Sonya
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Sonya
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I live my life in between whatever Taylor Swift does next. #SeniorSwiftie, #ABBA. Cis, she/her. 🇦🇺 #AuDHD.
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Yes. Yes he can. The kindness is a part of the abuse, not separate from it.

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Can my husband still be abusive if he's really nice most of the time? Feminist Advice
A reader wonders if it's really abuse if he's nice most of the time.
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January 27, 2025 at 7:24 PM
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See also: "Well he's always been really nice to me!"

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'That's never happened to me!' Gaslighting inequality
It doesn't matter if it's never happened to you. It matters that it's happened to somebody.
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January 28, 2025 at 5:15 PM
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Far too many #feminist men are feminist in public only, focusing on what "feminism" can get them from women rather than their moral obligation to not take more than their fair share. zawn.substack.com/p/men-are-yo...
Men: Are you really a feminist? Here's how to tell.
How men can assess their own behavior to become better feminists and disavow patriarchy
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January 30, 2025 at 4:45 PM
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Boys will be whatever society excuses with gender binary misogynist bullshit.

Maybe not as snappy as "boys will be boys" but at least it's true.
March 13, 2025 at 6:31 PM
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Patriarchy insists that, above all else, women must be nice. Because being nice to men—tolerating their abuse, giving them the benefit of the doubt, giving them more of our time and everything else than is fair—makes it easier for them to oppress us.

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Why men dismiss feminists as angry--and what it means about masculinity and misogyny
When men take my work personally, it's a sure sign I'm writing about them--not all men, but this man.
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April 1, 2025 at 5:31 PM