Dani
@igobydani.bsky.social
i ramble a lot, i have a lot of animals and think a lot of thoughts.
they/he 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
they/he 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
a story in three parts:
January 31, 2026 at 3:18 AM
a story in three parts:
there should be a term for “the couple that takes the loud music being played so you leave the cabaret as a dance party” 😂
January 18, 2026 at 5:47 AM
there should be a term for “the couple that takes the loud music being played so you leave the cabaret as a dance party” 😂
dear artists:
can you plz stop doing dumb shit and making problematic asses of yourselves so the autistics who have been listening to the same 10 songs for 5 yrs can stop redoing all their habitual playlists.
signed,
an autistic desperately seeking replacements for songs i can no longer listen to
can you plz stop doing dumb shit and making problematic asses of yourselves so the autistics who have been listening to the same 10 songs for 5 yrs can stop redoing all their habitual playlists.
signed,
an autistic desperately seeking replacements for songs i can no longer listen to
January 15, 2026 at 5:52 AM
dear artists:
can you plz stop doing dumb shit and making problematic asses of yourselves so the autistics who have been listening to the same 10 songs for 5 yrs can stop redoing all their habitual playlists.
signed,
an autistic desperately seeking replacements for songs i can no longer listen to
can you plz stop doing dumb shit and making problematic asses of yourselves so the autistics who have been listening to the same 10 songs for 5 yrs can stop redoing all their habitual playlists.
signed,
an autistic desperately seeking replacements for songs i can no longer listen to
they put us through how many years of school, how many years of “the next instructors won’t deal with this” and they never tell us how hard and fucking isolating it is to be an adult.
how did we ever expect adulthood to function for any of us.
anyone else feel like we’re all fucked?
how did we ever expect adulthood to function for any of us.
anyone else feel like we’re all fucked?
January 14, 2026 at 5:40 AM
they put us through how many years of school, how many years of “the next instructors won’t deal with this” and they never tell us how hard and fucking isolating it is to be an adult.
how did we ever expect adulthood to function for any of us.
anyone else feel like we’re all fucked?
how did we ever expect adulthood to function for any of us.
anyone else feel like we’re all fucked?
sometimes my emotions are too big for me to be allowed in public. 💀
November 20, 2025 at 4:57 AM
sometimes my emotions are too big for me to be allowed in public. 💀
every time i agree to do a show, something happens that reminds me why i stopped doing shows. 😂
November 5, 2025 at 4:50 AM
every time i agree to do a show, something happens that reminds me why i stopped doing shows. 😂
the worst thing is this perpetual understanding that i’ll never be “headlines” important. I know I’m loved, but not in the way where anyone actually likes talking about me to others.
I sit on the sidelines & make sure everyone’s happy & as much as I love that everyone’s happy, it fucking sucks.
I sit on the sidelines & make sure everyone’s happy & as much as I love that everyone’s happy, it fucking sucks.
October 27, 2025 at 7:53 AM
the worst thing is this perpetual understanding that i’ll never be “headlines” important. I know I’m loved, but not in the way where anyone actually likes talking about me to others.
I sit on the sidelines & make sure everyone’s happy & as much as I love that everyone’s happy, it fucking sucks.
I sit on the sidelines & make sure everyone’s happy & as much as I love that everyone’s happy, it fucking sucks.
my cell phone bill notification popped up with an added “We’re here for you.”
like, do they know they’re expensive or do they know i’m broke? why are they offering emotional support during money collection? the questions are endless.
like, do they know they’re expensive or do they know i’m broke? why are they offering emotional support during money collection? the questions are endless.
a woman in a pink dress with pearls on her ear
ALT: a woman in a pink dress with pearls on her ear
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October 8, 2025 at 4:34 PM
my cell phone bill notification popped up with an added “We’re here for you.”
like, do they know they’re expensive or do they know i’m broke? why are they offering emotional support during money collection? the questions are endless.
like, do they know they’re expensive or do they know i’m broke? why are they offering emotional support during money collection? the questions are endless.
there are super weird twilight zone moments in life.
like, when it’s 7 am and you haven’t slept, you’re finishing a glass of wine you started at 2 am before having to take your dog to the emergency vet. simultaneously, coffee is brewing and your boyfriend is picking up breakfast pastries.
like, when it’s 7 am and you haven’t slept, you’re finishing a glass of wine you started at 2 am before having to take your dog to the emergency vet. simultaneously, coffee is brewing and your boyfriend is picking up breakfast pastries.
