Jasmine Vine
@jasmine-vine.bsky.social
Trans-forming the world into a more empathetic place! 💖 D&I - Mindset - Voice - Business
Coach & Speaker
🎙️ Host: Trans Boss Podcast
www.javinecoaching.com/links
Coach & Speaker
🎙️ Host: Trans Boss Podcast
www.javinecoaching.com/links
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PS: If you're looking to feminise your voice, I am letting 5 people take a sneak peek behind the scenes in one of our FemVoice Skills Workshops. If you want one of the spots, DM or comment "👀" and my bot will send you the details!
July 16, 2025 at 5:43 AM
Double tap ❤️ and tag someone who needs to see this too!
PS: If you're looking to feminise your voice, I am letting 5 people take a sneak peek behind the scenes in one of our FemVoice Skills Workshops. If you want one of the spots, DM or comment "👀" and my bot will send you the details!
PS: If you're looking to feminise your voice, I am letting 5 people take a sneak peek behind the scenes in one of our FemVoice Skills Workshops. If you want one of the spots, DM or comment "👀" and my bot will send you the details!
Once you make the cost of inaction SUPER clear like this, you can't ignore it.
If you're not going to take action to change your voice, that's fine, but don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're not CHOOSING where that leads to.
If you're not going to take action to change your voice, that's fine, but don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're not CHOOSING where that leads to.
July 16, 2025 at 5:43 AM
Once you make the cost of inaction SUPER clear like this, you can't ignore it.
If you're not going to take action to change your voice, that's fine, but don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're not CHOOSING where that leads to.
If you're not going to take action to change your voice, that's fine, but don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're not CHOOSING where that leads to.
In the call, I suggested that people set an "anti-goal".
E.g. "It is now 2045, I am 47 years old, and I have:
- Successfully been "sir'd" in almost every interaction.
- Successfully stayed lonely because I didn't want to use my voice.
- Successfully regret not putting in the work sooner!"
E.g. "It is now 2045, I am 47 years old, and I have:
- Successfully been "sir'd" in almost every interaction.
- Successfully stayed lonely because I didn't want to use my voice.
- Successfully regret not putting in the work sooner!"
July 16, 2025 at 5:43 AM
In the call, I suggested that people set an "anti-goal".
E.g. "It is now 2045, I am 47 years old, and I have:
- Successfully been "sir'd" in almost every interaction.
- Successfully stayed lonely because I didn't want to use my voice.
- Successfully regret not putting in the work sooner!"
E.g. "It is now 2045, I am 47 years old, and I have:
- Successfully been "sir'd" in almost every interaction.
- Successfully stayed lonely because I didn't want to use my voice.
- Successfully regret not putting in the work sooner!"
Most people think not taking action is "neutral" because it doesn't take conscious effort to do, but that's not true. It's not neutral.
July 16, 2025 at 5:43 AM
Most people think not taking action is "neutral" because it doesn't take conscious effort to do, but that's not true. It's not neutral.
It has a likely outcome, you're just not CONSCIOUSLY choosing it.
July 16, 2025 at 5:43 AM
It has a likely outcome, you're just not CONSCIOUSLY choosing it.
Oh hey! I'd also like to leave meta in general, though I still feel like I can do more good staying on there (for now).
March 5, 2025 at 12:24 AM
Oh hey! I'd also like to leave meta in general, though I still feel like I can do more good staying on there (for now).
Remember Martin Luther King Jnr’s words, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that. Hatred paralyses life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonises it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
Remember Martin Luther King Jnr’s words, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that. Hatred paralyses life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonises it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
Bear in mind, these are long-term strategies that take a considerable amount of time and energy, which quite honestly you 'shouldn’t' have to expend. Keep your own mental and emotional energy in mind, uphold physical boundaries, & remember it’s also totally okay to simply not respond.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
Bear in mind, these are long-term strategies that take a considerable amount of time and energy, which quite honestly you 'shouldn’t' have to expend. Keep your own mental and emotional energy in mind, uphold physical boundaries, & remember it’s also totally okay to simply not respond.
