it's "Building, Dwelling, Thinking" the Heidegger essay, it's fun, he talks about bridges

there's a Heidegger (lol) essay I really like called something like "Being, Dwelling, Living" and then the classic of the spatial turn is Henri Lefebvre's "The Production of Space" from a Marxist perspective and a ton of people came after him inc Marc Auge's "Non-Places" which I liked

yeah, I think the constant struggle to maintain it is part of why people find it so dynamic, there is this constant (legitimate!!!) fear that it'll die

hahaha oh nooooo, any big dramas? I was witness to a huge blowout in an irl group chat so I got my fix lol

like it could actually transform this rotting city

lol

because it's austere and northern European 😹😹😹

hard to say that this isn't the result of the constant stream of toxicity, puritanism, and eating our own attitude that defines online leftism

I just want to shake this boy like "hating trans people and women will not make your father love you"

ooh I hadn't seen this, but yeah like no wonder your son is craving an ideology that makes him the centre of attention, he's fixing his mother wound!! filling the unfillable hole of parental neglect

and of course if Freud tells us anything it's that this is fundamentally not possible (at least within the family) but I do think we can make childhood neglect a less endemic human experience

10000% I think a world in which every child is loved, cared for, and listened to is a world without extremism

sure!! I don't have a car so if the unit is miles out of the way that might be an issue, otherwise absolutely!!!

hahaha I'm glad my inability to post serves some uses!!

I hear you!! this framing "how to attach when the world detaches" is so evocative.

and yeah a kinder optimism but really here meaning a kinder and more capacious attachment!!