Katie Casper
@katiecasper.bsky.social
Passions: dogs, video games, storytelling
Currently applying talents @ Animal Rescues / Formerly applied talents @ Valve, Nintendo, Take-Two
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Currently applying talents @ Animal Rescues / Formerly applied talents @ Valve, Nintendo, Take-Two
https://linktr.ee/katiecasper
And now it's time to move forward, with happy memories, with stories that made us laugh, with stories that he'd tell over and over and over again.
Thanks for sticking around. Back to video games, funny stuff, dogs, etc.
Thanks for sticking around. Back to video games, funny stuff, dogs, etc.
November 3, 2025 at 11:18 PM
And now it's time to move forward, with happy memories, with stories that made us laugh, with stories that he'd tell over and over and over again.
Thanks for sticking around. Back to video games, funny stuff, dogs, etc.
Thanks for sticking around. Back to video games, funny stuff, dogs, etc.
Chapter 35 – Eulogy, Epilogue, Ending
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When I think of my dad, I remember his jokes. He printed me full web pages that made him laugh. I loved Dad's stories like the Shithouse Poet from work.
When I think of my dad, I wonder, how can he just be gone?
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When I think of my dad, I remember his jokes. He printed me full web pages that made him laugh. I loved Dad's stories like the Shithouse Poet from work.
When I think of my dad, I wonder, how can he just be gone?
Chapter 35 – Eulogy, Epilogue, Ending
I’ll end with the eulogy I wrote for my dad the night (the morning, really) before his funeral. As my dad liked to say, “Listen to me now or hear me later.” When I think of my dad…
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November 3, 2025 at 7:48 PM
Chapter 35 – Eulogy, Epilogue, Ending
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2021/12/20/c...
When I think of my dad, I remember his jokes. He printed me full web pages that made him laugh. I loved Dad's stories like the Shithouse Poet from work.
When I think of my dad, I wonder, how can he just be gone?
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2021/12/20/c...
When I think of my dad, I remember his jokes. He printed me full web pages that made him laugh. I loved Dad's stories like the Shithouse Poet from work.
When I think of my dad, I wonder, how can he just be gone?
Chapter 34 – How Do I End This? heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2023/01/18/c...
Compound grief is like living a Dark Souls game, trying to retrace your steps & recover what you left behind; but a new, stronger enemy spawns that wasn’t there before.
"Not fair! I just wanna get back to where I was!”
Compound grief is like living a Dark Souls game, trying to retrace your steps & recover what you left behind; but a new, stronger enemy spawns that wasn’t there before.
"Not fair! I just wanna get back to where I was!”
Chapter 34 – How Do I End This?
I started to write this memoir for my dad, but soon after he died, Barb and Albert poisoned my sister against me; and as a dreadful result, I lost contact with my two beloved nieces. A year later, …
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November 3, 2025 at 12:49 AM
Chapter 34 – How Do I End This? heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2023/01/18/c...
Compound grief is like living a Dark Souls game, trying to retrace your steps & recover what you left behind; but a new, stronger enemy spawns that wasn’t there before.
"Not fair! I just wanna get back to where I was!”
Compound grief is like living a Dark Souls game, trying to retrace your steps & recover what you left behind; but a new, stronger enemy spawns that wasn’t there before.
"Not fair! I just wanna get back to where I was!”
Chapter 33 – My Grandma Marie Lou heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2023/01/22/c...
Michelle asked Mom, “Why doesn’t Grandma love me?”
Grandma Marie Lou cared about us, but speaking openly about love and affection never suited her. We didn’t learn about love and family from the Caspers.
Michelle asked Mom, “Why doesn’t Grandma love me?”
Grandma Marie Lou cared about us, but speaking openly about love and affection never suited her. We didn’t learn about love and family from the Caspers.
November 1, 2025 at 6:56 PM
Chapter 33 – My Grandma Marie Lou heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2023/01/22/c...
Michelle asked Mom, “Why doesn’t Grandma love me?”
