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Justin Lehmiller
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Social psychologist, sexuality researcher, author, pinball wizard. Kinsey Institute Senior Research Fellow. Host of the Sex and Psychology Podcast. Author of the book Tell Me What You Want.
If you grew up afraid of your own sexual feelings, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken.
In this episode, we're diving into life after purity culture. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-448-life-after-purity-culture/
Episode 448: Life After Purity Culture - Sex and Psychology
Purity culture teaches folks to fear sex and feel ashamed of it. So how do you move past it? That's what we're talking about in this episode.
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November 11, 2025 at 3:03 PM
It's that time of year again when the days start getting pretty short. If you've noticed changes in your mood or libido lately, you're not alone. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2025/11/10/how-seasonal-affective-disorder-affects-sexual-desire/
How Seasonal Affective Disorder Affects Sexual Desire - Sex and Psychology
When the days get shorter, people often feel more depressed, and some feel less desire for sex than usual.
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November 10, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Have you ever heard that vibrators will desensitize you? That sex toys are just for women? Or that if you need a toy, something must be wrong with your sex life? It's time to set the record straight. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-447-do-sex-toys-ruin-sex-myth-vs-fact/
Episode 447: Do Sex Toys Ruin Sex? Myth Vs. Fact - Sex and Psychology
Have you ever heard that vibrators will desensitize you? Or that if you need a toy, you must have a problem? Let's set the record straight on sex toys.
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November 9, 2025 at 9:00 PM
Greater spending on engagement rings is related to shorter marital length. Similarly, couples with higher wedding expenses have a greater risk of divorce. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-of-sex/202402/the-bigger-the-bling-the-shorter-the-marriage
Why an Expensive Ring May Predict a Short Marriage
Higher wedding spending is linked to higher risk of divorce.
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November 8, 2025 at 9:00 PM
How many people have ever faked an orgasm before? What are the most common reasons for doing it? And is pretending to orgasm a good or bad idea? astroglide.com/blog/faking-...
Pros & Cons of Faking Orgasms in Relationships | ASTROGLIDE
Both men & women fake orgasms for a variety of positive & negative reasons. Dive in deep with Dr. Justin to understand the possible reasons for faking it.
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November 8, 2025 at 5:47 PM
If your partner is threatened by a vibrator, the issue is not the vibrator. In today's show, we're talking about why sex toys sometimes stoke insecurity in relationships and how to deal with it. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-447-do-sex-toys-ruin-sex-myth-vs-fact/
Episode 447: Do Sex Toys Ruin Sex? Myth Vs. Fact - Sex and Psychology
Have you ever heard that vibrators will desensitize you? Or that if you need a toy, you must have a problem? Let's set the record straight on sex toys.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 8, 2025 at 3:00 AM
If sex toys “ruined” sex, we’d all be in big trouble. Luckily, they don’t. To the contrary, toys can enhance sexual satisfaction and communication. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-447-do-sex-toys-ruin-sex-myth-vs-fact/
Episode 447: Do Sex Toys Ruin Sex? Myth Vs. Fact - Sex and Psychology
Have you ever heard that vibrators will desensitize you? Or that if you need a toy, you must have a problem? Let's set the record straight on sex toys.
www.sexandpsychology.com
November 7, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Does sex still sell? New research finds that being too attractive can actually hurt influencers' social media engagement (particularly for those who work in the health and fitness space) because they're seen as less relatable. www.the-independent.com/life-style/i...
Does sex still sell? New research shows being too attractive can hurt influencers
Gender matters; highly attractive female fitness influencers faced stronger backlash than equally attractive men
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November 6, 2025 at 2:49 PM
The words a woman chooses to call her genitals reveals something about her sexual well-being. Using playful/childish terms in non-sexual contexts is linked to negative outcomes; using vulgar terms during sex is connected to positive sexual experiences. link.springer.com/article/10.1...
Vagina, Pussy, Vulva, Vag: Women's Names for Their Genitals are Differentially Associated with Sexual and Health Outcomes - Sex Roles
Feminist scholars have long emphasized the power of language in shaping women's feelings and behaviors towards their bodies, yet this proposition remains underexplored with regard to women’s genitals....
