But if you start by removing the weights in small increments and achieving small victories that may seem somewhat insignificant at the time, those small victories can become exponentially larger until you see the greater weight start to move. That's called momentum, and it's hard to stop.

When you sink into a deep state of depression it feels like everything is piled on top of you, and you don't have the strength to break free from that weight, because you feel like you need to lift it all at once.

I've had many sleepless nights over the last three years consumed with a wide variety of thoughts and emotions. Even though I know my marriage was an unhealthy place for me, I continually mourn the loss of our family and beat myself up for not having the mental tools to repair the damage.

No New Years resolutions here. Every day is a chance to begin again.

Whenever I start to get down on myself, I zoomed out and think about how much I've grown this year and how proud the person I was three years ago would be for how for how far I've come.

We've all been wounded by someone. Over time, those wounds can heal, but the scars will always be there.
Fall in love with someone who loves you harder because of those scars, not in spite of them.

The first piece of advice I would give anyone going through a divorce, especially if you have young children, is to get into therapy asap. Having a professional impartial party that you can be completely open & honest with will jumpstart your long healing process.

When my wife asked for a divorce & asked me to leave our home, I was sad & angry with myself. I felt like I'd failed at the most important thing in my life & let down my daughter. I felt lost.
I didn't yet have the tools to fully understand how & why the relationship had deteriorated.

Having to rebuild your life as a single parent after a divorce in your 40's is a daunting task. Every day brings its own special challenges, whether it be financial, emotional, or some random bullshit out of left field. I'm here to share the things I've learned and everything going forward.