Kelli Dunham
@kellidunham.bsky.social
Nurse. Comedian. Writer. Nonbinary person. Laughter isn't the BEST medicine, because we have antibiotics and vaccines. But it's a great tool!
Yeah I used to say that my partner’s attempts in such cases were truly heroic. It wasn’t reassuring bc she couldn’t do that. But it was very loving!
May 9, 2025 at 2:57 PM
Yeah I used to say that my partner’s attempts in such cases were truly heroic. It wasn’t reassuring bc she couldn’t do that. But it was very loving!
Having been partnered with a lovely caring person who was --in her words-- extremely autistic and watching her screw up her face in an attempt to come up with what she called "a statement of emotional reassurance" I can say: there was pain involved for both folks!
May 9, 2025 at 1:46 PM
Having been partnered with a lovely caring person who was --in her words-- extremely autistic and watching her screw up her face in an attempt to come up with what she called "a statement of emotional reassurance" I can say: there was pain involved for both folks!
There's a flip side too: as a person becoming involved with an ND person, it is my responsibility to consider how their behavior impacts me. EG If a partner legitimately can't emotionally reassure me, but I'm a person who needs emotional reassurance, pretending otherwise helps neither of us.
May 9, 2025 at 1:46 PM
There's a flip side too: as a person becoming involved with an ND person, it is my responsibility to consider how their behavior impacts me. EG If a partner legitimately can't emotionally reassure me, but I'm a person who needs emotional reassurance, pretending otherwise helps neither of us.
Did we just never run into each other? How was your weekend?????
May 1, 2025 at 3:07 PM
Did we just never run into each other? How was your weekend?????
I am! I remember you! Going to qI speed dating?
April 25, 2025 at 6:41 PM
I am! I remember you! Going to qI speed dating?
The last one was the subject of my substack today bit.ly/holyweekwith...
Holy Week, Humiliation, and the Tampon That Did Me In
Good Friday as a nun is a special kind of immersive theater, and the show is always ‘You’re the Worst Person Alive: A Passion Play.’”
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April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
The last one was the subject of my substack today bit.ly/holyweekwith...
The harder you work on hating yourself, the less kindness you can display. What do extreme self hatred and extreme self indulgence have in common? SELF
April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
The harder you work on hating yourself, the less kindness you can display. What do extreme self hatred and extreme self indulgence have in common? SELF
“Offer it up” was the convent version of “get over it.” Don’t do that to people. Let them complain a little. Especially about cramps. Don't do that to yourself. You need to complain a little too.
April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
“Offer it up” was the convent version of “get over it.” Don’t do that to people. Let them complain a little. Especially about cramps. Don't do that to yourself. You need to complain a little too.
You can try to be low-maintenance in a group living situation, but if you attempt to be no-maintenance, it'll just be a mess. Your body has needs. You can't wish them away.
April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
You can try to be low-maintenance in a group living situation, but if you attempt to be no-maintenance, it'll just be a mess. Your body has needs. You can't wish them away.
If your idea of service means making yourself smaller and smaller until you disappear—stop. That’s not service. That’s martyrdom cosplay,
April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
If your idea of service means making yourself smaller and smaller until you disappear—stop. That’s not service. That’s martyrdom cosplay,
Living in tight quarters with people you didn’t choose is excellent training for…every job, every family gathering, and the MTA
April 18, 2025 at 8:09 PM
Living in tight quarters with people you didn’t choose is excellent training for…every job, every family gathering, and the MTA
STUDENT: You know, this is such a nice sandwich but it doesn't seem like a....um....it's very um...I mean. ME: It doesn't seem like a sandwich an adult would eat? STUDENT: Yes. (I nod my head in agreement, --we smile and shrug at each other resume the story conversation). End scene (7/7)
March 4, 2025 at 2:09 PM
STUDENT: You know, this is such a nice sandwich but it doesn't seem like a....um....it's very um...I mean. ME: It doesn't seem like a sandwich an adult would eat? STUDENT: Yes. (I nod my head in agreement, --we smile and shrug at each other resume the story conversation). End scene (7/7)
After a few moments of silent chewing, as peanut butter and marshmallow fluff requires very diligent chewing, we continue the story conversation). (6/7)
March 4, 2025 at 2:09 PM
After a few moments of silent chewing, as peanut butter and marshmallow fluff requires very diligent chewing, we continue the story conversation). (6/7)