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People have been saying 'just wait until' for years, we pass each arbitrary line in the sand with some protesting and no overall change. Because all these lines are actually points where another group is supposed to jump up and save the day. But everyone is waiting for someone else to do it
February 17, 2025 at 4:41 PM
People have been saying 'just wait until' for years, we pass each arbitrary line in the sand with some protesting and no overall change. Because all these lines are actually points where another group is supposed to jump up and save the day. But everyone is waiting for someone else to do it
If you are not the guy, who is? Other people are not advocating for us on our behalf, and if we're such a small minority then we need all the voices we have. Especially when so few of us have any platform at all
February 17, 2025 at 4:29 PM
If you are not the guy, who is? Other people are not advocating for us on our behalf, and if we're such a small minority then we need all the voices we have. Especially when so few of us have any platform at all
I still don't believe you or anyone choosing to stop talking about trans men is in any way beneficial, you can simply add talking about nonbinary people in without having to sacrifice other important discussions to do it and it gives you the bigger picture to link the conversations and discuss that
February 17, 2025 at 4:27 PM
I still don't believe you or anyone choosing to stop talking about trans men is in any way beneficial, you can simply add talking about nonbinary people in without having to sacrifice other important discussions to do it and it gives you the bigger picture to link the conversations and discuss that
Together instead. If we work as a larger community involving both groups we have a lot more power and visibility than splitting into smaller groups and only advocating for or amplifying the voices of one. Especially when so many of our needs overlap in the first place
February 17, 2025 at 4:11 PM
Together instead. If we work as a larger community involving both groups we have a lot more power and visibility than splitting into smaller groups and only advocating for or amplifying the voices of one. Especially when so many of our needs overlap in the first place
acknowledged. We don't have the luxury of stepping back and being quiet in a space we are rarely heard, and doing so when there's already so much room to bring nonbinary voices and struggles into doesn't help to bring them forward it just takes us back. Let's hold each other's hands and step forward
February 17, 2025 at 4:11 PM
acknowledged. We don't have the luxury of stepping back and being quiet in a space we are rarely heard, and doing so when there's already so much room to bring nonbinary voices and struggles into doesn't help to bring them forward it just takes us back. Let's hold each other's hands and step forward
I don't see how stopping talking about trans men helps meet that goal at all, there's room for multiple voices in this conversation, the center of gravity should be with the community as a whole with a concerted effort to get all voices heard and valued and all struggles spoken about and
February 17, 2025 at 4:11 PM
I don't see how stopping talking about trans men helps meet that goal at all, there's room for multiple voices in this conversation, the center of gravity should be with the community as a whole with a concerted effort to get all voices heard and valued and all struggles spoken about and
Effect us and our close community like trans masc and masculine nonbinary people, or any gender minority who's voice is left out of the larger narrative and who find themselves unwelcome in spaces that should be protecting us or lacking the resources and support to make those spaces for ourselves
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Effect us and our close community like trans masc and masculine nonbinary people, or any gender minority who's voice is left out of the larger narrative and who find themselves unwelcome in spaces that should be protecting us or lacking the resources and support to make those spaces for ourselves
Men in women's issues when we say "and trans men" in conversations about attacks on abortion rights, or conversations about sexual violence and domestic violence victims, any group that includes us we should have the right to have space and a voice in. Especially on topics that disproportionately
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Men in women's issues when we say "and trans men" in conversations about attacks on abortion rights, or conversations about sexual violence and domestic violence victims, any group that includes us we should have the right to have space and a voice in. Especially on topics that disproportionately
Mean it isn't happening. What happened to Sam was shocking and stomach curdling enough to make the news. Most cases never will. But we shouldn't have to be ashamed of the violence we are facing or believe it makes us less man and more woman. We shouldn't have to be quiet and be told we are centering
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Mean it isn't happening. What happened to Sam was shocking and stomach curdling enough to make the news. Most cases never will. But we shouldn't have to be ashamed of the violence we are facing or believe it makes us less man and more woman. We shouldn't have to be quiet and be told we are centering
My therapist is struggling to find groups that I am welcome in, the only one she's found is one group specifically for trans people, every other space designed for fever minorities does not welcome trans men. The lack of awareness for the risks we are facing and the trauma we are exposed to doesn't
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
My therapist is struggling to find groups that I am welcome in, the only one she's found is one group specifically for trans people, every other space designed for fever minorities does not welcome trans men. The lack of awareness for the risks we are facing and the trauma we are exposed to doesn't
To us, and spaces designed to provide safety and support from cis men and intimate violence often include every gender minority expect us (and sometimes masc nonbinary people, amab and AFAB). "Women and nonbinary" "femme gender identities" etc. Even trying to get into supportive recovery spaces
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
To us, and spaces designed to provide safety and support from cis men and intimate violence often include every gender minority expect us (and sometimes masc nonbinary people, amab and AFAB). "Women and nonbinary" "femme gender identities" etc. Even trying to get into supportive recovery spaces
Minority or not at all present. We do not have a collective voice to talk about the unique struggles we face or advocate for the support we need. We do not own our own narrative around our experiences and the reality of our lives. We do not have a wider sense of community, support networks specific
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Minority or not at all present. We do not have a collective voice to talk about the unique struggles we face or advocate for the support we need. We do not own our own narrative around our experiences and the reality of our lives. We do not have a wider sense of community, support networks specific
In person, again without my consent, forcing their conversion fetish onto me. Men who exclusively book me to misgender me, stealth me to try and get me pregnant, want me to dress as a woman for them after years on T to fulfill their fantasies.
