Em
@emthankyou.bsky.social
just another queer with an angry, bleeding heart
#liberationist #yallidarity #literallymad
he/she/they/any/all
#liberationist #yallidarity #literallymad
he/she/they/any/all
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WRONG.
Gender is made the hell up.
Gender is like Hip Hop.
Get in where you fit in.
Some of Yall are assigned Boom Bap at birth, but where you actually fit is with G-Funk.
Gender is made the hell up.
Gender is like Hip Hop.
Get in where you fit in.
Some of Yall are assigned Boom Bap at birth, but where you actually fit is with G-Funk.
October 26, 2025 at 10:20 AM
WRONG.
Gender is made the hell up.
Gender is like Hip Hop.
Get in where you fit in.
Some of Yall are assigned Boom Bap at birth, but where you actually fit is with G-Funk.
Gender is made the hell up.
Gender is like Hip Hop.
Get in where you fit in.
Some of Yall are assigned Boom Bap at birth, but where you actually fit is with G-Funk.
In the moments when I can release my internalized fatphobia, it feels so correct to be fat because yeah, obviously I am expansive, have you met me
June 21, 2025 at 5:55 AM
In the moments when I can release my internalized fatphobia, it feels so correct to be fat because yeah, obviously I am expansive, have you met me
Appalachian queers saved my life, and as much as I am a city queen, I miss the mountains with every breath. I miss the way they held me.
June 21, 2025 at 5:08 AM
Appalachian queers saved my life, and as much as I am a city queen, I miss the mountains with every breath. I miss the way they held me.
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Happy Mother's Day to the best mom I ever had: it's me bitch
May 11, 2025 at 1:01 PM
Happy Mother's Day to the best mom I ever had: it's me bitch
As ze said in the thread, DO NOT TOUCH someone, but you can try to help them ground themselves, to find safety *in their OWN body and reality.* Remind them that we are safe here together in the present, and wait for their body to internalize that at their own pace. Safety demands patience.
My best advice when interacting with someone experiencing a flashback is:
- if you know them well, ask them how they want you to respond IN ADVANCE, as they will be unable to communicate in the moment
- do not take it personally, it isn't about you at all
- help them ride it out
- if you know them well, ask them how they want you to respond IN ADVANCE, as they will be unable to communicate in the moment
- do not take it personally, it isn't about you at all
- help them ride it out
May 9, 2025 at 2:58 PM
As ze said in the thread, DO NOT TOUCH someone, but you can try to help them ground themselves, to find safety *in their OWN body and reality.* Remind them that we are safe here together in the present, and wait for their body to internalize that at their own pace. Safety demands patience.
Trauma therapy taught me that our bodies do know how to metabolize trauma over time (lots of time), usually by repeated exposure to the traumatic memories. A single attempt to snap someone out of trauma is not how the body works! The body needs to feel *internalized* safety above all.
WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT try to get someone experiencing a flashback to "snap out of it".
Do NOT try to "logic" or "reason" them out. PTSD isn't logical, it's experiential.
We will perceive from the perspective of whatever trauma we are reliving at that moment, and it will be taken as an attack.
Do NOT try to "logic" or "reason" them out. PTSD isn't logical, it's experiential.
We will perceive from the perspective of whatever trauma we are reliving at that moment, and it will be taken as an attack.
May 9, 2025 at 2:55 PM
Trauma therapy taught me that our bodies do know how to metabolize trauma over time (lots of time), usually by repeated exposure to the traumatic memories. A single attempt to snap someone out of trauma is not how the body works! The body needs to feel *internalized* safety above all.
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PTSD is comorbid with many other conditions, as it puts enormous strain on the brain and body.
I have fibromyalgia, for instance.
But dealing with PTSD unassisted also is one of the single biggest factors underlying addiction.
Living in a PTSD brain hurts. Drugs numb the pain.
I have fibromyalgia, for instance.
But dealing with PTSD unassisted also is one of the single biggest factors underlying addiction.
Living in a PTSD brain hurts. Drugs numb the pain.
May 7, 2025 at 7:50 PM
PTSD is comorbid with many other conditions, as it puts enormous strain on the brain and body.
I have fibromyalgia, for instance.
But dealing with PTSD unassisted also is one of the single biggest factors underlying addiction.
Living in a PTSD brain hurts. Drugs numb the pain.
I have fibromyalgia, for instance.
But dealing with PTSD unassisted also is one of the single biggest factors underlying addiction.
Living in a PTSD brain hurts. Drugs numb the pain.
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Trauma, especially trauma that produces PTSD symptoms, is neurodivergence.
It changes your brain. It changes the way you perceive of and interact with the world around you.
If you think you're frustrated with someone else's PTSD - shut up, think about their feelings, and don't put that on them.
It changes your brain. It changes the way you perceive of and interact with the world around you.
If you think you're frustrated with someone else's PTSD - shut up, think about their feelings, and don't put that on them.