Grandma Marie Lou cared about us, but speaking openly about love and affection never suited her. We didn’t learn about love and family from the Caspers.
Michelle asked Mom, “Why doesn’t Grandma love me?”
Grandma Marie Lou cared about us, but speaking openly about love and affection never suited her. We didn’t learn about love and family from the Caspers.
Chapter 32 – Eat, Pray, Ugh
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I purchased my home to be close to family and support them. Look what I have to show for it—so many ghosts now.
A friend encourages me to look at the home a different way—the house served its purpose.
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I purchased my home to be close to family and support them. Look what I have to show for it—so many ghosts now.
A friend encourages me to look at the home a different way—the house served its purpose.
Chapter 32 – Eat, Pray, Ugh
I’m still angry about my dad’s death. I’ve accepted Grandma Jo’s death. And now I am depressed about Lucy’s death…the deepest depression I’ve ever had, in fact. I feel I need a complete reboo…
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October 31, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Chapter 32 – Eat, Pray, Ugh
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I purchased my home to be close to family and support them. Look what I have to show for it—so many ghosts now.
A friend encourages me to look at the home a different way—the house served its purpose.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/02/02/c...
I purchased my home to be close to family and support them. Look what I have to show for it—so many ghosts now.
A friend encourages me to look at the home a different way—the house served its purpose.
Chapter 31 – Casper the Ghost
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I’m a wreck the days and weeks and months after Lucy passed away.
I stay at my mom’s home. I wander around like a ghost—howling at random intervals and haunting the halls at random hours of the night.
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I’m a wreck the days and weeks and months after Lucy passed away.
I stay at my mom’s home. I wander around like a ghost—howling at random intervals and haunting the halls at random hours of the night.
Chapter 31 – Casper the Ghost
I’m a wreck the days and weeks and months (pretty much the whole year) after Lucy passed away. At first, I can’t return to my house where Lucy died, so I stay at my mom’s home. I wander around like…
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October 30, 2025 at 4:20 PM
Chapter 31 – Casper the Ghost
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I’m a wreck the days and weeks and months after Lucy passed away.
I stay at my mom’s home. I wander around like a ghost—howling at random intervals and haunting the halls at random hours of the night.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/02/06/c...
I’m a wreck the days and weeks and months after Lucy passed away.
I stay at my mom’s home. I wander around like a ghost—howling at random intervals and haunting the halls at random hours of the night.
Chapter 30 – My Lucy heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/02/13/c...
I read through the paperwork, my hand softly filling in answers like Lucy's weight, age. Yes, I'll pay the private fee.
14 hours ago we enjoyed the summer sun together. Now they wheel her body away.
Don't take her from me too...
I read through the paperwork, my hand softly filling in answers like Lucy's weight, age. Yes, I'll pay the private fee.
14 hours ago we enjoyed the summer sun together. Now they wheel her body away.
Don't take her from me too...
Chapter 30 – My Job and My Lucy
Content Warning: This post contains descriptions some may feel are disturbing. In February 2022, a meeting with the new department vice president and a human resources representative pops up o…
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October 29, 2025 at 5:26 PM
Chapter 30 – My Lucy heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/02/13/c...
I read through the paperwork, my hand softly filling in answers like Lucy's weight, age. Yes, I'll pay the private fee.
14 hours ago we enjoyed the summer sun together. Now they wheel her body away.
Don't take her from me too...
I read through the paperwork, my hand softly filling in answers like Lucy's weight, age. Yes, I'll pay the private fee.
14 hours ago we enjoyed the summer sun together. Now they wheel her body away.
Don't take her from me too...
Chapter 29 – My Grandma Johanna
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“…Katie? Is that you?” Grandma Jo whispers. She responds so quickly it startles me.
“Y-yeah! Hi, Grandma! I love you!” I said. I start tearing up.
“…Is this heaven?” She has a warm smile across her face.
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“…Katie? Is that you?” Grandma Jo whispers. She responds so quickly it startles me.