Notice I said "effective ways", not "easy ways". These ways aren't easy, but when you do these things, it will help to regulate the person, and they’ll start to declassify you as a “threat”. I believe approaching in this way should be used wherever possible.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
Notice I said "effective ways", not "easy ways". These ways aren't easy, but when you do these things, it will help to regulate the person, and they’ll start to declassify you as a “threat”. I believe approaching in this way should be used wherever possible.
2 of the most effective ways of counteracting this:
1️⃣ See them for what they are—someone in a stress response who is trying to meet their human needs.
2️⃣ Seek to regulate. This means reflecting feeling and meaning. Get curious, ask questions, and find the actual problem beneath the surface.
1️⃣ See them for what they are—someone in a stress response who is trying to meet their human needs.
2️⃣ Seek to regulate. This means reflecting feeling and meaning. Get curious, ask questions, and find the actual problem beneath the surface.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
2 of the most effective ways of counteracting this:
1️⃣ See them for what they are—someone in a stress response who is trying to meet their human needs.
2️⃣ Seek to regulate. This means reflecting feeling and meaning. Get curious, ask questions, and find the actual problem beneath the surface.
1️⃣ See them for what they are—someone in a stress response who is trying to meet their human needs.
2️⃣ Seek to regulate. This means reflecting feeling and meaning. Get curious, ask questions, and find the actual problem beneath the surface.
7️⃣ Perceived violation of social contracts:
You might hear this referred to as “jealousy”, I believe it’s more like a perceived violation of social contracts. When we feel constrained/stuck within certain expectations (like gender) & we see someone else unstuck, it can feel like disrespect.
You might hear this referred to as “jealousy”, I believe it’s more like a perceived violation of social contracts. When we feel constrained/stuck within certain expectations (like gender) & we see someone else unstuck, it can feel like disrespect.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
7️⃣ Perceived violation of social contracts:
You might hear this referred to as “jealousy”, I believe it’s more like a perceived violation of social contracts. When we feel constrained/stuck within certain expectations (like gender) & we see someone else unstuck, it can feel like disrespect.
You might hear this referred to as “jealousy”, I believe it’s more like a perceived violation of social contracts. When we feel constrained/stuck within certain expectations (like gender) & we see someone else unstuck, it can feel like disrespect.
6️⃣ Human needs clash:
Certainty, significance, & connection are human needs. Some people get them met by holding strong anti-trans beliefs & values (certainty), feeling “better than” others (significance), and connecting with groups of people who share their views (connection).
Certainty, significance, & connection are human needs. Some people get them met by holding strong anti-trans beliefs & values (certainty), feeling “better than” others (significance), and connecting with groups of people who share their views (connection).
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
6️⃣ Human needs clash:
Certainty, significance, & connection are human needs. Some people get them met by holding strong anti-trans beliefs & values (certainty), feeling “better than” others (significance), and connecting with groups of people who share their views (connection).
Certainty, significance, & connection are human needs. Some people get them met by holding strong anti-trans beliefs & values (certainty), feeling “better than” others (significance), and connecting with groups of people who share their views (connection).
5️⃣ Dysregulation clash:
When someone is in a stress response, & your identity caused it, then your identity is going to be viewed as a threat. Something that needs to be fought or run away from. Often people spread hate because their primary stress response is to fight.
When someone is in a stress response, & your identity caused it, then your identity is going to be viewed as a threat. Something that needs to be fought or run away from. Often people spread hate because their primary stress response is to fight.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
5️⃣ Dysregulation clash:
When someone is in a stress response, & your identity caused it, then your identity is going to be viewed as a threat. Something that needs to be fought or run away from. Often people spread hate because their primary stress response is to fight.
