@in-lawsurvivor.bsky.social
An account to share short stories of red flags I've been subjected to. I'm still rewiring and healing from 16 years of exposure, and it continues still since I have to associate with the father of my kids.
When we first started dating, H told me he was a Master in the local BDSM community. I had no idea what that meant at the time, but accepted it as he described it and was intrigued. Early on, he tried different basic things and I enjoyed it, but he was very unenthusiastic. I never climaxed with him.
November 9, 2025 at 8:35 PM
When we first started dating, H told me he was a Master in the local BDSM community. I had no idea what that meant at the time, but accepted it as he described it and was intrigued. Early on, he tried different basic things and I enjoyed it, but he was very unenthusiastic. I never climaxed with him.
Even when we took 'vacations', they weren't very relaxing. Two of the three 'vacations' taken were to spend time with H's parents and family, which was exceptionally stressful as hard as I tried to relax, and enjoyed myself the best I could. Those two are stories in themselves ...
October 29, 2025 at 3:57 PM
Even when we took 'vacations', they weren't very relaxing. Two of the three 'vacations' taken were to spend time with H's parents and family, which was exceptionally stressful as hard as I tried to relax, and enjoyed myself the best I could. Those two are stories in themselves ...
My ex would eat anything. I am unfortunately a little pickier. Not to an extreme where I only eat 3 things, but I will not 'eat anything'. We would go shopping, and he would buy things that were just for him, because I didn't like them. Which is fine, I never got upset because I would buy things -
October 22, 2025 at 3:42 PM
My ex would eat anything. I am unfortunately a little pickier. Not to an extreme where I only eat 3 things, but I will not 'eat anything'. We would go shopping, and he would buy things that were just for him, because I didn't like them. Which is fine, I never got upset because I would buy things -
When I was about 22, BF and I accidentally got pregnant. I ended up in the hospital at about 8w with a painful miscarriage. BF's mother gave me a pig pillow for my feet, because I'd mentioned years ago I collected pigs. My HS ex called me Miss Piggy (derog), so I tried to turn it around at the time.
October 4, 2025 at 11:41 PM
When I was about 22, BF and I accidentally got pregnant. I ended up in the hospital at about 8w with a painful miscarriage. BF's mother gave me a pig pillow for my feet, because I'd mentioned years ago I collected pigs. My HS ex called me Miss Piggy (derog), so I tried to turn it around at the time.
I had just given birth to my youngest, in the hospital the next afternoon, with MIL and FIL arrived to visit. As they did, MIL took (or made?) a call to her half brother. He and his wife are genuinely nice people who had made some iffy choices in their youth that makes MIL look down on them now.
October 2, 2025 at 4:34 PM
I had just given birth to my youngest, in the hospital the next afternoon, with MIL and FIL arrived to visit. As they did, MIL took (or made?) a call to her half brother. He and his wife are genuinely nice people who had made some iffy choices in their youth that makes MIL look down on them now.
H(usband) and I had recently bought a new house. We had a child under 5 who was prone to minor illnesses, interspersed with not as minor illnesses. We both had a job with a 45+ minute commute (close to each other, but differing schedules so carpooling wasn't an option).
H's car battery died.
H's car battery died.
August 10, 2025 at 12:03 AM
H(usband) and I had recently bought a new house. We had a child under 5 who was prone to minor illnesses, interspersed with not as minor illnesses. We both had a job with a 45+ minute commute (close to each other, but differing schedules so carpooling wasn't an option).
H's car battery died.
H's car battery died.
MIL was into sewing and quilting, but when she dropped pins, she just left them. She and FIL never walked barefoot in the house and I never knew why. They had tiny little foo-foo dogs, but these pins were just left in the carpet. I would discover this when they forced H, 8yo, 6mo and I to move in.
July 30, 2025 at 1:20 AM
MIL was into sewing and quilting, but when she dropped pins, she just left them. She and FIL never walked barefoot in the house and I never knew why. They had tiny little foo-foo dogs, but these pins were just left in the carpet. I would discover this when they forced H, 8yo, 6mo and I to move in.
When my oldest was younger, they went thru a lot of ear infections. They got sick very easily. ILs asked to have 4yo overnight, and we said yes, but reminded them of the ear infections and prone to being sick. We came by to pick up 4 the next morning and were told what they'd done the night before.
July 27, 2025 at 4:48 PM
When my oldest was younger, they went thru a lot of ear infections. They got sick very easily. ILs asked to have 4yo overnight, and we said yes, but reminded them of the ear infections and prone to being sick. We came by to pick up 4 the next morning and were told what they'd done the night before.
When I first met my former in-laws, they were born-again Xtians. I was raised Catholic, but hadn't really attended since my Confirmation. But I enjoyed studying religions, including Christianity, (safe to say I've forgotten more about religion over the years than most people know in the first place)
July 25, 2025 at 3:56 PM
When I first met my former in-laws, they were born-again Xtians. I was raised Catholic, but hadn't really attended since my Confirmation. But I enjoyed studying religions, including Christianity, (safe to say I've forgotten more about religion over the years than most people know in the first place)
My ex had an affair, and after months of gaslighting, I was kicked out of the house without my kids. I was on medical leave from work, no income, limited food, but I had my phone for entertainment. I watched Psych on Netflix for the first time, it was an effective distraction from my life.
July 18, 2025 at 10:47 PM
My ex had an affair, and after months of gaslighting, I was kicked out of the house without my kids. I was on medical leave from work, no income, limited food, but I had my phone for entertainment. I watched Psych on Netflix for the first time, it was an effective distraction from my life.
When my oldest was born, bf at the time didn't say anything to the male OB. But 8y later, when my 2nd child was born, he (now husband) actually asked the female OB about a Daddy stitch with a smile. Not one person in the room laughed or smiled at what he then said was a 'joke'.
July 18, 2025 at 2:58 PM
When my oldest was born, bf at the time didn't say anything to the male OB. But 8y later, when my 2nd child was born, he (now husband) actually asked the female OB about a Daddy stitch with a smile. Not one person in the room laughed or smiled at what he then said was a 'joke'.