After a while you have to warn them almost like a "parent". It's like living at home with a teenager who is constantly making a mess of the house and helping with the housework in a state of exhaustion...

Even if my mom…

You didn't even think maybe you were being a smart arse, did you? You didn't even take seriously that article I made you read yesterday about men shouting, did you? I can see from that alone that I'm not a dark empath. It's not me.

I'm writhing with ambivalent feelings. It's my fault I hurt him too. Then today he share a post. I'm constantly attacking his “shitty ideas”(his description is that he said shitty is his own ideas.) about feminism that don't work.

At first I was silent and cowered in the corner until the day after my miscarriage when he came screaming at me in the hospital room, pushing a bed at me. The next time he yelled and walked on top of me, I started hitting him and so on. RESULT? OF COURSE I'M GUILTY! He is never guilty ☺️

He would hug and kiss me and pretend that my problems had gone away and the house had picked itself up. And what did this man do when I complained? Easy to guess: he walks up to me shouting. And he bragged about it: I DIDN'T VIOLENCE YOU. Wow.

I complain while tidying up the house, LIKE EVERY WOMAN, LIKE THE NIGHTMARE EVERY MAN MAKES EVERY WOMAN LIVE. Because when I explained my problems in normal language like a human being, he never listened and didn't take it seriously.