Ken Blackman
@kenblackman.com
Husband, relationship coach, commitment illuminist, Tana user, doggie parent, beach walker
Folks who don't distinguish between "Red Scare" socialism and "New Deal" socialism 🤷🏻♂️😏
November 7, 2025 at 12:12 AM
Folks who don't distinguish between "Red Scare" socialism and "New Deal" socialism 🤷🏻♂️😏
“Loving Yourself First” Might Be Easier
I found outsourcing my self-worth to be pretty hit and miss.
medium.com
October 13, 2025 at 5:17 PM
If you avoid doing anything hard, eventually easy things will become hard to do.
October 11, 2025 at 5:05 PM
If you avoid doing anything hard, eventually easy things will become hard to do.
Would love to have heard the audio feed into Stephen Miller's earpiece during the 15 seconds of silence
October 9, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Would love to have heard the audio feed into Stephen Miller's earpiece during the 15 seconds of silence
Regular doctor checkups taught me how to lower my heart rate.
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August 30, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Regular doctor checkups taught me how to lower my heart rate.
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kenblackmancoach
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If you experience s€x more at the level of somatic sensation than presentation…
If you relinquish control and let your body's natural response take the lead, rather than trying get it to do what you think it should…
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If you experience s€x more at the level of somatic sensation than presentation…
If you relinquish control and let your body's natural response take the lead, rather than trying get it to do what you think it should…
August 6, 2025 at 11:22 PM
kenblackmancoach
6h
If you experience s€x more at the level of somatic sensation than presentation…
If you relinquish control and let your body's natural response take the lead, rather than trying get it to do what you think it should…
6h
If you experience s€x more at the level of somatic sensation than presentation…
If you relinquish control and let your body's natural response take the lead, rather than trying get it to do what you think it should…
I haven’t taught a bonafide ѕεχ class in five or six years.
And I’ve 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 taught this one. Until now.
It’s about going over the edge together.
Not technique. Not tricks. Just how deeply two people can be connected and in sync... and what becomes possible when they do.
DM me for details.
And I’ve 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 taught this one. Until now.
It’s about going over the edge together.
Not technique. Not tricks. Just how deeply two people can be connected and in sync... and what becomes possible when they do.
DM me for details.
August 4, 2025 at 8:25 PM
I haven’t taught a bonafide ѕεχ class in five or six years.
And I’ve 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 taught this one. Until now.
It’s about going over the edge together.
Not technique. Not tricks. Just how deeply two people can be connected and in sync... and what becomes possible when they do.
DM me for details.
And I’ve 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 taught this one. Until now.
It’s about going over the edge together.
Not technique. Not tricks. Just how deeply two people can be connected and in sync... and what becomes possible when they do.
DM me for details.
Q: "Wait—you became a successful relationship coach when you were single yourself?"
A: Let's just say, spending over a decade as a full-time sex coach will teach you a hellova lot about relationship dynamics. How couples relate in the bedroom interconnects with every facet of the relationship.
A: Let's just say, spending over a decade as a full-time sex coach will teach you a hellova lot about relationship dynamics. How couples relate in the bedroom interconnects with every facet of the relationship.
July 31, 2025 at 4:38 PM
Q: "Wait—you became a successful relationship coach when you were single yourself?"
A: Let's just say, spending over a decade as a full-time sex coach will teach you a hellova lot about relationship dynamics. How couples relate in the bedroom interconnects with every facet of the relationship.
A: Let's just say, spending over a decade as a full-time sex coach will teach you a hellova lot about relationship dynamics. How couples relate in the bedroom interconnects with every facet of the relationship.
There are basically two paths to bringing your vision for your relationship to reality, without compromising:
July 24, 2025 at 8:31 PM
There are basically two paths to bringing your vision for your relationship to reality, without compromising:
I don't think the question is whether your relationship requires you to change or not.
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July 14, 2025 at 5:49 PM
I don't think the question is whether your relationship requires you to change or not.
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Who would take a class on Simultaneous O*?
DM me directly if the answer might be yes or you're curious.
DM me directly if the answer might be yes or you're curious.
July 10, 2025 at 6:53 PM
Who would take a class on Simultaneous O*?
DM me directly if the answer might be yes or you're curious.
DM me directly if the answer might be yes or you're curious.
When I hear the phrase, “I have commitment issues,” I believe that the translation really is “I have decision-making issues.”
- Dr. Scott Sibley, Associate Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at NIU
- Dr. Scott Sibley, Associate Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at NIU
July 8, 2025 at 2:06 PM
When I hear the phrase, “I have commitment issues,” I believe that the translation really is “I have decision-making issues.”
