Jimmy Turner, MD
@jimmyturner.bsky.social
Division Chief of Regional Anesthesia at Wake Forest. Host of Money Meets Medicine Podcast. Author of Determined and The Physician Philosopher’s Guide to Personal Finance. #GoDEACS #medsky
The next time someone does something that doesn’t measure up…
Ask more questions and make less assumptions when things aren’t going well.
Check on them. Make sure they are okay.
People don’t care what you think if they don’t first know you care.
#medsky
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Ask more questions and make less assumptions when things aren’t going well.
Check on them. Make sure they are okay.
People don’t care what you think if they don’t first know you care.
#medsky
[PS details changed for anonymity]
November 20, 2024 at 10:48 AM
The next time someone does something that doesn’t measure up…
Ask more questions and make less assumptions when things aren’t going well.
Check on them. Make sure they are okay.
People don’t care what you think if they don’t first know you care.
#medsky
[PS details changed for anonymity]
Ask more questions and make less assumptions when things aren’t going well.
Check on them. Make sure they are okay.
People don’t care what you think if they don’t first know you care.
#medsky
[PS details changed for anonymity]
When we ask questions first we show that we care, which is important. People don’t listen unless they know we care.
If something is going on, it’s time to practice compassion and offer help.
If nothing is going on, then it’s time for real talk (and still offering help).
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If something is going on, it’s time to practice compassion and offer help.
If nothing is going on, then it’s time for real talk (and still offering help).
5/
November 20, 2024 at 10:48 AM
When we ask questions first we show that we care, which is important. People don’t listen unless they know we care.
If something is going on, it’s time to practice compassion and offer help.
If nothing is going on, then it’s time for real talk (and still offering help).
5/
If something is going on, it’s time to practice compassion and offer help.
If nothing is going on, then it’s time for real talk (and still offering help).
5/
The Doctrine of Charity asks us to assume virtuous intent. To assume the best of others.
When someone says something, what is the best they could have meant (instead of assuming the worst)?
When someone is failing to deliver is there something else going on?
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When someone says something, what is the best they could have meant (instead of assuming the worst)?
When someone is failing to deliver is there something else going on?
4/
November 20, 2024 at 10:48 AM
The Doctrine of Charity asks us to assume virtuous intent. To assume the best of others.
When someone says something, what is the best they could have meant (instead of assuming the worst)?
When someone is failing to deliver is there something else going on?
4/
When someone says something, what is the best they could have meant (instead of assuming the worst)?
When someone is failing to deliver is there something else going on?
4/
When we assume that clinical struggles are caused by a lack of studying, effort, or discipline…
… we are forgetting that the physicians we teach are humans.
With real lives. Real concerns. And real problems.
This is where the Doctrine of Charity proves helpful.
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… we are forgetting that the physicians we teach are humans.
With real lives. Real concerns. And real problems.
This is where the Doctrine of Charity proves helpful.
3/
November 20, 2024 at 10:48 AM
When we assume that clinical struggles are caused by a lack of studying, effort, or discipline…
… we are forgetting that the physicians we teach are humans.
With real lives. Real concerns. And real problems.
This is where the Doctrine of Charity proves helpful.
3/
… we are forgetting that the physicians we teach are humans.
With real lives. Real concerns. And real problems.
This is where the Doctrine of Charity proves helpful.
3/
It turns out this resident had a recent scare from a prior leukemia diagnosis.
They were going back and forth to the cancer center to make appointments when their busy schedule would allow.
It turns out that the clinical problems were stemming from a non-clinical stressor.
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They were going back and forth to the cancer center to make appointments when their busy schedule would allow.
It turns out that the clinical problems were stemming from a non-clinical stressor.
2/
November 20, 2024 at 10:48 AM
It turns out this resident had a recent scare from a prior leukemia diagnosis.
They were going back and forth to the cancer center to make appointments when their busy schedule would allow.
It turns out that the clinical problems were stemming from a non-clinical stressor.
2/
They were going back and forth to the cancer center to make appointments when their busy schedule would allow.
It turns out that the clinical problems were stemming from a non-clinical stressor.
2/
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November 17, 2024 at 12:14 PM
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Stop waiting to “get there” someday. Live the life you want right now.
You worked hard to get to where you are. You deserve to be happy right now.
