i feel like i should get it but it's not coming to me

no that sounds vaguely right. at very least it gave off this air of obnoxiousness. or something like that

This is why I bristle at stuff like femboy becoming some neutral label that people use willy nilly, because like that's an 'identity' that is just 'look at the tranny we get to fuck because we won't let *him* transition and we drip feed him femininity to keep him from running away'