“Y-yeah! Hi, Grandma! I love you!” I said. I start tearing up.
“…Is this heaven?” She has a warm smile across her face.
Chapter 29 – My Grandma Johanna
After losing Dad, my greatest challenge is getting up in the morning. Is that depression, lack of purpose? I’m not proud to say that the thing that confidently gets me out of bed is my local bakery…
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October 28, 2025 at 4:56 PM
Chapter 29 – My Grandma Johanna
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“…Katie? Is that you?” Grandma Jo whispers. She responds so quickly it startles me.
“Y-yeah! Hi, Grandma! I love you!” I said. I start tearing up.
“…Is this heaven?” She has a warm smile across her face.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/03/19/c...
“…Katie? Is that you?” Grandma Jo whispers. She responds so quickly it startles me.
“Y-yeah! Hi, Grandma! I love you!” I said. I start tearing up.
“…Is this heaven?” She has a warm smile across her face.
Chapter 28 – Death Benefits
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On March 22—in the midst of my dad's dementia, hallucinations, confusion—Barb filled out paperwork changing our family's life insurance policy to solely benefit her.
3 days later, on March 25, Dad suffered a grave accident
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On March 22—in the midst of my dad's dementia, hallucinations, confusion—Barb filled out paperwork changing our family's life insurance policy to solely benefit her.
3 days later, on March 25, Dad suffered a grave accident
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October 27, 2025 at 8:42 PM
Chapter 28 – Death Benefits
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On March 22—in the midst of my dad's dementia, hallucinations, confusion—Barb filled out paperwork changing our family's life insurance policy to solely benefit her.
3 days later, on March 25, Dad suffered a grave accident
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/04/14/c...
On March 22—in the midst of my dad's dementia, hallucinations, confusion—Barb filled out paperwork changing our family's life insurance policy to solely benefit her.
3 days later, on March 25, Dad suffered a grave accident
Chapter 27 – A Lonely, Miserable Death
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"I hope you die a lonely, miserable death, you stupid b***h. You're in denial and you need to move the f**k on. He's dead. Your dad is dead. You live your life, we live ours." The call w my sister's husband ends.
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"I hope you die a lonely, miserable death, you stupid b***h. You're in denial and you need to move the f**k on. He's dead. Your dad is dead. You live your life, we live ours." The call w my sister's husband ends.
Chapter 27 – A Lonely, Miserable Death
The situation with Dad’s stuff is ludicrous. More ludicrous still: my sister sides with Barb throughout all of it. It guts me. One of Dad’s last wishes was for us to stick together; he …
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October 27, 2025 at 1:48 AM
Chapter 27 – A Lonely, Miserable Death
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"I hope you die a lonely, miserable death, you stupid b***h. You're in denial and you need to move the f**k on. He's dead. Your dad is dead. You live your life, we live ours." The call w my sister's husband ends.
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"I hope you die a lonely, miserable death, you stupid b***h. You're in denial and you need to move the f**k on. He's dead. Your dad is dead. You live your life, we live ours." The call w my sister's husband ends.
Chapter 26 – Symbolism in Material Things
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After the funeral, I was blocked from connecting with my dad, not welcome to visit his home and see his things.
Barb minimized the life I had as his child, stretching her control over him even in his death.
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After the funeral, I was blocked from connecting with my dad, not welcome to visit his home and see his things.
Barb minimized the life I had as his child, stretching her control over him even in his death.
Chapter 26 – Symbolism in Material Things
After Dad’s funeral, Barb never willingly contacts me again. While I welcome the no-contact, there are matters to be settled: going through Dad’s things, determining plans for his body and re…
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October 25, 2025 at 5:23 PM
Chapter 26 – Symbolism in Material Things
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After the funeral, I was blocked from connecting with my dad, not welcome to visit his home and see his things.
Barb minimized the life I had as his child, stretching her control over him even in his death.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/05/06/c...
After the funeral, I was blocked from connecting with my dad, not welcome to visit his home and see his things.