Twilight Zone Nigtmare GIF
ALT: Twilight Zone Nigtmare GIF
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September 23, 2025 at 12:01 PM
there are super weird twilight zone moments in life.
like, when it’s 7 am and you haven’t slept, you’re finishing a glass of wine you started at 2 am before having to take your dog to the emergency vet. simultaneously, coffee is brewing and your boyfriend is picking up breakfast pastries.
like, when it’s 7 am and you haven’t slept, you’re finishing a glass of wine you started at 2 am before having to take your dog to the emergency vet. simultaneously, coffee is brewing and your boyfriend is picking up breakfast pastries.
you never realize how much stimming you do with your facial piercings until you get a new one and get a literally painful reminder that you can’t just endlessly fidget with your nose for a bit 😂
September 22, 2025 at 4:28 AM
you never realize how much stimming you do with your facial piercings until you get a new one and get a literally painful reminder that you can’t just endlessly fidget with your nose for a bit 😂
being trans right now is very much like finally learning to like your skin and then quickly returning to wanting to rip it all off so you can crawl out of it.
September 20, 2025 at 2:31 AM
being trans right now is very much like finally learning to like your skin and then quickly returning to wanting to rip it all off so you can crawl out of it.
Reposted by Dani
Spoiler: you (and I) are both "good enough," and, we can and need to get better.
Not "better" as people, though we can always try; better at self-compassion, listening to ourselves, honoring ourselves, discovering who we are & what we need, & following through for ourselves.
Not "better" as people, though we can always try; better at self-compassion, listening to ourselves, honoring ourselves, discovering who we are & what we need, & following through for ourselves.
September 14, 2025 at 9:56 PM
Spoiler: you (and I) are both "good enough," and, we can and need to get better.
Not "better" as people, though we can always try; better at self-compassion, listening to ourselves, honoring ourselves, discovering who we are & what we need, & following through for ourselves.
Not "better" as people, though we can always try; better at self-compassion, listening to ourselves, honoring ourselves, discovering who we are & what we need, & following through for ourselves.
i apologized while holding the door open for someone at the gas station tonight and it feels more on brand than i would like to admit
a woman from friends is sitting in front of a bookshelf and talking to someone .
ALT: a woman from friends is sitting in front of a bookshelf and talking to someone .
media.tenor.com
September 9, 2025 at 8:35 AM
i apologized while holding the door open for someone at the gas station tonight and it feels more on brand than i would like to admit
ah, the multi-annual question of who is there for the caretaker folx.
a man and a dog are sitting in a room with the words `` nobody home '' written on the bottom .
ALT: a man and a dog are sitting in a room with the words `` nobody home '' written on the bottom .
media.tenor.com
September 2, 2025 at 4:58 AM
ah, the multi-annual question of who is there for the caretaker folx.
in this economy??? vulnerability is too hard.
a dog is standing on a tiled floor next to a dog crate
ALT: a dog is standing on a tiled floor next to a dog crate
media.tenor.com
August 24, 2025 at 7:08 AM
in this economy??? vulnerability is too hard.
that real good “transfer 65 cents to your bank account from your Venmo so you don’t overdraft” feeling
August 20, 2025 at 7:14 PM
that real good “transfer 65 cents to your bank account from your Venmo so you don’t overdraft” feeling
It is ALWAYS a good sign when your lights blink the moment the intro to a movie about possession starts.
👀💀
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August 3, 2025 at 3:32 AM
It is ALWAYS a good sign when your lights blink the moment the intro to a movie about possession starts.
👀💀
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being a “obsessed with checking boxes on to do lists” neurodivergent AND a “do what’s in front of you even if it’s part of an entirely new task” neurodivergent means it’s been 2 hours and i have been working on everything, but cannot check any boxes because 3 different things are now *mostly* done 🙃
August 1, 2025 at 9:07 PM
being a “obsessed with checking boxes on to do lists” neurodivergent AND a “do what’s in front of you even if it’s part of an entirely new task” neurodivergent means it’s been 2 hours and i have been working on everything, but cannot check any boxes because 3 different things are now *mostly* done 🙃
i never have hard remembers i’m dating a drag queen than when he finds something he lost and, when i don’t recognize he has found it, he shakes it violently in front of my face and says “BUT YOU DIDNT ACKNOWLEDGE ME” 😂
July 28, 2025 at 5:01 AM
i never have hard remembers i’m dating a drag queen than when he finds something he lost and, when i don’t recognize he has found it, he shakes it violently in front of my face and says “BUT YOU DIDNT ACKNOWLEDGE ME” 😂
*screams in existential relevance*
The fact that you cannot be 100% entertaining or attractive to 100% of the people around you 100% of the time is not some contemptible personal "failure"-- no matter what your neglect history & "fawn" response is trying to tell you right now as you read this.