When someone is in a stress response, & your identity caused it, then your identity is going to be viewed as a threat. Something that needs to be fought or run away from. Often people spread hate because their primary stress response is to fight.
4️⃣ Threat to identity:
One of the prime directives of the unconscious mind is the stabolisation of our identity. Trans people existing can threaten a person’s sense of identity, causing uncertainty, which can turn into fear and trigger their fight/flight/freeze stress response.
One of the prime directives of the unconscious mind is the stabolisation of our identity. Trans people existing can threaten a person’s sense of identity, causing uncertainty, which can turn into fear and trigger their fight/flight/freeze stress response.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
4️⃣ Threat to identity:
One of the prime directives of the unconscious mind is the stabolisation of our identity. Trans people existing can threaten a person’s sense of identity, causing uncertainty, which can turn into fear and trigger their fight/flight/freeze stress response.
One of the prime directives of the unconscious mind is the stabolisation of our identity. Trans people existing can threaten a person’s sense of identity, causing uncertainty, which can turn into fear and trigger their fight/flight/freeze stress response.
3️⃣ Perceived values/beliefs conflict:
If someone were to believe “trans people are groomers” & they also have a strong value of family, then that person is likely to feel quite motivated to attack the perceived threat to keep their family safe.
If someone were to believe “trans people are groomers” & they also have a strong value of family, then that person is likely to feel quite motivated to attack the perceived threat to keep their family safe.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
3️⃣ Perceived values/beliefs conflict:
If someone were to believe “trans people are groomers” & they also have a strong value of family, then that person is likely to feel quite motivated to attack the perceived threat to keep their family safe.
If someone were to believe “trans people are groomers” & they also have a strong value of family, then that person is likely to feel quite motivated to attack the perceived threat to keep their family safe.
2️⃣ Mis and dis-information:
“Trans people are all groomers!” There’s a lot of harmful rhetoric out there whether it be through plain ignorance, or intentional to further a political agenda. When people are exposed to this with nothing to counteract it, eventually they’ll take on the beliefs.
“Trans people are all groomers!” There’s a lot of harmful rhetoric out there whether it be through plain ignorance, or intentional to further a political agenda. When people are exposed to this with nothing to counteract it, eventually they’ll take on the beliefs.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
2️⃣ Mis and dis-information:
“Trans people are all groomers!” There’s a lot of harmful rhetoric out there whether it be through plain ignorance, or intentional to further a political agenda. When people are exposed to this with nothing to counteract it, eventually they’ll take on the beliefs.
“Trans people are all groomers!” There’s a lot of harmful rhetoric out there whether it be through plain ignorance, or intentional to further a political agenda. When people are exposed to this with nothing to counteract it, eventually they’ll take on the beliefs.
1️⃣ Purposelessness
We have an epidemic of purposelessness today. People are going through the motions, not knowing what to do with their time. Sometimes people fill that time with hate so they can feel something, or even a dull numbness to help them delay confronting their own reality.
We have an epidemic of purposelessness today. People are going through the motions, not knowing what to do with their time. Sometimes people fill that time with hate so they can feel something, or even a dull numbness to help them delay confronting their own reality.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
1️⃣ Purposelessness
We have an epidemic of purposelessness today. People are going through the motions, not knowing what to do with their time. Sometimes people fill that time with hate so they can feel something, or even a dull numbness to help them delay confronting their own reality.
We have an epidemic of purposelessness today. People are going through the motions, not knowing what to do with their time. Sometimes people fill that time with hate so they can feel something, or even a dull numbness to help them delay confronting their own reality.
As someone who’s experienced so much hate, I developed somewhat of a special interest in psychology and understanding why our brains do the things they do. The following are some core understandings I’ve come to through my research.
January 29, 2025 at 12:04 AM
As someone who’s experienced so much hate, I developed somewhat of a special interest in psychology and understanding why our brains do the things they do. The following are some core understandings I’ve come to through my research.