I’ve been feeling more inspired, and taking more risks. I sometimes see men working as sex educators and advocates, but not enough, and not in the way I want in the world. But my view is also limited.

Can my friends connect me with men who speak about sexuality and intimacy with vulnerability?

I’ve learned a new frame for my crushes. Now I ask “What part of me wants them, and what part of me wants to be them?”

This allows me to do the work to create more of what I hunger for in others in myself.

Men, When was the last time you played? Just got silly. Rolled around with your friends. Our homophobia is so ingrained that any form of vulnerable intimacy seems transgressive. Hoping I can find community that can unselfconsciously play with.

Today I’m feeling more alive, less fettered by shame, and more capable than I have in months. Maybe years. And I can’t tell every shifted.

The year is 2035. I meet President AOC in the Oval Office. "You've done well," she says. "By telling men to dress gay, you've lowered the population rate by 90%, thereby reducing carbon emissions." She slides me a manilla envelope. I can now afford a home in a walkable neighborhood

I sometimes use the refrain “I’m not yet ready for the partner I wish to have”

But I’ll never be ready.

If I’m lucky, I’ll be able to share one moment of deep authenticity, and we will joyfully spend our lives seeking that momentary window into each other, and supporting each other the moments

As a man who is working to heal, the hardest part is trying to find communities of joy. I live in a progressive place, so finding communities of pain is easy. I can join a men’s group and find a bunch of people to talk about our trauma. But I want a group of men who want to be silly and eat a meal.

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