Needless to say I needed to know we had a house fire right that moment

- more great books to get lost in
- more moments of silence and holy stillness
- more sauna
- more consideration + conversational kindness
- more soft clothing
- more long winding walks
- more consistent stream times
- more lofi
- more ease in my space
- more organization
- more flow

This is by no means an exhaustive list because I’m not perfect by any means. If anyone out there has similarly experienced interpersonal abuse, feel free to add things that work for you to the list 🖤✨🫂

- nervous system de-escalation: practicing techniques to calm and ground myself when I feel the spiral coming

- not keeping up with people who are keeping up with those spaces

- taking mixed signals as a “no” the first time

- learning how to work with my body’s rhythms

- grieving long + hard

- not engaging with people who are determined to paint the people that hurt me in the best light possible (I already overthink enough)

- exercise (when appropriate)

- practicing cultivating a sense of trust in forces outside me (prayer)

- lots of exposure to food, nature, scenes of power

Thank you!