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November 5, 2025 at 2:54 PM
Online stings to catch sexual predators are on the rise. A growing number are targeting ageplay kink communities, in which adults engage in role play as children. David J. Ley Ph.D.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-who-stray/202511/could-your-kink-be-misunderstood-by-law-enforcement
Could Your Kink Be Misunderstood by Law Enforcement?
Online stings by law enforcement effectively detect potential sexual offenders. However, they may also pose a potential risk to people who engage in fantasy online roleplay.
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November 4, 2025 at 9:15 PM
Sex toys aren’t just products—they’re experiences. In this week’s episode, Spain’s first professional sex toy tester joins me to talk design, desire, and how toys can change your relationship to pleasure. www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast...
Episode 446: What It's Like To Be A Professional Sex Toy Tester - Sex and Psychology
Venus O'Hara has reviewed more than 1,000 sex toys. In this episode, we're talking about what she's learned and how toys can improve our intimate lives.
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November 4, 2025 at 2:34 PM
A larget set of studies (N = 56,892) confirms that men generally exhibited greater gender-specificity than women across self-reported sexual orientation, sexual attraction, and sexual fantasies, as well as indirect measures of sexual attraction. www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10....
Gender-Specificity in Sexual Attraction and Fantasies: Evidence from Self-Report and Indirect Measures
Gender differences in the gender-specificity of physiological and psychological sexual responses have been widely studied. Men’s sexual responses are typically described as gender-specific, with st...
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November 3, 2025 at 2:53 PM
The idea behind “daddy issues” is that straight women and gay men who had troubled relationships with their fathers are going to be more eager to please in bed or more DTF. But is it true? https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-445-freak-in-the-head-freak-in-the-bed/
Episode 445: Freak In The Head, Freak In The Bed? - Sex and Psychology
The internet is full of posts suggesting that mentally and emotionally unstable people make for hotter sex partners. But is that really true?
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November 2, 2025 at 9:00 PM
Trying new things and sharing new experiences (sexual and non-sexual) is one of the keys to keeping passion alive. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myths-of-sex/202311/why-we-crave-sexual-novelty
Why Long-Term Partners Might Need Some Sexual Novelty
How couples can avoid the Coolidge Effect.
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November 1, 2025 at 8:45 PM
Research finds that people with psychopathic characteristics are often rated as more attractive. So what's up with that? That's what we're talking about in today's episode. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-445-freak-in-the-head-freak-in-the-bed/
Episode 445: Freak In The Head, Freak In The Bed? - Sex and Psychology
The internet is full of posts suggesting that mentally and emotionally unstable people make for hotter sex partners. But is that really true?
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November 1, 2025 at 2:00 AM
From the hot/crazy matrix to "daddy issues" memes, the internet is full of content suggesting that mentally and emotionally unstable people make for hotter sex partners. But is it really true?https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-445-freak-in-the-head-freak-in-the-bed/
Episode 445: Freak In The Head, Freak In The Bed? - Sex and Psychology
The internet is full of posts suggesting that mentally and emotionally unstable people make for hotter sex partners. But is that really true?
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October 31, 2025 at 2:04 PM
From trauma to boundaries to gaslighting, "therapy speak" is everywhere online. However, it's causing these terms to lose their meaning and making it harder for us to understand each other. https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-444-what-social-media-gets-wrong-about-relationships/
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The rise of “therapy speak” and how, for better or for worse, it’s reshaping the way we talk about emotions, conflict, and relationships.
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October 31, 2025 at 2:00 AM
Among Gen Z adults, 15% of men and 18% of women consider themselves to be voluntarily celibate. The single most common reason reported for taking a break from sex and dating was to focus on one's self for a while. www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/fa...
They're young, they're single — and they're not having sex: Meet the Gen Z celibates
A third of Gen Z-ers are celibate, according to recent surveys. Not all of them forego sex by choice — but some who are willingly celibate say it's about self-improvement and empowerment.
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October 30, 2025 at 1:56 PM