Stop telling yourself that “Once I…” you’ll be happy.
And make changes until you are happy on the journey you’re already on.
You worked hard to get to where you are. You deserve to be happy right now.
Stop telling yourself that “Once I…” you’ll be happy.
And make changes until you are happy on the journey you’re already on.
November 17, 2024 at 12:11 PM
Stop waiting to “get there” someday. Live the life you want right now.
You worked hard to get to where you are. You deserve to be happy right now.
Stop telling yourself that “Once I…” you’ll be happy.
And make changes until you are happy on the journey you’re already on.
You worked hard to get to where you are. You deserve to be happy right now.
Stop telling yourself that “Once I…” you’ll be happy.
And make changes until you are happy on the journey you’re already on.
So how do we get out of the Arrival Fallacy rat race?
By creating a life where you enjoy the journey & are no longer waiting to “arrive.”
This is where money comes in. The purpose of money is to help us create a life we enjoy living RIGHT NOW
Not at some distant arrival
By creating a life where you enjoy the journey & are no longer waiting to “arrive.”
This is where money comes in. The purpose of money is to help us create a life we enjoy living RIGHT NOW
Not at some distant arrival
November 17, 2024 at 12:11 PM
So how do we get out of the Arrival Fallacy rat race?
By creating a life where you enjoy the journey & are no longer waiting to “arrive.”
This is where money comes in. The purpose of money is to help us create a life we enjoy living RIGHT NOW
Not at some distant arrival
By creating a life where you enjoy the journey & are no longer waiting to “arrive.”
This is where money comes in. The purpose of money is to help us create a life we enjoy living RIGHT NOW
Not at some distant arrival
When the short hit of dopamine from from your next “arrival” doesn’t last long…
That’s when we try to buy our happiness through purchases.
…despite having multiple six figures in debt.
Yet after each car/home/big purchase, you still aren’t happy in the long term.
That’s when we try to buy our happiness through purchases.
…despite having multiple six figures in debt.
Yet after each car/home/big purchase, you still aren’t happy in the long term.
November 17, 2024 at 12:11 PM
When the short hit of dopamine from from your next “arrival” doesn’t last long…
That’s when we try to buy our happiness through purchases.
…despite having multiple six figures in debt.
Yet after each car/home/big purchase, you still aren’t happy in the long term.
That’s when we try to buy our happiness through purchases.
…despite having multiple six figures in debt.
Yet after each car/home/big purchase, you still aren’t happy in the long term.
An arrival fallacy is the idea that once I get “there” I’ll be happy.
It’s called a fallacy for a reason. It isn’t true.
As Gertrude Stein said “There is no ‘there’ there.”
Each time we get “there” there is no long term happiness. So we look for the next arrival.
It’s called a fallacy for a reason. It isn’t true.
As Gertrude Stein said “There is no ‘there’ there.”
Each time we get “there” there is no long term happiness. So we look for the next arrival.
November 17, 2024 at 12:11 PM
An arrival fallacy is the idea that once I get “there” I’ll be happy.
It’s called a fallacy for a reason. It isn’t true.
As Gertrude Stein said “There is no ‘there’ there.”
Each time we get “there” there is no long term happiness. So we look for the next arrival.
It’s called a fallacy for a reason. It isn’t true.
As Gertrude Stein said “There is no ‘there’ there.”
Each time we get “there” there is no long term happiness. So we look for the next arrival.
The arrival fallacy exists in money, too
When people are asked, are you happy with your income?
Regardless of the amount of money they make, studies show that people will say, “If I earned about 15% to 20% more, I would be much happier.”
Doctors feel this way too
When people are asked, are you happy with your income?
Regardless of the amount of money they make, studies show that people will say, “If I earned about 15% to 20% more, I would be much happier.”
Doctors feel this way too
November 17, 2024 at 12:11 PM
The arrival fallacy exists in money, too
When people are asked, are you happy with your income?
Regardless of the amount of money they make, studies show that people will say, “If I earned about 15% to 20% more, I would be much happier.”
Doctors feel this way too
When people are asked, are you happy with your income?
Regardless of the amount of money they make, studies show that people will say, “If I earned about 15% to 20% more, I would be much happier.”
Doctors feel this way too
You are amazing. Thanks so much!
November 17, 2024 at 12:01 PM
You are amazing. Thanks so much!