July 27, 2025 at 3:31 AM
*screams in existential relevance*
i quit drag as a self-medicating, over-masking forced extrovert.
taking on DJ gigs has put me back in the scene without the mask and i’m super curious as to the toll it’s about to take.
(equally curious to see how my ratio of gigs where I cry vs do not cry will change)
taking on DJ gigs has put me back in the scene without the mask and i’m super curious as to the toll it’s about to take.
(equally curious to see how my ratio of gigs where I cry vs do not cry will change)
July 20, 2025 at 7:37 AM
i quit drag as a self-medicating, over-masking forced extrovert.
taking on DJ gigs has put me back in the scene without the mask and i’m super curious as to the toll it’s about to take.
(equally curious to see how my ratio of gigs where I cry vs do not cry will change)
taking on DJ gigs has put me back in the scene without the mask and i’m super curious as to the toll it’s about to take.
(equally curious to see how my ratio of gigs where I cry vs do not cry will change)
10 or less minute storm that somehow knocked out my wifi and most of my cell signal…so if this reaches The Internet i’m watching a dvd of spice world like a good little prehistoric being
(tried to include a gif of me being dramatic and they wouldn’t load, so imagine some sort of funny image here)
(tried to include a gif of me being dramatic and they wouldn’t load, so imagine some sort of funny image here)
July 18, 2025 at 2:54 AM
10 or less minute storm that somehow knocked out my wifi and most of my cell signal…so if this reaches The Internet i’m watching a dvd of spice world like a good little prehistoric being
(tried to include a gif of me being dramatic and they wouldn’t load, so imagine some sort of funny image here)
(tried to include a gif of me being dramatic and they wouldn’t load, so imagine some sort of funny image here)
being a professional & connected to the community you advocate for in your job is a double edged sword. it sucks when you know all the “right” orgs but you also know all the ugly. & being the one who has to recommend local orgs, it royally sucks finding out when one of them wasn’t what you thought.
July 15, 2025 at 8:32 AM
being a professional & connected to the community you advocate for in your job is a double edged sword. it sucks when you know all the “right” orgs but you also know all the ugly. & being the one who has to recommend local orgs, it royally sucks finding out when one of them wasn’t what you thought.
a major victory for the rigidity of my neurospicy brain -
i took a side job that means i’m up later than my normal bedtime every monday.
it took me a few weeks, but I’ve learned to make the late night my own and actually look forward to it.
WE ADJUST TO CHANGE 👏🏼
i took a side job that means i’m up later than my normal bedtime every monday.
it took me a few weeks, but I’ve learned to make the late night my own and actually look forward to it.
WE ADJUST TO CHANGE 👏🏼
July 15, 2025 at 8:11 AM
a major victory for the rigidity of my neurospicy brain -
i took a side job that means i’m up later than my normal bedtime every monday.
it took me a few weeks, but I’ve learned to make the late night my own and actually look forward to it.
WE ADJUST TO CHANGE 👏🏼
i took a side job that means i’m up later than my normal bedtime every monday.
it took me a few weeks, but I’ve learned to make the late night my own and actually look forward to it.
WE ADJUST TO CHANGE 👏🏼
life with three dogs means crying because one dog decides to show love after days of anxiety and pain and then immediately laughing because another dog jumped off the couch because she was scared of her own flatulence.
(dog #3 is in a chair judging everyone.)
(dog #3 is in a chair judging everyone.)
July 13, 2025 at 6:29 AM
life with three dogs means crying because one dog decides to show love after days of anxiety and pain and then immediately laughing because another dog jumped off the couch because she was scared of her own flatulence.
(dog #3 is in a chair judging everyone.)
(dog #3 is in a chair judging everyone.)