Som vi ikke har allerede hatt den debatten på nasjonal TV flere ganger med Sætre og selv om jeg er irritert at ingen transpersoner var invitert, det er veldig "been there, done that."

Interesting to see that no one has moved on from the 1800s, when they justified gothic fiction in this exact way

There's that, too. You'll nail your defence. Not the same standard or field, but my advisor always told me keep talking and smile.

He also dressed up as Oscar Wilde during his own defence. Untested method.

So I will give you the same advice I'd wish someone had given me: do not be so hard on yourself and you're doing great.

You likely haven't. And even though your PhD is important, it's also not the only project you'll work on in your life.

I was a steady B student through my BA (technically 4 year MA; Scotland is like that) because I was dealing with my parents divorce + dysphoria + mental health. MPhil I got an A.