Barb minimized the life I had as his child, stretching her control over him even in his death.
Chapter 25 – Celebration of Freedom
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Kids from Barb's side of the family go up to stare and touch Dad. I can't imagine being so nonchalant about a dead body with my kids. But...I'm not a parent, so what do I know? Poke away at my dad's lifeless body.
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Kids from Barb's side of the family go up to stare and touch Dad. I can't imagine being so nonchalant about a dead body with my kids. But...I'm not a parent, so what do I know? Poke away at my dad's lifeless body.
October 24, 2025 at 10:57 PM
Chapter 25 – Celebration of Freedom
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Kids from Barb's side of the family go up to stare and touch Dad. I can't imagine being so nonchalant about a dead body with my kids. But...I'm not a parent, so what do I know? Poke away at my dad's lifeless body.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/05/07/c...
Kids from Barb's side of the family go up to stare and touch Dad. I can't imagine being so nonchalant about a dead body with my kids. But...I'm not a parent, so what do I know? Poke away at my dad's lifeless body.
Chapter 24 – See You Later
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“Katie, don’t go! I need you! Don’t leave me. I need you right now. Don't go!"
“Dad, I’ll be back. Love you!”
I walk through the dark, unfamiliar house. I get in my car. I drive away, unaware those are my dad's last words.
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“Katie, don’t go! I need you! Don’t leave me. I need you right now. Don't go!"
“Dad, I’ll be back. Love you!”
I walk through the dark, unfamiliar house. I get in my car. I drive away, unaware those are my dad's last words.
October 23, 2025 at 6:12 PM
Chapter 24 – See You Later
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“Katie, don’t go! I need you! Don’t leave me. I need you right now. Don't go!"
“Dad, I’ll be back. Love you!”
I walk through the dark, unfamiliar house. I get in my car. I drive away, unaware those are my dad's last words.
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“Katie, don’t go! I need you! Don’t leave me. I need you right now. Don't go!"
“Dad, I’ll be back. Love you!”
I walk through the dark, unfamiliar house. I get in my car. I drive away, unaware those are my dad's last words.
Chapter 23 – “She’s Trying to Kill Me”
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"Oh, very funny," Barb said. "See what he says about me? And I'm here everyday taking care of him." She laughs.
Dad raises his voice. “She’s trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me!"
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"Oh, very funny," Barb said. "See what he says about me? And I'm here everyday taking care of him." She laughs.
Dad raises his voice. “She’s trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me!"
October 22, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Chapter 23 – “She’s Trying to Kill Me”
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"Oh, very funny," Barb said. "See what he says about me? And I'm here everyday taking care of him." She laughs.
Dad raises his voice. “She’s trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me!"
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"Oh, very funny," Barb said. "See what he says about me? And I'm here everyday taking care of him." She laughs.
Dad raises his voice. “She’s trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me! She's trying to kill me!"
Chapter 22 - Falling, Falling, Falling
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Barb sends photos of Dad: sitting in a wheelchair, hanging from the hoyer lift, resting on the couch.
These aren't photos of Dad enjoying life. They're photos of Dad placed in different locations...existing.
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Barb sends photos of Dad: sitting in a wheelchair, hanging from the hoyer lift, resting on the couch.
These aren't photos of Dad enjoying life. They're photos of Dad placed in different locations...existing.
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October 21, 2025 at 5:48 PM
Chapter 22 - Falling, Falling, Falling
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Barb sends photos of Dad: sitting in a wheelchair, hanging from the hoyer lift, resting on the couch.
These aren't photos of Dad enjoying life. They're photos of Dad placed in different locations...existing.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/05/25/cha…
Barb sends photos of Dad: sitting in a wheelchair, hanging from the hoyer lift, resting on the couch.
These aren't photos of Dad enjoying life. They're photos of Dad placed in different locations...existing.
