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Just the tip. It’s very sensitive up (or down?) there. Great for edging, teasing, and whatever floats your boat.

Vibration. There are a plethora of vibrating rings available, and there’s also no reason you can’t use your fave Hitachi on their popsicle.

Try Muffing. A term popularized in Mira Bellwether’s seminal zine, Fucking Trans Women (fuckingtranswomen.org), this involves the area where the balls are pushed back from whence they came.

Play With Temperature. Things like a WARM (not hot) garment (pop a soft scarf in the dryer for a couple minutes), a sex toy cooled or heated gently in water, or body-safe candle wax can be pleasurable sensations for your phallic friend.

Get out of your comfort zone. Try switching up the area you focus on. Some neglected spots might be the underside of their disco stick, between their balls, and the space between their balls and anus (can we come up with a better nickname for the perineum than taint?)

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2. Lightly encircle their vaginal opening without going inside
3. Full palm contact can be a fun way to play with pressure
4. Move from the tippy top to the tippy bottom of their vulva, slowly
5. Communicate: ask said vulva owner to show you what they like (2/4)