May 7, 2025 at 7:42 PM
Trauma, especially trauma that produces PTSD symptoms, is neurodivergence.
It changes your brain. It changes the way you perceive of and interact with the world around you.
If you think you're frustrated with someone else's PTSD - shut up, think about their feelings, and don't put that on them.
It changes your brain. It changes the way you perceive of and interact with the world around you.
If you think you're frustrated with someone else's PTSD - shut up, think about their feelings, and don't put that on them.
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technically, CPTSD and PTSD are different clinical diagnostic criteria. this is hotly debated.
my take is this: fuck the DSM and ACAB includes your psychiatrist
my take is this: fuck the DSM and ACAB includes your psychiatrist
May 7, 2025 at 7:40 PM
technically, CPTSD and PTSD are different clinical diagnostic criteria. this is hotly debated.
my take is this: fuck the DSM and ACAB includes your psychiatrist
my take is this: fuck the DSM and ACAB includes your psychiatrist
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People with PTSD are abandoned and neglected, told we are "too difficult" and "asking too much" at every turn in our lives.
I am so tired of no one caring about PTSD unless they are using it as a talking point to drum up support for the death machine, while ignoring everyone who suffers from it.
I am so tired of no one caring about PTSD unless they are using it as a talking point to drum up support for the death machine, while ignoring everyone who suffers from it.
May 7, 2025 at 6:54 PM
People with PTSD are abandoned and neglected, told we are "too difficult" and "asking too much" at every turn in our lives.
I am so tired of no one caring about PTSD unless they are using it as a talking point to drum up support for the death machine, while ignoring everyone who suffers from it.
I am so tired of no one caring about PTSD unless they are using it as a talking point to drum up support for the death machine, while ignoring everyone who suffers from it.
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The last thing I will say here is this -- do NOT involve police when someone is having a flashback. DO NOT DO IT.
People with PTSD are murdered at disproportionate rates by cops in a society where cops are given zero meaningful mental health training and told to shoot first in order to go home.
People with PTSD are murdered at disproportionate rates by cops in a society where cops are given zero meaningful mental health training and told to shoot first in order to go home.
May 7, 2025 at 6:34 PM
The last thing I will say here is this -- do NOT involve police when someone is having a flashback. DO NOT DO IT.
People with PTSD are murdered at disproportionate rates by cops in a society where cops are given zero meaningful mental health training and told to shoot first in order to go home.
People with PTSD are murdered at disproportionate rates by cops in a society where cops are given zero meaningful mental health training and told to shoot first in order to go home.
This is so frustratingly accurate. And then you're stuck in this time warp trying to figure out how you're supposed to get back to the present and how you'll actually know what the present is.
The best metaphor I have yet to find for how PTSD feels, experientially, is from Slaughterhouse Five, by Kurt Vonnegut.
I am, simply, "unstuck in time", as the main character is, yanked to different places on my timeline against my will.
I am, simply, "unstuck in time", as the main character is, yanked to different places on my timeline against my will.
May 9, 2025 at 2:49 PM
This is so frustratingly accurate. And then you're stuck in this time warp trying to figure out how you're supposed to get back to the present and how you'll actually know what the present is.
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Triggers for PTSD are severe.
They feel like you are dying, without exaggeration, because your brain believes you are, on a neurological and chemical and experiential level.
"lol triggered" is an insult beyond imagining and I do not forgive those who mock me and my suffering that way.
They feel like you are dying, without exaggeration, because your brain believes you are, on a neurological and chemical and experiential level.
"lol triggered" is an insult beyond imagining and I do not forgive those who mock me and my suffering that way.
May 7, 2025 at 6:00 PM
Triggers for PTSD are severe.
They feel like you are dying, without exaggeration, because your brain believes you are, on a neurological and chemical and experiential level.
"lol triggered" is an insult beyond imagining and I do not forgive those who mock me and my suffering that way.
They feel like you are dying, without exaggeration, because your brain believes you are, on a neurological and chemical and experiential level.
"lol triggered" is an insult beyond imagining and I do not forgive those who mock me and my suffering that way.
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Those with PTSD are quick to anger. It is a defensive response.
When you feel, physically and mentally, like you are in mortal danger at all times, it is so difficult to restrain the impulse to defend yourself from perceived threats.
When you feel, physically and mentally, like you are in mortal danger at all times, it is so difficult to restrain the impulse to defend yourself from perceived threats.
May 7, 2025 at 5:57 PM
Those with PTSD are quick to anger. It is a defensive response.
When you feel, physically and mentally, like you are in mortal danger at all times, it is so difficult to restrain the impulse to defend yourself from perceived threats.
When you feel, physically and mentally, like you are in mortal danger at all times, it is so difficult to restrain the impulse to defend yourself from perceived threats.
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My brain truly and legitimately believes that I am in physical danger most of the time.
On a chemical level, I have flooded my system with adrenaline and cortisol for over a decade.
It is dehabilitating.
