Jiraiya is a prime example of knowing how emotions and bonds work and just not having a singular connection or empathy to women's experience. He would have been a great guy if he wasn't a borderline predator bc he couldn't treat ppl he was attracted to the same way he treated ppl he respected

I once turned makeshift sock full of rocks and random sharp stuff I whacked enemies in the face with into a pacted weapon

Both. But also a secret third option: praying