Chapter 21 – Last Summer
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Everyone else continues on like Dad is this burden to plans and celebrations. And here’s me trying to figure out how to split my body in two to take care of my paralyzed dad who made me promise to be with my sick sister.
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Everyone else continues on like Dad is this burden to plans and celebrations. And here’s me trying to figure out how to split my body in two to take care of my paralyzed dad who made me promise to be with my sick sister.
October 20, 2025 at 5:12 PM
Chapter 21 – Last Summer
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Everyone else continues on like Dad is this burden to plans and celebrations. And here’s me trying to figure out how to split my body in two to take care of my paralyzed dad who made me promise to be with my sick sister.
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Everyone else continues on like Dad is this burden to plans and celebrations. And here’s me trying to figure out how to split my body in two to take care of my paralyzed dad who made me promise to be with my sick sister.
Chapter 20 – A Heated Exchange
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"Whether you like it or not," Kurt said, "my mom is privy to more of your dad’s innermost thoughts, feelings, secrets."
Okaaay...I'm not trying to know his deep, dark secrets. I'm trying to keep my dad healthy and safe!
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"Whether you like it or not," Kurt said, "my mom is privy to more of your dad’s innermost thoughts, feelings, secrets."
Okaaay...I'm not trying to know his deep, dark secrets. I'm trying to keep my dad healthy and safe!
Chapter 20 – A Heated Exchange
Barb’s younger son, Kurt, and I never had an amicable relationship. He was physically abusive with me several times under Barb’s supervision when I was a minor, and we generally didn…
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October 19, 2025 at 5:09 PM
Chapter 20 – A Heated Exchange
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"Whether you like it or not," Kurt said, "my mom is privy to more of your dad’s innermost thoughts, feelings, secrets."
Okaaay...I'm not trying to know his deep, dark secrets. I'm trying to keep my dad healthy and safe!
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/06/02/c...
"Whether you like it or not," Kurt said, "my mom is privy to more of your dad’s innermost thoughts, feelings, secrets."
Okaaay...I'm not trying to know his deep, dark secrets. I'm trying to keep my dad healthy and safe!
Chapter 19 – May He Improve
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Home from rehab 11 months early, Dad's needs are overwhelming. He is quadriplegic: unable to sit up, turn over, feed himself, clean his body, scratch an itch, rub his eyes—nearly all basic human functions are impossible.
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Home from rehab 11 months early, Dad's needs are overwhelming. He is quadriplegic: unable to sit up, turn over, feed himself, clean his body, scratch an itch, rub his eyes—nearly all basic human functions are impossible.
October 19, 2025 at 4:36 AM
Chapter 19 – May He Improve
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Home from rehab 11 months early, Dad's needs are overwhelming. He is quadriplegic: unable to sit up, turn over, feed himself, clean his body, scratch an itch, rub his eyes—nearly all basic human functions are impossible.
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Home from rehab 11 months early, Dad's needs are overwhelming. He is quadriplegic: unable to sit up, turn over, feed himself, clean his body, scratch an itch, rub his eyes—nearly all basic human functions are impossible.
Chapter 18 – 35 Days
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"Don’t apologize, Michelle. He's your dad. You have every right to know what’s going on and to stay in touch as much as you need to."
It proves how hard Barb has tried to condition us to yield to her when it comes to our dad.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/06/13/c...
"Don’t apologize, Michelle. He's your dad. You have every right to know what’s going on and to stay in touch as much as you need to."
It proves how hard Barb has tried to condition us to yield to her when it comes to our dad.
October 18, 2025 at 10:36 PM
Chapter 18 – 35 Days
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"Don’t apologize, Michelle. He's your dad. You have every right to know what’s going on and to stay in touch as much as you need to."
It proves how hard Barb has tried to condition us to yield to her when it comes to our dad.
heyitsjustyourdad.wordpress.com/2024/06/13/c...
"Don’t apologize, Michelle. He's your dad. You have every right to know what’s going on and to stay in touch as much as you need to."
It proves how hard Barb has tried to condition us to yield to her when it comes to our dad.