On a chemical level, I have flooded my system with adrenaline and cortisol for over a decade.
It is dehabilitating.
May 7, 2025 at 5:56 PM
My brain truly and legitimately believes that I am in physical danger most of the time.
On a chemical level, I have flooded my system with adrenaline and cortisol for over a decade.
It is dehabilitating.
On a chemical level, I have flooded my system with adrenaline and cortisol for over a decade.
It is dehabilitating.
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Those with PTSD seem jumpy, flighty, distracted, paranoid, etc
That is because our brains rarely, if ever, flip out of "fight or flight" mode.
So instead we do our best in this world not to panic.
That is because our brains rarely, if ever, flip out of "fight or flight" mode.
So instead we do our best in this world not to panic.
May 7, 2025 at 5:55 PM
Those with PTSD seem jumpy, flighty, distracted, paranoid, etc
That is because our brains rarely, if ever, flip out of "fight or flight" mode.
So instead we do our best in this world not to panic.
That is because our brains rarely, if ever, flip out of "fight or flight" mode.
So instead we do our best in this world not to panic.
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The war in Gaza has killed or injured 170,000.
Children are starving to death.
Trump is encouraging the ethnic cleansing of 2.2 million people.
Why is there no discussion in the US government about why we are spending billions of taxpayer dollars starving children in Gaza?
Children are starving to death.
Trump is encouraging the ethnic cleansing of 2.2 million people.
Why is there no discussion in the US government about why we are spending billions of taxpayer dollars starving children in Gaza?
May 9, 2025 at 1:01 PM
The war in Gaza has killed or injured 170,000.
Children are starving to death.
Trump is encouraging the ethnic cleansing of 2.2 million people.
Why is there no discussion in the US government about why we are spending billions of taxpayer dollars starving children in Gaza?
Children are starving to death.
Trump is encouraging the ethnic cleansing of 2.2 million people.
Why is there no discussion in the US government about why we are spending billions of taxpayer dollars starving children in Gaza?
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Hey, so when your home country spends centuries changing laws so it can hurt marginalized people, saying “the government can’t do that, it’s illegal” doesn’t have the teeth you think it does.
American exceptionalism will die a hard death, but still a faster one than racism, and that’s the problem.
American exceptionalism will die a hard death, but still a faster one than racism, and that’s the problem.
May 7, 2025 at 1:39 AM
Hey, so when your home country spends centuries changing laws so it can hurt marginalized people, saying “the government can’t do that, it’s illegal” doesn’t have the teeth you think it does.
American exceptionalism will die a hard death, but still a faster one than racism, and that’s the problem.
American exceptionalism will die a hard death, but still a faster one than racism, and that’s the problem.
I can't wait to be old, like grandparent age. Let me be old and retired and loving on my grandchildren and telling stories of the past and of the future. Settled.
April 17, 2025 at 3:22 AM
I can't wait to be old, like grandparent age. Let me be old and retired and loving on my grandchildren and telling stories of the past and of the future. Settled.
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My name is Emilee and I am lovable goddamnit
April 9, 2025 at 1:17 AM
My name is Emilee and I am lovable goddamnit
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Revolution is intentional. It considers the cost and a need for a better thing and not just destroying the bad thing.
These are things you consider when your mindset is about the collective. Molotov cocktails do not a revolution make. It’s conversation, mutual aid, AND protest.
These are things you consider when your mindset is about the collective. Molotov cocktails do not a revolution make. It’s conversation, mutual aid, AND protest.
April 8, 2025 at 11:26 PM
Revolution is intentional. It considers the cost and a need for a better thing and not just destroying the bad thing.
These are things you consider when your mindset is about the collective. Molotov cocktails do not a revolution make. It’s conversation, mutual aid, AND protest.
These are things you consider when your mindset is about the collective. Molotov cocktails do not a revolution make. It’s conversation, mutual aid, AND protest.
My name is Emilee and I am lovable goddamnit
April 9, 2025 at 1:17 AM
My name is Emilee and I am lovable goddamnit
Thank earth it's springtime because I really need to feel my soul opening up just like the buds of the flowers. Dearest Sun, please come to us gentle and warm.
April 6, 2025 at 2:56 AM
Thank earth it's springtime because I really need to feel my soul opening up just like the buds of the flowers. Dearest Sun, please come to us gentle and warm.
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I worry that people are only gonna protest until they get what they need, then go back to sleep. But I’d rather them be in a place where we can show them why sustained resistance matters than rebuff them because we’re tired, even if rightly so.
Sometimes, you gotta pick your battles. This is one.
Sometimes, you gotta pick your battles. This is one.
April 5, 2025 at 7:56 PM
I worry that people are only gonna protest until they get what they need, then go back to sleep. But I’d rather them be in a place where we can show them why sustained resistance matters than rebuff them because we’re tired, even if rightly so.
Sometimes, you gotta pick your battles. This is one.
Sometimes, you gotta pick your battles. This is one.