This behavior is hereditary. I’ve seen it in her mom, her grandma, her siblings.
But I’m still in love with someone that treats me so cruelly & holds financial dependence and homelessness over me

My job was to be a partner and be supportive.

You made it your mission to tear me down so I could feel bad about myself. It WAS amicable. However you get more joy watching me cry and then laughing about it. Laughing!! Like haha look at my dumb ex being emotional and immature

You bought me a laptop because you wanted to. I was/am thankful. You *gave* me your old car so you can buy you midlife crisis Miata. Then begged me to go in a ride with you

Be a housewife, but don’t have depression. Focus on school, but also don’t react to you talking about developing feelings for someone you said not to worry about. I wasn’t worried and I STILL DO NOT BLAME HER.

I’ve been in that spot with someone who lied about their marriage

I knew when she started hiding her phone and just saying it’s nothing.

Making sure I don’t see what’s being said and making me feel crazy.

We could’ve made polyam work. It’s not you setting boundaries, it’s selfish pubescent behavior.

Whether it’s BPD, NPD or some other issue. This is a fucked situation I did not want to be in.

Laugh about it, act oh so amused that I’m responding to your manipulation. Wanting to be friends and then saying shit to make me cry and feel awful

Break up a 7 year relationship for a crush you’ve never met/seen on camera?

Kick me out of a home, knowing I have nowhere to go. Am financially dependent on you because we HAD communication and set boundaries.

Let me look like I’m crazy. Because I react to what you’re saying and doing at home. Tell them I’m over reacting. Tell ppl you “waited 2 days”

Lies

I’m jealous, I’ve been jealous. At least 4-5 times in 7 years.

I am angry and so hurt. Why did I stay?? It wasn’t perfect but I was in love with someone who promised a future together

Crying and feeling like I didn’t deserve to feel loved. Because I’m CiS and not trans.

Saying shit to me about being friends and then asking if it’s okay to tweet about her gf??? lies on lies on lies.

I AM an asshole. A very angry and vulnerable one. Who was discarded after 7 years, like I was garbage. She didn’t want me to feel like the other person is to blame, but now I feel that I can’t trust anything. Deleted messages, flirtatious chats

Woke up that morning feeling in love and then told all the things wrong with my weight, my mental health issues. Torn apart. I was blindsided

I trust you. You moved on and that’s okay. It didn’t work. However you don’t realize/care the pain you’re putting me through. You’ve admitted you put me in this position and are angry when I lash back in reaction.

You tried to force polyam or quit. Then said you only wanted to date transwomen. You lied to me and obviously we need to talk about this in person

Because you asked me to sell my car, quit my job and be entirely dependent. I trusted you. We were a partnership but you decided to get emotionally involved with someone else you even showed me what you were saying.

I think it’s a moth