- Dr. Scott Sibley, Associate Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at NIU
- Dr. Scott Sibley, Associate Professor of Human Development and Family Sciences at NIU
The Gottman Institute identified "four horsemen" signaling that a relationship is in trouble: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
So what should you be doing instead?
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So what should you be doing instead?
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July 5, 2025 at 7:15 PM
The Gottman Institute identified "four horsemen" signaling that a relationship is in trouble: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling.
So what should you be doing instead?
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So what should you be doing instead?
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- People tend to feel about me the way I feel about myself.
- There’s no such thing as the “friend zone.”
- Dating and relationships are different skillsets.
- Other men are not a factor in whether a woman likes me.
All this and a LOT more in my latest: medium.com/straight-tal...
- There’s no such thing as the “friend zone.”
- Dating and relationships are different skillsets.
- Other men are not a factor in whether a woman likes me.
All this and a LOT more in my latest: medium.com/straight-tal...
A Short Man’s Take on the 80/20 Rule
I ranked low on (men’s perceived) dating criteria. So what about in real life?
medium.com
June 24, 2025 at 11:28 PM
- People tend to feel about me the way I feel about myself.
- There’s no such thing as the “friend zone.”
- Dating and relationships are different skillsets.
- Other men are not a factor in whether a woman likes me.
All this and a LOT more in my latest: medium.com/straight-tal...
- There’s no such thing as the “friend zone.”
- Dating and relationships are different skillsets.
- Other men are not a factor in whether a woman likes me.
All this and a LOT more in my latest: medium.com/straight-tal...
Entitlement plays out in one of two ways:
1. I am awesome and the rest of you all suck, so I deserve special treatment.
2. I suck and the rest of you all are awesome, so I deserve special treatment.
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1. I am awesome and the rest of you all suck, so I deserve special treatment.
2. I suck and the rest of you all are awesome, so I deserve special treatment.
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June 11, 2025 at 6:57 PM
Entitlement plays out in one of two ways:
1. I am awesome and the rest of you all suck, so I deserve special treatment.
2. I suck and the rest of you all are awesome, so I deserve special treatment.
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1. I am awesome and the rest of you all suck, so I deserve special treatment.
2. I suck and the rest of you all are awesome, so I deserve special treatment.
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The biggest lie in the Mansophere has to be the idea that 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men. I'm five foot ZERO. I've never been wealthy, athletic, charming, or outgoing. Other men have never, ever been the reason I was single and lonely or happily married/in a relationship.
April 6, 2025 at 4:55 PM
The biggest lie in the Mansophere has to be the idea that 80% of women are attracted to 20% of men. I'm five foot ZERO. I've never been wealthy, athletic, charming, or outgoing. Other men have never, ever been the reason I was single and lonely or happily married/in a relationship.
Lovely speaking with Noreen Daley @noreendaleyjam , host of Making It Last podcast. We explore the question:
What's more important in relationships, the checklist, or the connection?
Find it wherever you listen to podcasts, or here on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCND...
What's more important in relationships, the checklist, or the connection?
Find it wherever you listen to podcasts, or here on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCND...
April 5, 2025 at 2:36 AM
Lovely speaking with Noreen Daley @noreendaleyjam , host of Making It Last podcast. We explore the question:
What's more important in relationships, the checklist, or the connection?
Find it wherever you listen to podcasts, or here on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCND...
What's more important in relationships, the checklist, or the connection?
Find it wherever you listen to podcasts, or here on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCND...
Over the last few years I've had a number of conversations with men who argue for a return to traditional gender roles.
Here's how that conversation has been going.
https://kenblackman.medium.com/what-neopatriarchy-would-need-to-address-2af79e014b99?sk=9cfd43492375ecaaf5b1ccdf4f505eb8
Here's how that conversation has been going.
https://kenblackman.medium.com/what-neopatriarchy-would-need-to-address-2af79e014b99?sk=9cfd43492375ecaaf5b1ccdf4f505eb8
What Neopatriarchy Would Need To Address | by Ken Blackman | Mar, 2025 | Medium
Are we going to flat-out deny the reasons we rebelled against traditional gender roles?
kenblackman.medium.com
March 12, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Over the last few years I've had a number of conversations with men who argue for a return to traditional gender roles.
