Apologies, it’s “Drama of the Gifted Child” by Alice Miller. Primer here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/suffer-the-children/201206/the-drama-the-gifted-child

Maté is awesome. He had a great recommendation for a book, “Trauma of the Gifted Child” that I think now has a different title. You might be interested in that, as well.