It's the men who carry a grudge over some type of disappointment in their life. The orange one gives them a voice to be mad at women and immigrants who might have gotten a job, or have independence and don't need them. Plus he has made racism okay.

I am trying to do the same, but fixed income leaves me with limited funds to spend. That said, I have cut back and will buy only the necessities going forward.

Congrats! You have walked a rather tough stretch of loss, and no matter how strong, it takes a toll. We either gain weight or lose it at those moments and as we heal, we come out far stronger.

I saw Harry twice in concert and had tickets for the third when he tragically died. Even then at a young age, his songs spoke deeply to me. He was good; he was such a weaver of stories and such a good performer.

Oh my, how can she be that old already? I've been following you for far longer than I realized. Hope it was a fabulous birthday!

Every so often I'd manage a win, but certainly not every time.

Mine was 190/110 when they first found I had a problem. I felt fine, would have never known I had a problem. The last time I checked it it was 128/78 with meds and I'm hoping to lower it further.

I had a visit with my brother with whom the relationship has been strained since our father's death. The fracture of family when parents die is truly heartbreaking, but this week we spent time together, laughed, and seemed to find a middle ground. And I am grateful.

I spent New Year's Eve with extended family rather than being alone! And went back out there on New Year's day for brunch. It was hectic and joyous on the eve, and peaceful and full of gratitude the next morning. Life is hard, but good can be found when we look.

It changes over time. Met my late husband in high school and had a desire to be with him because we connected and respected each other. 42 years together, challenges, joys, then his sudden passing. Loved him more as time went by. Still do, almost 5 years since he died. Every stage was different.

Holidays feed the grief train, but if we focus on who and what we still have, it's possible to be happy. We must learn to accept things will always be different, but it can be good. Merry Christmas to you and your family and many wishes for a bright new year!

When I moved into my condo it took me many months before I woke in the morning and realized I wasn't in a hotel.

I'm very allergic to cats, but Lily's personality makes me wish I had one of my own. She is a day brightener!

Me and my late husband, high school, 1978