Here's how that conversation has been going.
https://kenblackman.medium.com/what-neopatriarchy-would-need-to-address-2af79e014b99?sk=9cfd43492375ecaaf5b1ccdf4f505eb8
Here's how that conversation has been going.
https://kenblackman.medium.com/what-neopatriarchy-would-need-to-address-2af79e014b99?sk=9cfd43492375ecaaf5b1ccdf4f505eb8
A few things we covered in this podcast:
"There's envious jealousy, there's insecure jealousy, and there's possessive jealousy. Each one has different causes, each one has different solutions."
youtu.be/893pUC6L7NE
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"There's envious jealousy, there's insecure jealousy, and there's possessive jealousy. Each one has different causes, each one has different solutions."
youtu.be/893pUC6L7NE
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Unpacking Jealousy & Pleasure with Ken Blackman
YouTube video by Deborah Kat
youtu.be
March 5, 2025 at 4:48 PM
A few things we covered in this podcast:
"There's envious jealousy, there's insecure jealousy, and there's possessive jealousy. Each one has different causes, each one has different solutions."
youtu.be/893pUC6L7NE
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"There's envious jealousy, there's insecure jealousy, and there's possessive jealousy. Each one has different causes, each one has different solutions."
youtu.be/893pUC6L7NE
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Doechii won Best Rap Album at the Grammys. The only race I cared about last night and I hoped she'd win. Well-deserved.
Then today Tana easily took the top spot on ProductHunt, leaving ChatGPT Deep Research in the dust. Also well-deserved.
Who else uses Tana, or listens to Doechii… or maybe both?
Then today Tana easily took the top spot on ProductHunt, leaving ChatGPT Deep Research in the dust. Also well-deserved.
Who else uses Tana, or listens to Doechii… or maybe both?
February 4, 2025 at 5:12 AM
Doechii won Best Rap Album at the Grammys. The only race I cared about last night and I hoped she'd win. Well-deserved.
Then today Tana easily took the top spot on ProductHunt, leaving ChatGPT Deep Research in the dust. Also well-deserved.
Who else uses Tana, or listens to Doechii… or maybe both?
Then today Tana easily took the top spot on ProductHunt, leaving ChatGPT Deep Research in the dust. Also well-deserved.
Who else uses Tana, or listens to Doechii… or maybe both?
Lovely conversation with an inquisitive couple, genuinely interested in ongoing personal growth, as well as what it means to be in partnership with each other—and also happen to be hosts of an excellent podcast, The Arner Adventures Podcast. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJ6cfNtJEZ0
#160 Better Sex + Relationship Flow With Ken Blackman
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January 23, 2025 at 7:41 PM
Lovely conversation with an inquisitive couple, genuinely interested in ongoing personal growth, as well as what it means to be in partnership with each other—and also happen to be hosts of an excellent podcast, The Arner Adventures Podcast. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJ6cfNtJEZ0
I really appreciate this analysis of Zuck's announcement from the POV of "corporate propaganda" (as different from advertising). Excellent phrase-by-phrase breakdown.
Thoughts?
www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KA6...
Thoughts?
www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KA6...
Analyzing Facebook’s Corporate Video Messaging (Spoiler: It’s U.S. 🇺🇸 propaganda)
YouTube video by Aly: @usa.mom.in.germany
www.youtube.com
January 15, 2025 at 5:51 PM
I really appreciate this analysis of Zuck's announcement from the POV of "corporate propaganda" (as different from advertising). Excellent phrase-by-phrase breakdown.
Thoughts?
www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KA6...
Thoughts?
www.youtube.com/watch?v=7KA6...
BREAKUPS DAY FIVE. What if you break up and things suddenly start feeling better between you? Why does that happen, what does it mean, and what do you do?
https://kenblackman.medium.com/resolution-does-not-mean-staying-together-68cd4497d1a7?sk=513efc6f736958c1f4be871fe6c5a647
https://kenblackman.medium.com/resolution-does-not-mean-staying-together-68cd4497d1a7?sk=513efc6f736958c1f4be871fe6c5a647
Resolution Does Not Mean Staying Together | by Ken Blackman | Dec, 2024 | Medium
What if you break up and things suddenly start feeling better between you? Why does that happen, what does it mean, and what do you do?
kenblackman.medium.com
December 6, 2024 at 8:43 PM
BREAKUPS DAY FIVE. What if you break up and things suddenly start feeling better between you? Why does that happen, what does it mean, and what do you do?
https://kenblackman.medium.com/resolution-does-not-mean-staying-together-68cd4497d1a7?sk=513efc6f736958c1f4be871fe6c5a647
https://kenblackman.medium.com/resolution-does-not-mean-staying-together-68cd4497d1a7?sk=513efc6f736958c1f4be871fe6c5a647
Universal health care vs. private health insurance. The numbers speak for themselves.
December 6, 2024 at 8:24 PM
Universal health care vs. private health insurance. The numbers speak for themselves.