In most of my local trans spaces trans men are a tiny
In most of my local trans spaces trans men are a tiny
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
In person, again without my consent, forcing their conversion fetish onto me. Men who exclusively book me to misgender me, stealth me to try and get me pregnant, want me to dress as a woman for them after years on T to fulfill their fantasies.
In most of my local trans spaces trans men are a tiny
In most of my local trans spaces trans men are a tiny
Through sexual abuse, humiliation, violence, forced pregnancy, and the obliviously incredibly power of a man's penis. Like the lesbian conversion obsession on steroids, I have had to deal with countless unsolicited and non consensual tirades from men. As a trans man FSSW I deal with them regularly
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Through sexual abuse, humiliation, violence, forced pregnancy, and the obliviously incredibly power of a man's penis. Like the lesbian conversion obsession on steroids, I have had to deal with countless unsolicited and non consensual tirades from men. As a trans man FSSW I deal with them regularly
Misgendering and sexual violence. There is a specific type of fetishization of trans men that most people do not come face to face with, but as a trans man in sex positive and kink spaces online I have been unable to avoid. The number one thing trans men chasers seem to be after is to 'womanize' us
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Misgendering and sexual violence. There is a specific type of fetishization of trans men that most people do not come face to face with, but as a trans man in sex positive and kink spaces online I have been unable to avoid. The number one thing trans men chasers seem to be after is to 'womanize' us
Vulnerable to the same sexual exploitation and violence that women (cis or trans) are vulnerable to. This is amplified not only by our vulnerability as trans people in a deeply transphobic society, but also by the obsession cis men have with 'converting' trans men or humiliating us through forced
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Vulnerable to the same sexual exploitation and violence that women (cis or trans) are vulnerable to. This is amplified not only by our vulnerability as trans people in a deeply transphobic society, but also by the obsession cis men have with 'converting' trans men or humiliating us through forced
An exclusive privileged club that we were not born into. Trans women and trans femme people are evicted from this privilege as soon as they sense something is 'off', but they are not looking at people they consider women and deciding to offer up privilege and respect to them. So trans men are
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
An exclusive privileged club that we were not born into. Trans women and trans femme people are evicted from this privilege as soon as they sense something is 'off', but they are not looking at people they consider women and deciding to offer up privilege and respect to them. So trans men are
Birth. I'm not trying to define us by that or say we are woman because of it, I'm saying that the average bigot or misogynist is not reading the mind of the people they target and saying "sorry Sir, I had no idea you were actually a man". They think we are born inferior, because to them manhood is
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Birth. I'm not trying to define us by that or say we are woman because of it, I'm saying that the average bigot or misogynist is not reading the mind of the people they target and saying "sorry Sir, I had no idea you were actually a man". They think we are born inferior, because to them manhood is
, it's simply the truth. It comes down to the intersection of our identities as trans people and our overlap in struggles with anyone born female. In the same way we are at risk of losing access to abortion or birth control we are at risk of dehumanisation on account of being assigned female at
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
, it's simply the truth. It comes down to the intersection of our identities as trans people and our overlap in struggles with anyone born female. In the same way we are at risk of losing access to abortion or birth control we are at risk of dehumanisation on account of being assigned female at
I feel that when this topic is discussed it's seen as a woman's issue, and acknowledging the disproportionate impact it has on trans men is uncomfortable and seen as undermining our identities as men. I've even seen people claim it's gender essentialism or TERF rhetoric. It's neither of those things
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
I feel that when this topic is discussed it's seen as a woman's issue, and acknowledging the disproportionate impact it has on trans men is uncomfortable and seen as undermining our identities as men. I've even seen people claim it's gender essentialism or TERF rhetoric. It's neither of those things
Stalking etc than cisgender or transgender women, at rates only comparable to nonbinary people (unfortunately these stats are generalized across all nonbinary identities, but we know gender nonconformance always correlates to higher risk whether it's by choice or from not 'passing' to cis people).
February 17, 2025 at 4:04 PM
Stalking etc than cisgender or transgender women, at rates only comparable to nonbinary people (unfortunately these stats are generalized across all nonbinary identities, but we know gender nonconformance always correlates to higher risk whether it's by choice or from not 'passing' to cis people).
Saying the same thing about trans women, despite trans women being the majority of representation within the trans community and often treated as synonymous with the word trans. Our needs and issues often overlap with other trans masc people as well, we should stand united not rule out one group
February 17, 2025 at 3:17 PM
Saying the same thing about trans women, despite trans women being the majority of representation within the trans community and often treated as synonymous with the word trans. Our needs and issues often overlap with other trans masc people as well, we should stand united not rule out one group