You don't necessarily have to use a professional D-type.